First Love Problems..

[Jyden]

Hi, I’m 16. To sum this up quickly! I fell inlove for the first time 6 months ago with my ex girlfriend, she was my first love first real relationship. About a week ago she ended it with me, she said she ‘fell out of love’ with me in a 3 day period of us having a ‘ break ‘. When she ended it she said she was feeling in & out of love for a week beforehand and didn’t feel inlove anymore, she said she loved me just not ‘ in love ‘. I Was devastated, I thought things were perfect, we had 1-2 big arguments the week beforehand which could have contributed to it, the arguments where her fault and she knows they were. Towards the end of our relationship things started getting boring and maybe that contributed to what happened.. I was the more affectionate one in the relationship and always gave what I could, she wasn’t very affectionate and was very selfish (not intentionally). I always put the effort into the relationship and did nice things for her. I gave it my most and we were in love. Since the break up things have been bad between us because I’m still in a horrible state and she seems doing fine therefore causing fight’s, me getting angry. It’s only been a week since break up but I don’t want to let go of something if there is still hope, she doesn’t speak about how she feels about everything. I bumped into her the other day she got upset when she saw me, got me wondering a little bit, I can’t stick to NC if I gave it 110% Things keep happening with me and I stuff it up. I feel like I Lost her from the 2 big fights we had, but that’s not fair we got into a fight about something she did, she later apologized and for her doing wrong I lost her.

I want her in my life as she was my first love & met my family virginity etc..

I Also don’t want to move on all I want is her to be back how they were, I don’t see what went wrong. And the fact since break up she has no sign of empathy for me and I use to be her world really hurts me a lot, that’s why I get angry and don’t follow NC. I just want what’s best for me, I had depression throughout the relationship due to life events, she was the only thing that has made me happy in about a year & she is gone, I’m completely lost and empty. Even if we aren’t together she can still make me happy, this is very difficult for me. Someone please give soom HELPFUL feedback that will work and help me out a bit, I really need it as I’m struggling very bad. ☹ I have days where i'm okay this week and have confidence then i wake up the next day realising she isn't apart of my life anymore

[Logan oO]

Hi, I’m 16. To sum this up quickly! I fell inlove for the first time 6 months ago with my ex girlfriend, she was my first love first real relationship. About a week ago she ended it with me, she said she ‘fell out of love’ with me in a 3 day period of us having a ‘ break ‘. When she ended it she said she was feeling in & out of love for a week beforehand and didn’t feel inlove anymore, she said she loved me just not ‘ in love ‘. I Was devastated, I thought things were perfect, we had 1-2 big arguments the week beforehand which could have contributed to it, the arguments where her fault and she knows they were. Towards the end of our relationship things started getting boring and maybe that contributed to what happened.. I was the more affectionate one in the relationship and always gave what I could, she wasn’t very affectionate and was very selfish (not intentionally). I always put the effort into the relationship and did nice things for her. I gave it my most and we were in love. Since the break up things have been bad between us because I’m still in a horrible state and she seems doing fine therefore causing fight’s, me getting angry. It’s only been a week since break up but I don’t want to let go of something if there is still hope, she doesn’t speak about how she feels about everything. I bumped into her the other day she got upset when she saw me, got me wondering a little bit, I can’t stick to NC if I gave it 110% Things keep happening with me and I stuff it up. I feel like I Lost her from the 2 big fights we had, but that’s not fair we got into a fight about something she did, she later apologized and for her doing wrong I lost her.

I want her in my life as she was my first love & met my family virginity etc..

I Also don’t want to move on all I want is her to be back how they were, I don’t see what went wrong. And the fact since break up she has no sign of empathy for me and I use to be her world really hurts me a lot, that’s why I get angry and don’t follow NC. I just want what’s best for me, I had depression throughout the relationship due to life events, she was the only thing that has made me happy in about a year & she is gone, I’m completely lost and empty. Even if we aren’t together she can still make me happy, this is very difficult for me. Someone please give soom HELPFUL feedback that will work and help me out a bit, I really need it as I’m struggling very bad. ☹ I have days where i'm okay this week and have confidence then i wake up the next day realising she isn't apart of my life anymore

 

Jyden -

Many of our ex's broke up with us overnight, so we know the feeling.

Now you need to understand that NO relationship in the history of the world does not have fights / arguements. It's healthy to have arguements occasionally, so that you can grow from any problems that have arisen.

 

You are still very young and that doesn't mean you don't know what LOVE is, it just means you won't know what to expect when trying to recover from it.

 

Your Ex is obviously still young too, and in my experience anyone below the age of 22 has no idea who or what they want from life. I know it hurts right now, but it's upto you what you do next, we can only give you advice on what we would do in your position.

 

No Contact is the best way forward to overcoming the situation and healing.

Although at your age 'fighting' for her is probably what is majorly on your mind.

I can tell you honestly dude, women who can just toss you aside at a moments notice aren't worth fighting for.

[Jyden]

Jyden -

Many of our ex's broke up with us overnight, so we know the feeling.

Now you need to understand that NO relationship in the history of the world does not have fights / arguements. It's healthy to have arguements occasionally, so that you can grow from any problems that have arisen.

 

You are still very young and that doesn't mean you don't know what LOVE is, it just means you won't know what to expect when trying to recover from it.

 

Your Ex is obviously still young too, and in my experience anyone below the age of 22 has no idea who or what they want from life. I know it hurts right now, but it's upto you what you do next, we can only give you advice on what we would do in your position.

 

No Contact is the best way forward to overcoming the situation and healing.

Although at your age 'fighting' for her is probably what is majorly on your mind.

I can tell you honestly dude, women who can just toss you aside at a moments notice aren't worth fighting for.

 

Thank you the last bit what you said made me feel a bit better about it, i gave her everything any girl could ask for and she tossed me away just like that, one day she will think back i'll be gone. She probably doesn't deserve me, but i do love her still which sucks.

I'll keep trying NC though, i hope it helps.