Men from Earth & Women from Moon

[Sckott]

Oh it does get better.

 

But trust me when I say, you have to will yourself to be busy doing other things no matter how mundane. Even if it means cleaning your toilets and tidying up the basement, it all slowly helps.

 

The biggest reason the pain is pretty bad right now is because you're not busy. TRUST me on that.

 

Sure, I'll think of her most every day, but I have to move on. If I was able to go back, I'd be glued to an emotional problem that I could not get past. Even if I was Brad Pitt, she would still be very fragile to deal with.

 

And then, get yourself a woman who can deal. That's my next goal; Someone who can have fun AND be emotionally healthy. For now, I find my older fun before she came along.

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

Ok so i've done 14 days NO CONTACT, just today it seems inceasingly more difficult and i am getting even more depressed by the thought that i will never talk to her again!

 

i have am inkling that i think i should contact her in 9 days time wishing her a happy birthday or am i being weak?

 

what should i do?

 

it is such a shame that we should never speak again!

 

i can't get this thought out of my head!

 

[tigerskye]

being a girl that does things to get attention with my bf.

 

If you call her for her birthday it will show that you are being nice and that you still care for her. But don't expect anything! That would be the best time to call because you can see how she is but also seem nice

[Sckott]

Right. What you're experiencing is normal, as you're trying to detox from a very tight relationship. MAKE SURE you're doing other things on a daily basis because if you're bored, you're going to have a lot of hurt, here.

 

Call her on her birthday? Sure. But make sure you're ok first. DO NOT ask her for anything or expect anything right now. BE CAREFUL and stay busy!

[Zephyer Kai]

hey

 

I have just left a man who I would and have done anything for. but through my own blindness and insecurities probably selfish to given up the most glorious thing that i only ever wanted. now he hates me. see through through the smoke walk through fight for what you want thats AS easy as it gets for women, she obviously has her reasons but cant control them and is looking for guidance, if you love her and really feel i mean really feel she loves and wants you back, just know she could be caugt in a moment with no where to hide i know i was but i destroyed everything through being to black and white so i lead a good lofe with loyal friends its no my fault that a 20 yr friendship with a large group of friends is stronger, on there behalf but i would do anything to repair and just have him but i really ****ed it through insecurities, ihope she is true

[Groovy]

I wouldn't call her for her birthday. I sent my ex a card ironically today and just said best wishes, hope it's a special day for you because it's his birthday. Talking on the phone will let a lot in that you may not want to deal with or shouldn't have to deal with. But you can still be a caring person with a card and show that person you're O.K!

 

Breaking up is hard but it sounds to me like it is the best thing to do. What she is doing may be because she is afraid to let people get close to her in her life and she finds "excuses" to push people away. Or perhaps like you said it is the result of being spoiled and treated like everything in life was her's. I ditched one of my best friends because she acted exactly like your girlfriend and she was very spoiled growing up. You don't need people like that and don't think you'll change her! She sounds like she has good qualities but selfishness will destroy any relationship of any kind. I know I got sick of it and don't need to be tangled up in that. Be glad you know that she has issues that you can't change for her and you can find someone with the potential of what you want and what you are (which is doesn't sound selfish). No more wasted days and efforts, time to move on!