kvido Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 I am with my GF for 7 months. There is a "small" problem that she is always in contact with her ex. Her ex is very obsessive and his acting was really close to stalking. Anyway she has decide that we would not meet in her place for a while, only in public or mine, just to avoid our possible meeting. Today I have realized that she also texts him. She says that it doesn’t mean anything and she knows that it is "inappropriate". She also says that she doesn’t want to be in contact with him and she wants to be with me. She explains me that the contact was just because of "nostalgia". (They were together for 8 yrs.). And she also says that she will TRY to stop it. They broke up because he cheated on her and just couple of days ago, she asked him to be honest and explain why he did it. I think that she is still not over him; even she says that she is and she doesn’t want to go back and want to be with me. But it just doesn’t seem like that... After, she said that she is sorry and she doesnt want to do it anymore, becuse she doesnt want to hurt me anymore and ruin what we have. She said that it was stupid and it has anything with her relationship to him and she is over him. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 To put it short: No. She's not over him and you're a rebound, sorry. If she's still so concerned about the past she's certainly not ready for anything serious with anyone else. Don't get too serious with her as you're in for a world of pain if you do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mikecr50 Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 I think its time to RUN! She's playing a game, you can't win. When you break up watch how fast she's back with him, if you stay together it'll be on the down low. Hate it for ya! Link to post Share on other sites
Losttwo Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 She's using you to get to him,and it's working. That's why he's chasing her again. It's not over. She don't want you at her house,as she's probably still intimate with him. If it was over,it would be OVER. Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 If she was over him, there would be no texts and the nostalgia part should tell you that it's not over so either be prepared to take a hit when she goes back with him. IMO, she's handing you lip service to keep you in line until she makes her move. Speaking of move, thats what you should do. Move on. You don't have to be nasty or cruel but tell her what your telling us, and let her know that you wont play second fiddle to the OM. Put the ball in her court and maybe she will see that she has something to lose. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 I am with my GF for 7 months. There is a "small" problem that she is always in contact with her ex. Her ex is very obsessive and his acting was really close to stalking. Anyway she has decide that we would not meet in her place for a while, only in public or mine, just to avoid our possible meeting. Today I have realized that she also texts him. She says that it doesn’t mean anything and she knows that it is "inappropriate". She also says that she doesn’t want to be in contact with him and she wants to be with me. She explains me that the contact was just because of "nostalgia". (They were together for 8 yrs.). And she also says that she will TRY to stop it. They broke up because he cheated on her and just couple of days ago, she asked him to be honest and explain why he did it. I think that she is still not over him; even she says that she is and she doesn’t want to go back and want to be with me. But it just doesn’t seem like that... After, she said that she is sorry and she doesnt want to do it anymore, becuse she doesnt want to hurt me anymore and ruin what we have. She said that it was stupid and it has anything with her relationship to him and she is over him. What do you think? Sorry, but she is still kind of with him and making it seem like he's stalking her. 8 years is a long time, she's far from over him. "Try" to stop it? She still has feelings for him. Please, do yourself a favour and walk away. You are getting hurt now, you can't fully trust her. Listen to your gut, if it's telling you something is "off" then something is off. Look at the facts. You can't go to her place? Why not? In case you run into him there? Or near by her house? If he is stalking her then he'd be following her to your house or where you two meet in public. Link to post Share on other sites
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