Met someone but too scared to do anything

[ricekrispiebun]

I spent a lot of last year really wanting to be in a relationship but not finding anyone who reciprocated my feelings. For the past few months I've been so stressed with other things that I was perfectly happy to be on my own - but I've since met someone who's changed my mind about staying single.

 

I met him because we go to the same university tutorial - just the two of us and the tutor. He's very attractive (but I'm aware, out of my league) but also seems very nice. We've only ever talked about work and helping each other out with various bits and pieces, because he's barely around the faculty and he heads off from the tutorial in the opposite direction to me. So, I probably won't see him again until after Christmas.

 

I'm very aware that I could make myself look really desperate if I put a foot wrong here. Usually I don't really care if a guy thinks badly of me for being attracted to him, but I could potentially be stuck in class with him for another few months afterwards. I wouldn't find it awkward - as far as I'm concerned, someone hinting that they want to get to know you better is really flattering. However, I don't know how emotionally mature this guy is. Is there anything I can do, as the girl in the situation, to signal that I'd like to get to know him better, without coming across as weird?

[Phantomu]

I spent a lot of last year really wanting to be in a relationship but not finding anyone who reciprocated my feelings. For the past few months I've been so stressed with other things that I was perfectly happy to be on my own - but I've since met someone who's changed my mind about staying single.

 

I met him because we go to the same university tutorial - just the two of us and the tutor. He's very attractive (but I'm aware, out of my league) but also seems very nice. We've only ever talked about work and helping each other out with various bits and pieces, because he's barely around the faculty and he heads off from the tutorial in the opposite direction to me. So, I probably won't see him again until after Christmas.

 

I'm very aware that I could make myself look really desperate if I put a foot wrong here. Usually I don't really care if a guy thinks badly of me for being attracted to him, but I could potentially be stuck in class with him for another few months afterwards. I wouldn't find it awkward - as far as I'm concerned, someone hinting that they want to get to know you better is really flattering. However, I don't know how emotionally mature this guy is. Is there anything I can do, as the girl in the situation, to signal that I'd like to get to know him better, without coming across as weird?

 

You should ask him if he wanted to have coffee with you and talk about the lecture or course. Maybe then you can see if he has a girlfriend after you get to know him better. Maybe even he will be the one asking you to meet up afterwards, you never know.

[ricekrispiebun]

You should ask him if he wanted to have coffee with you and talk about the lecture or course. Maybe then you can see if he has a girlfriend after you get to know him better. Maybe even he will be the one asking you to meet up afterwards, you never know.

 

I asked him last weekend if he wanted to swap notes. I was kind of hoping he would be like, "yes, let's meet up and swap" but he just offered to read what I'd not read and email me the notes. Maybe if he'd wanted to see more of me, he'd have asked to meet up? But then again, we'd only had one class together at that point.

[Phantomu]

Just try to get to know him better. You will notice if he's interested in you

[elbe]

Do not say "I like you" or "Do you like me?" or "I want your babies please impregnate me".. Instead try, "Call me tonight here's my number" or "want to hang out after this session?" or "Why don't you come over to my place and we can study physiological division" (not the last one tho)