Sabrina88 Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 I and my boyfriend met on Facebook and had and affair for 2 years(during this time we were 24/7 talking texting each other) ...a couple of months ago me and my boyfriend met each other in person for the very first time...we were together for half a month..it was all good till a friend of mine met my boyfriend in my presence,.....and after that we came back to our home countries...After 5 months my boyfriend broke up with me and hook up with that friend of mine (whom he met with me during our first meeting)...and is now about to get married to that friend.....is it cheating or not..is the guy justified...is it fair ?????Please helpppppp..i m very much confused...Right now i am feeling cheated by my friend and boyfriend.... Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 He's not your boyfriend as he already left you to pursue a relationship with the other person. You have the right to feel "cheated" in the sense that your friend, whom you started developing trust with, did that to you. However, unless they were sleeping together and dating while you and your ex-boyfriend were together, it's not cheating. Perhaps he fell for her when he met her and ended it with you to pursue her. Is it fair? Probably not… but don't be confused. He chose to be with her and not you and as much as that hurts, you know that truth but try and move on. Sometimes when people have online relationships, they build that person to be who you want them to be. After meeting in person, that person may not be exactly what you thought. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Share Posted November 26, 2013 I agree that he chose her over me...but why didnt he told me that right away..y he continued the relation with me for 5 months and all this time was not in love with me but was with me just to get info about that friend of mine and then broke up with me and didnt gave me any reason for break up and when that friend of mine asked him why he is breaking up with me...he gave her this reason that his parents didnt want us to be together and second he likes her(my friend) but the reason for break up is not liking that friend but his parents... Also,now that friend and my ex boyfriend are about to gt married...should i sill talk to my friend ...who knew how much serious i was for that guy and then also she is getting married to this guy....also does this all incident make him justified towards our relation Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Grown adults can do what they want. It's a shame that your EX-Bf didn't have more integrity but that's not your problem any more. I'd drop the friend like a hot potato. She's no friend. I certainly wouldn't go to the wedding. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 I agree that he chose her over me...but why didnt he told me that right away..y he continued the relation with me for 5 months and all this time was not in love with me but was with me just to get info about that friend of mine and then broke up with me and didnt gave me any reason for break up and when that friend of mine asked him why he is breaking up with me...he gave her this reason that his parents didnt want us to be together and second he likes her(my friend) but the reason for break up is not liking that friend but his parents... Also,now that friend and my ex boyfriend are about to gt married...should i sill talk to my friend ...who knew how much serious i was for that guy and then also she is getting married to this guy....also does this all incident make him justified towards our relation Why? because some guys are as*holes. You don't need a reason to know that he treated you this way and you deserve better. I'd move on and wouldn't care about whatever excuse or reason he comes up with. If they're already getting married, I would just leave them two to be. I mean, he was a jerk and went for your friend. He stayed with you to get more information on her and then lied to her to get her. To her, he probably looks pretty good. Whatever you say about him may not matter if she's "in love". Plus, she's the kind of person who will allow her friend to confide to her. She knew how much you cared for him and yet she still went for him. It sounds like she's not much of a friend either. Based on their decisions and actions, it sounds like they're good for one another… I wouldn't stay friends with someone like that and I wouldn't want to be around an ex who treated me that way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Share Posted November 26, 2013 Can somebody please tell me am i overreacting by ending relation with both (my friend and ex boyfriend)..or is it justified to be in relation with someone and if you don't like that person u just dump her like a useless thing and move on to the next girl...how can it be so easy for someone and for me its been 5 months i can't just get over this and he is all set for his wedding... Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Can somebody please tell me am i overreacting by ending relation with both (my friend and ex boyfriend)..or is it justified to be in relation with someone and if you don't like that person u just dump her like a useless thing and move on to the next girl...how can it be so easy for someone and for me its been 5 months i can't just get over this and he is all set for his wedding... Have more self respect for yourself. You are not overreacting but you need to stop thinking about them and start moving on. If you want the honest truth about how can it be so easy for someone else? Well, that's probably because he's a jerk and led you on. Sorry to say it, but someone who loves you won't do what he did to you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 You are absolutely NOT overreacting. You will get over this. Remember, you dodged a bullet. This guy showed that he has no integrity. Be happy he's her problem now not yours. I doubt they will live happily every after. