LaceyFace Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 I can't take these hi's and low's he has.....it's so emotionally draining. One minute I'm everything he wants forever, the next I'm just a friend. My heart is being pulled in all directions Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 Does that mean you're ready to end the roller coaster ride? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaceyFace Posted November 25, 2013 Author Share Posted November 25, 2013 Does that mean you're ready to end the roller coaster ride? Some days that answer would be a yes. Most days no. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 Some days that answer would be a yes. Most days no. How long can you take this roller coaster ride? Is what you're feeling much of the time worth the good times you have with him? Long lasting love that is healthy and makes you a better person is not supposed to make you feel awful a lot of the time. Can you picture yourself in this situation a year or 2 from now? Think about making a plan...A plan to detach and day by day distance yourself from, rely on him less, put you first and stop making him a high priority. Or, accept that it's only an affair, stop seeing it as a real relationship, and just enjoy it for however long it lasts. Link to post Share on other sites
imfine Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 "One minute I'm everything he wants forever, the next I'm just a friend. My heart is being pulled in all directions." Forever doesn't seem to mean much to him, or it would last longer than a minute. Affair or not, do you really want a man that doesn't know if he wants you? Link to post Share on other sites
GettingOver Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 Read my today's "Anger" thread... exactly the same thing. Nearing 3 years in the A. Two break ups. The first year was very good, now I feel like a yo-yo toy from time to time... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LaceyFace Posted November 25, 2013 Author Share Posted November 25, 2013 Read my today's "Anger" thread... exactly the same thing. Nearing 3 years in the A. Two break ups. The first year was very good, now I feel like a yo-yo toy from time to time... It's been alittle over 2 years for me. I agree the first year was great. Now he says "I've changed" how could I not after dealing with an A. BS has moved out of state about 6 months ago. She was debating it and he says he pushed her so it would be easier to be with me. Now it's these hi's and low's. It's ridiculous. He wants to be with me, he doesn't. He loves me, he wants us but a few things make him unsure. I know moving on would be the best thing. But I feel that BS did a number on him. (She messed with his emotions way too much) so I feel he doesn't know how to open up and view a woman the really loves him in the right way. Link to post Share on other sites
Mcle Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 Yes it is definitely his BS's fault that her husband, your affair partner won't open up to you. It sounds more like now that he has the time for you, since she has moved away, he wants to keep you at a distance so you do not get the wrong idea. Link to post Share on other sites
GettingOver Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 It's been alittle over 2 years for me. I agree the first year was great. Now he says "I've changed" how could I not after dealing with an A. BS has moved out of state about 6 months ago. She was debating it and he says he pushed her so it would be easier to be with me. Now it's these hi's and low's. It's ridiculous. He wants to be with me, he doesn't. He loves me, he wants us but a few things make him unsure. I know moving on would be the best thing. But I feel that BS did a number on him. (She messed with his emotions way too much) so I feel he doesn't know how to open up and view a woman the really loves him in the right way. Well, according to my MM the situation for him is not a paradise either. And I can even believe in that. Yours at least admits that he's changed and gives a reason. Mine makes a stupid face as if he really was THAT stupid, and tells how overwhelmed he is with everything. Maybe he is really just stupid?.. The thing is - you cannot play a person like a yo-yo toy in any case... Did you tell him that suck kind of behavior hurts you??? Link to post Share on other sites
GettingOver Posted November 25, 2013 Share Posted November 25, 2013 It's been alittle over 2 years for me. I agree the first year was great. Now he says "I've changed" how could I not after dealing with an A. Btw, I have not changed. I am the same me and expecting the same him. The thing is that perhaps during that first year it was not real him as it was a deeply-in-love stage, text all the time, calls, vacations (we were LD), words of love,etc. He made me feel the most beautiful woman in the world, and definitely the most loved woman in the world. Now he makes me feel needy and abandoned. And I worth more! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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