Ex's won't admit to seeing someone new??

[Buster Posey]

she say's "i didn't leave you to be with someone else, but to be single." that doesn't necessarily mean she's seeing someone. when i ever bring it up with her she say's i'm insecure.

 

she blocked me and all my family and friends on instagram months ago... i feel like she's hiding something.

 

am i just insecure and overthinking this?? have you ever been in this situation?

[Philosoraptor]

You should stop pestering her and move on with your life. She's probably banging someone right now... would know that for sure make you feel better?

[MoooOinkBaaa]

Ex told me the same thing, they aren't going to admit it.

[greenfairie]

she say's "i didn't leave you to be with someone else, but to be single." that doesn't necessarily mean she's seeing someone. when i ever bring it up with her she say's i'm insecure.

 

she blocked me and all my family and friends on instagram months ago... i feel like she's hiding something.

 

am i just insecure and overthinking this?? have you ever been in this situation?

 

Yeah, you might be pushing her away a bit. Try to leave her be, as much as it sucks. If you keep on pestering her about that, she's probably gonna go further with that other someone.

Was it a meaningful relationship?

She might have blocked your family, friends, and you to make her healing process a little easier. I just had to do that, delete/block all of my ex's family and we just broke up like over a year ago. I then realized that it wasn't helping me at all to stay friends with them. She probably did the right thing by doing that to really see what you want. Keeping in touch just makes it all confusing and complicated. Cut all ties to let her figure out what she wants but don't just wait around for her and if its meant to be, you guys will be together.

[MoooOinkBaaa]

Ex told me the same thing, they aren't going to admit it. She told me don't worry I don't want to sleep with other guys then continued to post on Twitter how desperately she needs to get laid. Basically prostituting herself out on there, screw her I deserve so much better than someone that scummy and desperate.

[Wall E]

Yeah, you might be pushing her away a bit. Try to leave her be, as much as it sucks. If you keep on pestering her about that, she's probably gonna go further with that other someone.

Was it a meaningful relationship?

She might have blocked your family, friends, and you to make her healing process a little easier. I just had to do that, delete/block all of my ex's family and we just broke up like over a year ago. I then realized that it wasn't helping me at all to stay friends with them. She probably did the right thing by doing that to really see what you want. Keeping in touch just makes it all confusing and complicated. Cut all ties to let her figure out what she wants but don't just wait around for her and if its meant to be, you guys will be together.

 

yeah our relationship was definitely meaningful. i guess you're right, she needed some space away from me, she told me it was a way of healing, but i didn't want to believe that. i just jump to the conclusion that she was hiding something and seeing someone new. she told me "if we're meant to be, we will be together again.."

[yorkie]

i know how you feel my ex says she isn't going to admit something that isn't true, her family said they don't see any evidence of this either but they are blind sighted I know its hard and im in the same boat but really it 9s nothing to do with you now as hard as that sounds it isn't, so me being a typical bloke thought feck it im gonna so I have slept around a bit, and now I think I have found a real gem, but guess what I haven't with her yet well we did when we were really both drunk but we both cant remember a thing and we are growing closer each day and taking it steady! I mean really slow, snail pace lol but im enjoying it! end of the day what if she is, nothing you can do about it. I think my ex has but she cant or wont admit it as it puts her in bad light that she left because she strayed. and everyone else will think bad of her. or have you thought that she did stray and maybe the other person hasn't left there relationship. yes alsorts of reason came to my head but the nest one is you cant do anything about it if she is! what can you do? nothing! so heal yourself and if she comes back then answers need to be given if not move on and find a true gem! I feel your pain I do but you cant do anything about it if she is! end of except kick off and look like a weak pathetic person in there eyes!

[greenfairie]

yeah our relationship was definitely meaningful. i guess you're right, she needed some space away from me, she told me it was a way of healing, but i didn't want to believe that. i just jump to the conclusion that she was hiding something and seeing someone new. she told me "if we're meant to be, we will be together again.."

 

Well no, she sounds like she cares about you to be honest and upfront about that.

She MIGHT be seeing someone and if she is, I'm glad she didn't do that while you guys were together.

She had enough respect for you guys to know her boundaries.

 

If she really cared about you, she would not be the type of person to be like oH HEY I'M SEEING THIS GUY AND HES AMAZING IN BED BLAHBLAHBLAH.

 

I don't know how my ex would take that but I would imagine he would just be hurt from that. I would also die if I was ever forced to reveal that to my ex if he was pushing me about WHO and IF I'm seeing someone else.

 

I care about him WAY too much to bring up something really unnecessary as a guy I just went out on a date with…. especially when were now in the friend zone.

 

When I first started dating, I kept thinking about my ex. Even though he wasn't my boyfriend anymore, I still felt like my heart was cheating on him. It hurt a lot. Your ex might be hurting too.

[fixing]

Buster Posey, she's your EX man. None of your business who she's with. The more and more you look into your life the more you will hurt yourself. Delete everything online that connects you to her. Block everything!

[organizedchaos]

she say's "i didn't leave you to be with someone else, but to be single." that doesn't necessarily mean she's seeing someone. when i ever bring it up with her she say's i'm insecure.

 

she blocked me and all my family and friends on instagram months ago... i feel like she's hiding something.

 

am i just insecure and overthinking this?? have you ever been in this situation?

 

Why are you still talking to her?

[Wall E]

Why are you still talking to her?

 

because we share a child.

[Wall E]

Well no, she sounds like she cares about you to be honest and upfront about that.