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Share Posted November 26, 2013 Thank you for letting me know that i am right in ending relation with that friend ...but i have another question.. that friend of mine didnt confessed infron of me that she is still intouch with my ex...until i saw her pictue with my ex bf sister..and later figured out that they are getting married..now that friend is making me feel guilty by saying that "when he guy was with you he was good bu now you telling me hat he guy is not good cuz he is with me(my friend)"...n infront of me she is posing this image that "she doesnt like the guy but her paents are keen to get her married to him"....n then she was like he(my ex) is sorry for what he did....what else he can do.... n d worst part is my mom already met this guy and knew about our relation and now as my family and my friends mom dad are family friends so i am feeling bad that my mom might have to face this guy(ex) but now as my friend's life partner...and i am feeling bad that my parents have to go thru all this cuz of me Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 He's not good & neither is she. Your mom is an adult. It's sweet of you to worry about her but she will handle this well. Talk to her. Link to post Share on other sites
nomadic_butterfly Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 I and my boyfriend met on Facebook and had and affair for 2 years(during this time we were 24/7 talking texting each other) ...a couple of months ago me and my boyfriend met each other in person for the very first time...we were together for half a month..it was all good till a friend of mine met my boyfriend in my presence,.....and after that we came back to our home countries...After 5 months my boyfriend broke up with me and hook up with that friend of mine (whom he met with me during our first meeting)...and is now about to get married to that friend.....is it cheating or not..is the guy justified...is it fair ?????Please helpppppp..i m very much confused...Right now i am feeling cheated by my friend and boyfriend.... I don't understand what the title has to do with your post but there is no full proof way to prevent this from happening. Some things you don't know until a situation arises. Your so called friend has absolutely no integrity and I'd never wish ill on anyone but don't worry; they will reap what they have sown. How she could ever trust him is beyond me. There had to be some flirting before a relationship and she shouldn't have entertained that. I can't believe after you probably telling her the details of some guy you love, the ins and outs she would just stab you in the back like that. My older aunt always told me, "don't trust any va jay jay around your man." Now I see why. While I can't fathom me ever doing something like this, it happens often enough to know a lot of people have no qualms with this disgusting behavior. To answer your question if you are not together it's not really cheating if he broke up first although their relations while you were together was. Of course it is not just or fair but I guess life isn't always just or fair so unfortunately we have to deal with both the good and bad. He didn't take you seriously and their cookie will eventually crumble. Stuff like this make me even more keen to meet my online interest ASAP (which we will early 2014.). I am definitely not dragging out something 2 yrs before meeting or putting full hope after meeting only once and being penpals for 2yrs. Not practical at all. But I'd want to meet a few times or in our case, when he permanently moves here for me to take him 100% seriously. I can also now see why he is hesitant and a bit cautious about putting 100% until we can have a stable relationship in the same place. The funny thing is I met and hung out and had a blast with his best friend recently when he came to my town but I wouldn't dream of hooking up with him. That is so low and grimey. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
emi Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 Thats funny when betrayal never come from your enemy isnt it? She was your bestfriend and she did that to you and your ex is such a ******* also. You're better off without them. Just screw it, move on. Karma is a bitch btw 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 I don't think it is 100% right to bash the guy here. To the OP: I do feel bad for your situation, that is terrible and yeah I'd be crushed and reacting exactly like you. Well I'd of punched my "friend" in the face for this, but yeah. However, I do want to say life is short and that people can't help who they fall in love with. From your story, it sounds like this guy did have feelings for you, I don't think during your entire relationship he didn't feel anything. I just think as time went on he started to fall more and more for your friend, to the point where he eventually broke up with you because unfortunately he loved her more. So people are saying this guy lacks integrity, but at least he broke off the relationship before actually getting with her. I know it is unfortunate that your friend is the one he left you for, but let me ask you this: would you honestly want these two people to miss out on being with their soul mate all so you do not get your feelings hurt? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 27, 2013 Author Share Posted November 27, 2013 I don't think it is 100% right to bash the guy here. To the OP: I do feel bad for your situation, that is terrible and yeah I'd be crushed and reacting exactly like you. Well I'd of punched my "friend" in the face for this, but yeah. However, I do want to say life is short and that people can't help who they fall in love with. From your story, it sounds like this guy did have feelings for you, I don't think during your entire relationship he didn't feel anything. I just think as time went on he started to fall more and more for your friend, to the point where he eventually broke up with you because unfortunately he loved her more. So people are saying this guy lacks integrity, but at least he broke off the relationship before actually getting with her. I know it is unfortunate that your friend is the one he left you for, but let me ask you this: would you honestly want these two people to miss out on being with their soul mate all so you do not get your feelings hurt? I sumwhat agree with you that he might have feelings for me initially but then when he met my friend he liked or loved her more than what he felt for me....but is it genuine thing to do.... i mean how can you just c someone and fall for her(without even knowing that person) and all of a sudden all ur feelings for the other person just doesnt make any sense for you... N if we consider them really to be each others soulmates...then what was my fault in all this ...that i was trusting and loved a person who did all the promises with me and when it was time to take a stand ...he found a perfect soulmate in my friend.... Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 (edited) I sumwhat agree with you that he might have feelings for me initially but then when he met my friend he liked or loved her more than what he felt for me....but is it genuine thing to do.... i mean how can you just c someone and fall for her(without even knowing that person) and all of a sudden all ur feelings for the other person just doesnt make any sense for you... N if we consider them really to be each others soulmates...then what was my fault in all this ...that i was trusting and loved a person who did all the promises with me and when it was time to take a stand ...he found a perfect soulmate in my friend.... Well hold on, did he tell you he fell for her the first time he saw her? Since you said he was with you for 5 months so I figured during those 5 months is when they fell in love. If it took 5 months to break up with you that makes me suspect it was a gradual thing, which hints that he did indeed have feelings for you initially. I saw your other threads and you said he was attracted to her as soon as he saw her. That is a lot different then loving her the first time he saw her. What did he specifically say when he ended it? Did he say he never loved you? Also, how did this happen? By this I mean, to fall in love they had to spend a lot of time together, why wasn't this a red flag for you? Also how long after he broke up with you did they get married? One thing I want you to know is you didn't do anything wrong, this isn't your fault. I'm sure you were a good girlfriend, but some people just aren't meant to be. So don't be thinking there is anything wrong with you. You seem nice, how old are you? I'm sure you'll eventually find a guy who treats you right. Edited November 27, 2013 by Spectre 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nomadic_butterfly Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 I don't think it is 100% right to bash the guy here. To the OP: I do feel bad for your situation, that is terrible and yeah I'd be crushed and reacting exactly like you. Well I'd of punched my "friend" in the face for this, but yeah. However, I do want to say life is short and that people can't help who they fall in love with. From your story, it sounds like this guy did have feelings for you, I don't think during your entire relationship he didn't feel anything. I just think as time went on he started to fall more and more for your friend, to the point where he eventually broke up with you because unfortunately he loved her more. So people are saying this guy lacks integrity, but at least he broke off the relationship before actually getting with her. I know it is unfortunate that your friend is the one he left you for, but let me ask you this: would you honestly want these two people to miss out on being with their soul mate all so you do not get your feelings hurt? LOL you are hilarious. You CAN help who you fall in love with. It makes me cringe every time someone says that. As if it is forced upon you (as in an arranged marriage). In a free world, YES you CAN help who you fall in love with. You CHOOSE who you get to know. You CHOOSE who you spend time with. You CHOOSE to who to have feelings for or who not to. No one sticks a gun to your head and demands you love a specific person. You are in control of your own feelings and if you lack self control, you are in for a rough life. You CHOOSE not to "fall in love" with a relative. You CHOOSE to stab your best friend in the back when you shouldn't have been eyeing her man in the first place! Hello! It is a CHOICE. I am sure they are absolute soul mates because it is perfectly normal to flirt and scheme with your best friend's man behind her back instead of telling her that her man is hitting on you. There's a certain level of respect, integrity, and self control very seldom found now-a-days it seems. