kim_mc Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 To all of you MM, When you cheat on your wife, is it because you are truly unhappy and unsatisfied in your marriage? Or are you simply looking for a piece of a** on the side. I am asking because I am with a MM who says he has issues within his marriage. She's controling, bossy, not attracted to anymore, dissimilar interests etc. He is/was looking for someone to fill a void. I do believe him, but will always wonder if he could be telling me what I want to hear. I am also married and not so happily , which is the reason why I am cheating. If my hubby and I were in complete bliss, I could never start an emotional affa on the side. I think for men it is much easier to have that complete happiness in their marriage, and also want more. Am I wrong? Please MM respond. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Originally posted by kim_mc I am asking because I am with a MM who says he has issues within his marriage. She's controling, bossy, not attracted to anymore, dissimilar interests etc. He is/was looking for someone to fill a void. I do believe him, but will always wonder if he could be telling me what I want to hear. Almost all MM say their wife is wicked witch of the west. What is he gonna say to the woman he's screwing around with: "Oh..yeah, my wife is the best in the world and we have such a great marriage that is why I am about to put my kock into one of your orifices." Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 I think 95% of the time MM are just selfish a**holes that just want to f*ck something new Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Almost all MM say their wife is wicked witch of the west. What is he gonna say to the woman he's screwing around with: "Oh..yeah, my wife is the best in the world and we have such a great marriage that is why I am about to put my kock into one of your orifices." OH baby, you're on a roll today! LMFAO!!! I am about to put my kock into one of your orifices Link to post Share on other sites
Author kim_mc Posted December 29, 2004 Author Share Posted December 29, 2004 He tells me she is a good woman. They are a wonderful 'team' when it comes to certain aspects of their marriage: finances, raising their children. He very rarely puts her down if at all. So that is why I do believe him when he says he is unhappy. Link to post Share on other sites
Leaf Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Blech... They are selfish.. they want something new.. Mine tells me there is nothing wrong with his relationship with her thats why its so hard to leave. Whatever.. Naive is right.. they are selfish a**h***s. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 In my opinion, a MM or MW who cheats on their spouse is either one of (or all of) the following: - Spineless - if you are unhappy, get out - Liar - Definitely to their spouse and almost definitely to their OM/OW - Horny and looking for a piece of as& on the side - Commitment-idiot - can make a commitment but can't keep it - Selfish - well, if I WANT it, I should get it - Afraid - If I want to get out, I should have someplace and someone to go to - Lack self-control - Cheating doesn't just happen - Fake - pretending to be someone they aren't. Anybody who would want someone who is one of (or all of) the following, is really getting the raw end of the deal. Link to post Share on other sites
cheatersrsad Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Excellent post Debster Link to post Share on other sites
kkat Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 In my opinion, a MM or MW who cheats on their spouse is either one of (or all of) the following: - Spineless - if you are unhappy, get out - Liar - Definitely to their spouse and almost definitely to their OM/OW - Afraid - If I want to get out, I should have someplace and someone to go to Debster, excellent post. Those three above from your post describe my ex-MM perfectly. He has a wife at home who thinks he's being faithful to her, and while she isn't perfect, cetainly is a good person and frankly, appears to have far less faults than I do! And he had me, a wonderful woman in my own right who believed he wanted to be with me and loved him enough to endure awful pain and waiting for that fine day to happen. Thank goodness it never came! He? Spineless - too afraid of facing the judgement of his friends, children, and family members and petrified - I mean absolutely terrified - of the financial impact. Liar - obviously lying to everyone involved, including himself most of the time. Afraid - are you ready for this? Told me that one of the reasons he didn't move forward with the divorce was because he didn't think I would ultimately stay with him, then he'd be alone! Boo stinking hoo. Thanks for reminding me, Debster, why I am better off! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Originally posted by kkat Debster, excellent post. Those three above from your post describe my ex-MM perfectly. He has a wife at home who thinks he's being faithful to her, and while she isn't perfect, cetainly is a good person and frankly, appears to have far less faults than I do! And he had me, a wonderful woman in my own right who believed he wanted to be with me and loved him enough to endure awful pain and waiting for that fine day to happen. Thank goodness it never came! Women who get involved with MM need to look at themselves also here. You got into a relationship with a man and may have ruined an entire family. You are no better than he is cause it takes 2 to tango. Women always complain about the MM they are f***king and how they treat they like shyt. These women deserved what they get. If the women banded together and decided not to steal another woman's man this would not happen. Link to post Share on other sites
