Mount Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 It is hurting without talking to him...why? Am I really addicted to him? I always thought I have strong will-power, without addicting into anything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 You miss him. You can feel love and pain when a relationship ends without it being addiction. Time will help but it hurts like hell until then. It will lessen bit by bit. I'm sorry you are hurting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mount Posted November 26, 2013 Author Share Posted November 26, 2013 Guess you somehow are right... I "miss" talk to him. Also that is one big side effect of having A, that is, you end A, also end decent friendship that before A. You miss him. You can feel love and pain when a relationship ends without it being addiction. Time will help but it hurts like hell until then. It will lessen bit by bit. I'm sorry you are hurting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 It is hurting without talking to him...why? Am I really addicted to him? I always thought I have strong will-power, without addicting into anything. Yes, partial addiction, partial habit and also it takes a while for the heart to catch up to what the mind already knows... DO NOT reach out Mount. Just don't. It's okay to miss him, let yourself go through the stages of grief. Vent away, write letters but never send them! In fact, if you do write, use paper and pen, then burn the letter. Or if you use the computer, write it out in a word program not in an email draft. All this will help you grieve and process stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mount Posted November 27, 2013 Author Share Posted November 27, 2013 Sorry I have point out that my observation tells me is that you still think MM loves you? That is not true, you should know that. I know that, I just miss "talking" to that person (MM), that is all. There has no geniue love there, even though MM did and said all kinds of mountain high love speech to me, also did so much for me. But his choice says all. I miss talking to MM too. even though i want to strangle him, I miss his cuddles, I miss his presence every day and it is like he has died. I can't help, but I understand. He was so much of my life :( We are both in for a rough Christmas and so is my MM I am sure of that 2 Link to post Share on other sites
WrinkledForehead Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 I miss talking to MM too. even though i want to strangle him, I miss his cuddles, I miss his presence every day and it is like he has died. I can't help, but I understand. He was so much of my life :( We are both in for a rough Christmas and so is my MM I am sure of that Whoa. Sorry to t/j, but my A name was Trisse, short for tristesse. It means small death in French, and generally refers to a sharp decline from the positive state of emotion during an orgasm which results in crying and sadness. Kind of threw me. Not many know what the word means. Link to post Share on other sites
Star4223 Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 Guess you somehow are right... I "miss" talk to him. Also that is one big side effect of having A, that is, you end A, also end decent friendship that before A. Me and my MM were also friends long before the A, so I know what you feel. I told him and he told me everything and he really was my BEST friend. So it is like you have lost 2 people at once! I swear I am going through the same thing as you right now and it hurts like Hell!!!! We also have many, many friends in common a couple of which know about our relationship and they are trying to stay neutral, but Im sure it isnt easy and I dont wanna drang them there either. Just bad right now all around. I do not know if we will ever be friends after being in this relationship for 9 months. We are not youngins either I am 47 and he is 48. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mount Posted November 30, 2013 Author Share Posted November 30, 2013 You Affair is still short and you should be getting over soon. I don't miss the affair at all right now, just feel losing someone you are familiar with and are used to in life. As mentally before we broke up, I already prepared to let him go. Me and my MM were also friends long before the A, so I know what you feel. I told him and he told me everything and he really was my BEST friend. So it is like you have lost 2 people at once! I swear I am going through the same thing as you right now and it hurts like Hell!!!! We also have many, many friends in common a couple of which know about our relationship and they are trying to stay neutral, but Im sure it isnt easy and I dont wanna drang them there either. Just bad right now all around. I do not know if we will ever be friends after being in this relationship for 9 months. We are not youngins either I am 47 and he is 48. Link to post Share on other sites
Star4223 Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 You Affair is still short and you should be getting over soon. I don't miss the affair at all right now, just feel losing someone you are familiar with and are used to in life. As mentally before we broke up, I already prepared to let him go. It true the sexual part was only 9 months but we have been friends for 25 years so it like I said been hard because we have so many mutual friends. Also to be sincerely intimate it could take some couples weeks others years, it is still VERY HARD and Hurts like hell!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 It true the sexual part was only 9 months but we have been friends for 25 years so it like I said been hard because we have so many mutual friends. Also to be sincerely intimate it could take some couples weeks others years, it is still VERY HARD and Hurts like hell!! There will never be a friendship again, especially like it once was before you two chose to have an affair. Once you do get over him and move on, there's a good chance that you won't want any friendship in the future. That happens much more often than 2 xAP's years later becoming friends again. Too much pain, too much has happened. Link to post Share on other sites
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