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 ...a couple of months ago me and my boyfriend met each other in person for the very first time... After 5 months my boyfriend broke up with me and hook up with that friend of mine (whom he met with me during our first meeting)... Clearly something doesn't match here... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 28, 2013 Author Share Posted November 28, 2013 Well hold on, did he tell you he fell for her the first time he saw her? Since you said he was with you for 5 months so I figured during those 5 months is when they fell in love. If it took 5 months to break up with you that makes me suspect it was a gradual thing, which hints that he did indeed have feelings for you initially. I saw your other threads and you said he was attracted to her as soon as he saw her. That is a lot different then loving her the first time he saw her. What did he specifically say when he ended it? Did he say he never loved you? Also, how did this happen? By this I mean, to fall in love they had to spend a lot of time together, why wasn't this a red flag for you? Also how long after he broke up with you did they get married? One thing I want you to know is you didn't do anything wrong, this isn't your fault. I'm sure you were a good girlfriend, but some people just aren't meant to be. So don't be thinking there is anything wrong with you. You seem nice, how old are you? I'm sure you'll eventually find a guy who treats you right. Actually,My ex didnt cleared it up properly so here is goes... He broke up with me after 5 months from d trip and during this time there were less communication between us and all the time he was more interested talking about that friend of mine...trying to know what is going on in her life... I mentioned that he was attracted to her when he saw her cuz "When we all were together i noticed he was trying to make eye contact with her and interested to know more about her...i didnt paid much attention to this cuz i thought as both of them live in the same country so that must be the reason for him being so curious/interested talking to her" Reasons he gave for break up To my Friend(Whom he is about to get married) :I liked u(my friend) when i saw u but i am not breaking up with her due to this...i am breaking up cuz my mom wants me to get married to a girl from our community...to this my friend replied "my mom dad are looking for a guy to get me married" PS:This was the first time my bf got in touch with my friend as before he was just getting info from me...as they were not directly in touch To Me:He didnt gave me a reason for two weeks...and we didnt talked to each other during this two weeks time....then after giving the above reason to that friend ...he gave me the same reason..... On getting to know that he said to my friend he likes her "i called him...and asked him if he likes my friend then what was with me" to which he answered "i loved u and like her as a person....and i won't talk to her if u think i am breaking up with u cuz of her" To My sister: I like that girl(my friend)....and was looking for someone like her as my life partner And its hardly 5 months that both of them are in touch and lying to me...and they have planned to get married to each other in december.... Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Trying to figure out who did what and why they did it and when they did it is irrelevant. Stop wasting your time and energy. They are getting married and getting on with their lives without you. I suggest you do the same. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 (edited) LOL you are hilarious. You CAN help who you fall in love with. It makes me cringe every time someone says that. As if it is forced upon you (as in an arranged marriage). In a free world, YES you CAN help who you fall in love with. You CHOOSE who you get to know. You CHOOSE who you spend time with. You CHOOSE to who to have feelings for or who not to. No one sticks a gun to your head and demands you love a specific person. You are in control of your own feelings and if you lack self control, you are in for a rough life. You CHOOSE not to "fall in love" with a relative. You CHOOSE to stab your best friend in the back when you shouldn't have been eyeing her man in the first place! Hello! It is a CHOICE. Ok you are acting as if I'm talking about having no free will or anything. Yes, obviously you choose who you get to know and who you don't. But once you get to know someone, can you control if you like them? You can't just tell yourself "I am going to like this person" and suddenly turn on feelings for them. You can control who you get to know, you can control who you spend time with, etc. but you can't necessarily control which of those people you know that you fall for. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying what they did was right, obviously these two were spending time together behind this girls back, time enough to fall in love and no that isn't ok. I am sure they are absolute soul mates because it is perfectly normal to flirt and scheme with your best friend's man behind her back instead of telling her that her man is hitting on you. There's a certain level of respect, integrity, and self control very seldom found now-a-days it seems. I don't know these people, I do not know if they are soul mates, all I know is they are getting married..so they probably think they are, but who knows. The friend of hers and the boyfriend were definitely disrespectful, but you talk about self control, the guy apparently broke it off before he got with this other girl. Do you know how rare that is? People usually cheat first. I'm not saying this makes it better, just that it could of been worse. Edited November 28, 2013 by Spectre 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nomadic_butterfly Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Ok you are acting as if I'm talking about having no free will or anything. Yes, obviously you choose who you get to know and who you don't. But once you get to know someone, can you control if you like them? You can't just tell yourself "I am going to like this person" and suddenly turn on feelings for them. You can control who you get to know, you can control who you spend time with, etc. but you can't necessarily control which of those people you know that you fall for. