martinio Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Hallo everybody new hear need advice That's the story (at least part of it) We are co-workers and we were flirting for several months We have relationships both At first she started that and I was pretty sure that she is even in love. I mean i was seeing it in her eyes I think I still do. She was naming me sugar, beloved, dear and the like and so did I. I knew she's playing me just for the sport of it, but then started to happen things a bit beyond that I will mention some of them For instance we have LAN chat in the office (we aren't in the same room) and we use to chat a lot in the sugar, beloved, dear way constantly for 4 or 5 months. Suddenly she sent to me a heart(emoticon) and when I let it go without any response she repeated and I asked her if she were laughing when she wrote such things she wrote no I'm serious and can't go on in that way I will brake off with my boyfriend And asked what i think about that i said that in the given circumstances I don't know what to think(I mean I have girlfriend) Other case was when we were having conversation about sex she told that I'm very brave on words and so on. But when it went to serious conversation and she asked me to be sincere I said that I can't decide to brake my relationship off before I have at least sex with her (in order to decide what to do) she told that she is not want this and we are just friends What do you think about it Link to post Share on other sites
Jutty Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 hey, its sounds like like you each. happy must you be. It better feel me make when mine friend called me honey, sweetie and dear. careful not in trouble be if you both are together chatting at work online. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 well she sounds kinda psycho to me. do you only chat LAN? can't people from your work read all that stuff anyways if they wanted? i would leave her alone for awhile, NC then start off again as friends, if you want to be her friend..... although it sounds as if she has alternative motives. Link to post Share on other sites
Author martinio Posted December 30, 2004 Author Share Posted December 30, 2004 do you only chat LAN? No we are together most of the time in office and often going to launch can't people from your work read all that stuff anyways if they wanted? No they can't because we've always erased the history Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted January 3, 2005 Share Posted January 3, 2005 Meh, if it's a work LAN then everything probably goes through a central server and gets reviewed or read. If this has been going on for 5 months then I don't it's against an policy, but the IT guy is probably having a field day. That or the IT guy is lazy and doesn't check the logs. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Office romances are like that. you work and talk to each other way more than you do to your signifigant other. The only thing is, you have all the romance and non of the problems, because when 5 pm comes around(my work end ) you both go home and dont have to see each other again. Its a case of the grass is greener on the other side. I think you should keep your girlfriend if you like her. This girl is looking for a rebound or something. Anyways, its not healthy, and dating a co-worker is a disaster waiting to happen. OK you know what think of it this way. Do you want to date a girl that basically cheated on her boyfriend and dumped him for anouther guy. You could be next on her cheat and dump list with standard worked #14 in the cubical beside you. Dont let her F your nice life up. Keep it civil. Flirt a bit if you want. Dont let it go past that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author martinio Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 Thanks SuperFantastico I have an update of situation After 2-3 weeks of bad terms with my co-worker we went to a night club with other colleagues she told me that she had broken her ralatonshiop up and had lied to me about her feelings because - Someone has to be wise we haven't future together and asked me whether sex would change something because in this situation she wouldn't been relaxed and it wouldn't been as it should be I responded that most likely not but I' m not pretty sure what I want Yesterday we were to the gym (in the office after work) it was fun today we got embroiled with her about coffee timing I don't know what to do Link to post Share on other sites
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