GirlDown Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Originally posted by alphamale Women who get involved with MM need to look at themselves also here. You got into a relationship with a man and may have ruined an entire family. You are no better than he is cause it takes 2 to tango. Women always complain about the MM they are f***king and how they treat they like shyt. These women deserved what they get. If the women banded together and decided not to steal another woman's man this would not happen. yeah, what he said. Link to post Share on other sites
izzybelle Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 debster, you're definitely right on target. i think my exMM fits into at least 4 of the categories. alphamale, yes we complain about the MMs we may be with, but what you may not understand is that for some, by complaining, it helps us to see these men for who they are. the deed and the damage may have already been done and we may have had our heads and hearts in the clouds or up our arses, but by seeing posts like debster's it may help some to be able to gain the insight and strength we need to get out. sometimes complaining isn't all so bad! many of us may enter the relationship thinking our's will be one of the ones that beats the odds, but when we start to see sooooo many similarities between the stories it helps some of us to get a clearer picture of the situation and get our feet planted back on the ground. Link to post Share on other sites
SadAndLonely Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Yup, I agree with Debster and alphamale's last post. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 In my experience, people who cheat have a chronic problem with dishonesty. It wouldn't be so easy for them to have an entire relationship that they adeptly hide from their spouse for a prolonged period of time and/or a series of brief but intense flings with other people. The times I have witnessed this the people who cheat have a pattern of lying in order to "protect" their loved ones in a variety of scenarios, not restricted to or bound to their infidelity specifically. The thing is, when you are dishonest with yourself, it becomes second nature to slip into dishonesty with those you care about. It's like drugs. You know that it's bad for you, and it's an illicit pleasure. You know you should stop and stay sober and be straight. But you simply can't, the indulgence is too deliciously pleasurable. Link to post Share on other sites
Leaf Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Yes, It becomes an addiction. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted December 29, 2004 Share Posted December 29, 2004 Originally posted by alphamale Women who get involved with MM need to look at themselves also here. You got into a relationship with a man and may have ruined an entire family. You are no better than he is cause it takes 2 to tango. Women always complain about the MM they are f***king and how they treat they like shyt. These women deserved what they get. If the women banded together and decided not to steal another woman's man this would not happen. So in the end they deserve each other. The OW deserves to be with the MM more than the W because they are both the same, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kim_mc Posted December 30, 2004 Author Share Posted December 30, 2004 Guys, I need some responses from MM here to answer my original question. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 Oops I'm sorry Link to post Share on other sites
immoralist Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 Yeah, cattle call to all MM: Take a break from the great sex you're enjoying with your OW and participate in this Inquisition Thread. Take your abuse like a man! If MM didn't already exist we would have to invent him. The typical MM is too busy having great sex to frequent MM-phobic sites like LS. Why should he care? The dirty little secret is that almost every sexually healthy husband is potentially a MM given the right mix of factors. While demonizing the MM makes for fun reading, and definitely allows the critic to feel good about herself, your typical MM is your brother, father, next door neighbor and , need I say it, husband. The MM is all around you. Link to post Share on other sites
2Confuzed Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 Yes..... but are they unhappy? Link to post Share on other sites
immoralist Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 Yes..... but are they unhappy? What do you think? The MM has the best of both worlds: the OW's testosterone affirming sexual devotion and the wife's spousal devotion to him and his children, if he has any. He has great sex and a marital partner. So, yes, he's usually happy. Even given all the bad press. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 How do you know so much immoralist??? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 How do you know so much immoralist??? he knows so much cause he is really Peter North from all those older porn movies, can't you tell from his picture??? Link to post Share on other sites
immoralist Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 Peter North! He's Gay!!! Not that there's anything wrong with that. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 30, 2004 Share Posted December 30, 2004 Originally posted by immoralist Peter North! He's Gay!!! Not that there's anything wrong with that. oh sorry, i did not know he was gay but i heard he did some gay porn movies. by the way he looked in all those hetero films it looked like he was totally hetero. man he could spew a huge gusher on those girls faces. but your pic does look like him a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
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