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying what they did was right, obviously these two were spending time together behind this girls back, time enough to fall in love and no that isn't ok. I don't know these people, I do not know if they are soul mates, all I know is they are getting married..so they probably think they are, but who knows. The friend of hers and the boyfriend were definitely disrespectful, but you talk about self control, the guy apparently broke it off before he got with this other girl. Do you know how rare that is? People usually cheat first. I'm not saying this makes it better, just that it could of been worse. Saying "you can't help" something negates the notion of free will. It still boils down to a choice. Getting to know someone is a choice. Discerning the feelings to have for them is a choice. So is falling "out of love" not a "choice" either? But anyway this is something we might have to agree to disagree with and that is perfectly fine . As for breaking it off, he and her friend lived in the same country in the same community. There is no telling if he was meeting up with her behind the OP's back, saw potential with the friend and then broke it off. I can't see logically how meeting once and NEVER corresponding after leads to getting married. They clearly were spending time together as they were in the same locale and the OP went back to her country. That is cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 28, 2013 Author Share Posted November 28, 2013 Ok you are acting as if I'm talking about having no free will or anything. Yes, obviously you choose who you get to know and who you don't. But once you get to know someone, can you control if you like them? You can't just tell yourself "I am going to like this person" and suddenly turn on feelings for them. You can control who you get to know, you can control who you spend time with, etc. but you can't necessarily control which of those people you know that you fall for. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying what they did was right, obviously these two were spending time together behind this girls back, time enough to fall in love and no that isn't ok. I don't know these people, I do not know if they are soul mates, all I know is they are getting married..so they probably think they are, but who knows. The friend of hers and the boyfriend were definitely disrespectful, but you talk about self control, the guy apparently broke it off before he got with this other girl. Do you know how rare that is? People usually cheat first. I'm not saying this makes it better, just that it could of been worse. Out of the above ...I just have one question u mentioned that " once you get to know someone, can you control if you like them? You can't just tell yourself "I am going to like this person" and suddenly turn on feelings for them. He knew me for 2 years...and was with me during the entire trip...he just met my friend for sometime and whatever he knows her is what I told him about her ...during the span when he was interested talking about what she is upto and what's going on in her life etc... So does that mean all those feelings he had for me was just a lie....was he faking throughout the relation....or He had feelings for me...but then all of a sudden he met my friend and found her more attractive and then all his feelings for me just drained out of his heart and he started feeling so high for this girl that our 2 years relation dint meant anything to him....and it just clicked in his mind that my friend is best for him and he should get married to her....I just can't understand this Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 28, 2013 Author Share Posted November 28, 2013 Ok you are acting as if I'm talking about having no free will or anything. Yes, obviously you choose who you get to know and who you don't. But once you get to know someone, can you control if you like them? You can't just tell yourself "I am going to like this person" and suddenly turn on feelings for them. You can control who you get to know, you can control who you spend time with, etc. but you can't necessarily control which of those people you know that you fall for. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying what they did was right, obviously these two were spending time together behind this girls back, time enough to fall in love and no that isn't ok. I don't know these people, I do not know if they are soul mates, all I know is they are getting married..so they probably think they are, but who knows. The friend of hers and the boyfriend were definitely disrespectful, but you talk about self control, the guy apparently broke it off before he got with this other girl. Do you know how rare that is? People usually cheat first. I'm not saying this makes it better, just that it could of been worse. As quoted by spectre that we can't control our feelings etc....this lead to new set of questions in my mind.My mind playing games now....So here is the situations Me and my LDR ex Bf talked to each other