Beatles4 Posted November 26, 2013 Share Posted November 26, 2013 Just wondering on other peoples thoughts and opinions. Having been single for hmmm 8 years now, only this year decided to go on the prawl....spent like 2 years getting over a releationship! Then spent the rest of that time single seems like a waste to not share my life with someone! Being a christian and a regular church go-er have asked a fair few girls out at church without any luck...not even one date! Why is there so many girls at church that are single? What does it really mean when girls say they want a relationship with God and not a human being? (I know it sounds like what it says on the tin but I have a relationship with God too) Does God not want me in a relationship? Doe other christians feel the same as me or is it just me???? Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 Just wondering on other peoples thoughts and opinions. Having been single for hmmm 8 years now, only this year decided to go on the prawl....spent like 2 years getting over a releationship! Then spent the rest of that time single seems like a waste to not share my life with someone! Being a christian and a regular church go-er have asked a fair few girls out at church without any luck...not even one date! Why is there so many girls at church that are single? What does it really mean when girls say they want a relationship with God and not a human being? (I know it sounds like what it says on the tin but I have a relationship with God too) Does God not want me in a relationship? Doe other christians feel the same as me or is it just me???? People have all kinds of excuses and dismissing comments until the right person comes along. Christian women are no different. They just put on a more proper front. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 Unless they're a nun, doesn't christianity support relationships? Link to post Share on other sites
ThomasD Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 People have all kinds of excuses and dismissing comments until the right person comes along. Christian women are no different. They just put on a more proper front. When I got turned down for dates with girls who I knew had church affiliations it was simply a polite "No thanks" - maybe with one of the standard excuses ("I have to wash my hair that night", "That's my night to clean up the kitchen", etc) Not really any different than girls whose church affiliations I wasn't sure of. Link to post Share on other sites
ThomasD Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 Unless they're a nun, doesn't christianity support relationships? Yes, but . . . . Some Christian subcultures, and individual congregations, impose varying degrees of gender separation in their activities. Bible studies, activity groups, etc may be explicitly or implicitly for one gender or the other. This is justified on the basis of "preventing temptation" and "avoiding even the appearance of evil". Where the groups are co-ed, there is either peer pressure or overt discouragement of couples who try to pair up - unless they are married. (To each other!) On the other hand there are several couples among my friends who did meet, and become acquainted, through church activities. Though some churches start "young adult singles ministries" ostensibly to encourage young people in their congregation to seek out suitable partners within the congregation, in practice the young people establish relationships apart from the group and then bring their partner into the group. Link to post Share on other sites
AnyaNova Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 I only wish more single guys would go to church! Link to post Share on other sites
jimloveslips Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 who did meet...through church activities How about you try non-church activities... Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 The purpose of church should be primarily to worship God, advance your understanding of who he is (since his knowledge is not natural to our minds), and to fellowship with believers. As long as you're not using church for the prime reason that it's a good place to find eligible mates, I think you're fine. I am just suspicious because I have firsthand witnessed a manipulative mother/daughter combo flat-out admit that, while they normally wouldn't care about going to church, it's a good place to snatch a nice boy, so they're gonna go for that reason. Gosh, if only some men knew. Men generally don't become aware of these tactics until they are at least 30. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 Just wondering on other peoples thoughts and opinions. Having been single for hmmm 8 years now, only this year decided to go on the prawl....spent like 2 years getting over a releationship! Then spent the rest of that time single seems like a waste to not share my life with someone! Being a christian and a regular church go-er have asked a fair few girls out at church without any luck...not even one date! Why is there so many girls at church that are single? What does it really mean when girls say they want a relationship with God and not a human being? (I know it sounds like what it says on the tin but I have a relationship with God too) Does God not want me in a relationship? Doe other christians feel the same as me or is it just me???? For me, I have found that God takes care of me much better. Now I know that "man" per se will always fail us, although I picked the cream of the crops on that end. For me it means based on experience God does a much better job, there is no drama and my focus can remain on Him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jimloveslips Posted November 27, 2013 Share Posted November 27, 2013 I have found that God takes care of me much better God gives girl-head? Now where is that in the bible? Link to post Share on other sites
Tiger Lily Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 Just wondering on other peoples thoughts and opinions. Having been single for hmmm 8 years now, only this year decided to go on the prawl....spent like 2 years getting over a releationship! Then spent the rest of that time single seems like a waste to not share my life with someone! Being a christian and a regular church go-er have asked a fair few girls out at church without any luck...not even one date! Why is there so many girls at church that are single? What does it really mean when girls say they want a relationship with God and not a human being? (I know it sounds like what it says on the tin but I have a relationship with God too) Does God not want me in a relationship? Doe other christians feel the same as me or is it just me???? If you have no idea...ask God to reveal it to you. Choosing a relationship completely changes our relationship with God. Our thoughts and purposes become divided between the spiritual and our partner, whereas before we could focus all of our energy strictly on God. There are goods and bads to both arrangements. Link to post Share on other sites
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