She MIGHT be seeing someone and if she is, I'm glad she didn't do that while you guys were together.

She had enough respect for you guys to know her boundaries.

 

If she really cared about you, she would not be the type of person to be like oH HEY I'M SEEING THIS GUY AND HES AMAZING IN BED BLAHBLAHBLAH.

 

I don't know how my ex would take that but I would imagine he would just be hurt from that. I would also die if I was ever forced to reveal that to my ex if he was pushing me about WHO and IF I'm seeing someone else.

 

I care about him WAY too much to bring up something really unnecessary as a guy I just went out on a date with…. especially when were now in the friend zone.

 

When I first started dating, I kept thinking about my ex. Even though he wasn't my boyfriend anymore, I still felt like my heart was cheating on him. It hurt a lot. Your ex might be hurting too.

 

she told me i'm playing the victim, and that she's hurting too. i have no idea why she would be hurting because she got what she wanted. but i realize that it wasn't easy for her to break up, because i mean a lot to her still. she was depressed after the BU and said my accusations were making it worst.

 

maybe its all in my head, that she's seeing someone else, because i'm just searching for answers and jumping to conclusions.

[greenfairie]

she told me i'm playing the victim, and that she's hurting too. i have no idea why she would be hurting because she got what she wanted. but i realize that it wasn't easy for her to break up, because i mean a lot to her still. she was depressed after the BU and said my accusations were making it worst.

 

maybe its all in my head, that she's seeing someone else, because i'm just searching for answers and jumping to conclusions.

 

oh yeah trust me, it was hard for her to break up. i was that girl once and it was one of the hardest things in my life. probably in the top 5 hardest things to do. i got so depressed after my BU and my ex kept trying to come back even when I wasn't healed 100 percent MYSELF. It sucked because I was so torn. I loved him, wanted him, but I wanted MY happiness and my spirit back. I felt like I lost all of that when I was so consumed in the relationship. I don't blame him. It's like I allowed all of this to happen. I became emotionally unavailable too, so its like I was killing the relationship and myself even more. I didn't wanna lose both, so I had to let go to get my sanity back and I knew that IF he was the right man for me, he would be there for me no matter what. Sadly, he gave up on our five years and moved on.

 

I have a motto, "no man is worth any amount of trouble if a woman loses sight of herself." That might be going on with her.

 

You can't keep wondering though, you're honestly going to drive yourself nuts because I know I can go, "Why? Why? Why?" all day long without stopping and the truth is, I get NO conclusions after all this time. Its just best to focus and move forward, try and be happy too.

[NoMoreJerks]

Ex told me the same thing, they aren't going to admit it. She told me don't worry I don't want to sleep with other guys then continued to post on Twitter how desperately she needs to get laid. Basically prostituting herself out on there, screw her I deserve so much better than someone that scummy and desperate.

Ouch. Yeah. Sorry to hear that, dude.

 

My ex was f*cking people behind my back while we were still "together." He continued to do that after we broke up, so it was a smooth transition for him LOL! (he denied it, of course, claimed he was single and wasn't with anyone, i.e. he wasn't f*cking anyone, but he did admit he was going to Thailand -- but not to see the girl I had discovered he had had sex with,but to do a threesome lol!)... While we were together, I also found out his ex (whom he has now added on facebook but only after deleting ME from it -- he adds girls in his harem to his facebook one at a time) had visited him in another country while he was out there working....

Edited November 27, 2013 by NoMoreJerks

[Simon Phoenix]

It's not really any of your business who she's seeing. You're broken up.

[Chi townD]

she say's "i didn't leave you to be with someone else, but to be single." that doesn't necessarily mean she's seeing someone. when i ever bring it up with her she say's i'm insecure.

 

she blocked me and all my family and friends on instagram months ago... i feel like she's hiding something.

 

am i just insecure and overthinking this?? have you ever been in this situation?

 

YEP! Dude, just let it go. You're never going to get a straight answer and even if you do find out that she is, in fact, seeing someone else, I guarantee you would be getting this next sentence word for word, "He's not the reason why we broke up!" Uh huh....right.

 

Just move on dude.

[Buster Posey]

oh yeah trust me, it was hard for her to break up. i was that girl once and it was one of the hardest things in my life. probably in the top 5 hardest things to do. i got so depressed after my BU and my ex kept trying to come back even when I wasn't healed 100 percent MYSELF. It sucked because I was so torn. I loved him, wanted him, but I wanted MY happiness and my spirit back. I felt like I lost all of that when I was so consumed in the relationship. I don't blame him. It's like I allowed all of this to happen. I became emotionally unavailable too, so its like I was killing the relationship and myself even more. I didn't wanna lose both, so I had to let go to get my sanity back and I knew that IF he was the right man for me, he would be there for me no matter what. Sadly, he gave up on our five years and moved on.

 

I have a motto, "no man is worth any amount of trouble if a woman loses sight of herself." That might be going on with her.

 

You can't keep wondering though, you're honestly going to drive yourself nuts because I know I can go, "Why? Why? Why?" all day long without stopping and the truth is, I get NO conclusions after all this time. Its just best to focus and move forward, try and be happy too.

 

You sound just like my ex, but I don't know how she really feels about me. I'm still holding on to hope she'll come around again.

[Tayla]

The love relationship is done. The parental side needs to take over and be a mature adult. No one likes to be falsely accused or made to be cheapened. This is the mother of your child...show a little respect. Why is it you think she has to report to you or even explain her relations? Is it in the custody agreement? I'm confused on this one....