for two years...get to know each other and then decided to meet in person...on meeting in person ..he was happy with everything (as per what i noticed)....during the same time..he happen to meet a girl (my friend) who he had heard about and have seen in pics but didnt know much except whatever her friend(me) told him about her ...Now he finds this girl(my friend) more attractive then his gf(me)...and he gets curious to know more about this girl(my friend).... as they both(my friend and ex bf) were not in direct contact so ...this guy started talking to his gf(me) about her friend more often to rest his curiosity.....then after some time he decided that the girl he is with is not the one for her...whereas the friend of that girl is better match for her...so this guy broke up with his gf and didn't gave her any reason till this friend (whom the guy was interested in)...contacted the guy to ask for what went wrong between both of them.... then this guy taking advantage of this time tells the girl(my friend)..some excuse(that his parents are against this) and he likes her(my friend)...and now this guy is with this girl(my friend) Can somebody please tell me the right and the wrong things in this situation ....as my mind is full of different views which are contradicting to each other.... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Sabrina -- As I understand this: you had an LDR with a guy for 2 years. At some point he came to meet you in person. While he was there in person with you, he met your friend. He went back home & your relationship continued for 5 more months. During that time communications dwindled & when you would talk, he'd talk about your friend. After 5 months of this he broke up with you. After he broke up with you, you found out he started dating her. She lives near him & they have the same culural background. His parents & her parents support this relationship & now they are getting married & you are heartbroken. For the tenth time, You have to let it go. They chose each other. His feelings for you may have been real but it's hard to judge with an LDR that began on line. Not everybody puts the same level of stock into OLR. To some it's just a fantasy on the computer & it's not real because the person isn't there every day. Your friend therefore had an advantage: She was able to see him IRL. Somehow they fell in love. I think it's lousy that they sort of teamed up to hurt you. Out of respect for you, they should have at least talked to you before dating so you weren't blindsided by this. Since they didn't I think they are both bad people who you should throw out of your life. With friends like them, who need enemies? When your parents understand how underhanded your friends' behavior was, despite their relationship with her parents, they should support you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sabrina88 Posted November 28, 2013 Author Share Posted November 28, 2013 Sabrina -- As I understand this: you had an LDR with a guy for 2 years. At some point he came to meet you in person. While he was there in person with you, he met your friend. He went back home & your relationship continued for 5 more months. During that time communications dwindled & when you would talk, he'd talk about your friend. After 5 months of this he broke up with you. After he broke up with you, you found out he started dating her. She lives near him & they have the same culural background. His parents & her parents support this relationship & now they are getting married & you are heartbroken. For the tenth time, You have to let it go. They chose each other. His feelings for you may have been real but it's hard to judge with an LDR that began on line. Not everybody puts the same level of stock into OLR. To some it's just a fantasy on the computer & it's not real because the person isn't there every day. Your friend therefore had an advantage: She was able to see him IRL. Somehow they fell in love. I think it's lousy that they sort of teamed up to hurt you. Out of respect for you, they should have at least talked to you before dating so you weren't blindsided by this. Since they didn't I think they are both bad people who you should throw out of your life. With friends like them, who need enemies? When your parents understand how underhanded your friends' behavior was, despite their relationship with her parents, they should support you. I understand completely that i have to let it go ...but all these questions in my mind are making me go crazy and think about it again and again...i don't know whether its my attachment or love with that person or is it the ejection thing that's making it hard for me to move on.... Can this be possible The guy just gave her (my friend) this image that he left me cuz of his family...and then when i cut all contacts with him...he started talking to my friend and told her that he is sorry for whatever he did...and made her believe that his feelings are genuine for her...and when even framed her into no telling me all this...and then cooking up this story that my friend told me... That they are not involved in any relation and some relative of girl who is also a friend of guys dad ...told the girls parents about his guy..and now they found him appropriate and the girl(my friend) is in favor for this relation as she didn't find it wrong...and that's why she is trying to make me understand that "the guy(my ex) is sorry for whatever he did but he is a good guy PS: my friend and m ex have some family friends in common.. Does all this make them justified in any perspective... Link to post Share on other sites
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