SpiralOut Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Last year I promised myself to not spend new years alone this year, but so far it's not looking good. There was one girl who used to invite me to group stuff, but she seems to have mostly stopped. I said no 90% of the time because some of her friends aren't nice to me, so I can't blame her for stopping, but it's frustrating that I have to say no just because of two bitchy people. I've made some acquaintances, but they haven't made it to that level of wanting to hang out during special holidays. Seems like most people would rather be with their boyfriend or fiancé or whatever anyway. It falls in the middle of the week, otherwise I would go away to visit people. Surely there must be something I can do? Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Go out alone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpiralOut Posted November 28, 2013 Author Share Posted November 28, 2013 Go out alone. Care to elaborate on where? I'm having some trouble thinking of a good place for a person to go hang out alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpiralOut Posted November 28, 2013 Author Share Posted November 28, 2013 Go out alone. Care to elaborate on where? I can't think of a good place for a person to go hang out by alone without looking like a loser. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Care to elaborate on where? I'm having some trouble thinking of a good place for a person to go hang out alone. i dont care what i do this year....ill sit on a riverbank by myself if i have to ......i am going out and spending 1200 midnight in the great outdoors......alone or with someone doesnt matter......i dont care anymore....ill gate crash someones party.....yep gonna do it .deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Surely there must be something I can do? Go skydiving. That's my plan anyway. Weather permitting of course. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2013 Share Posted November 28, 2013 Search for singles events in your area. You aren't the only one who has this concern. Go to the one that looks intersting. Can you call the girl who stopped calling because you rarely went. Do something with her in December & find out what she's doing for NYE Out of curiosity, exactly what did her friends do or not do to make you say they weren't nice to you? Perhaps you were misreading the situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 I spent new years eve last year home alone, I'm in a similar situation to you, but this year will be different, i will make it so! even if if i just go out by myself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 If you have single friends.. go out to the bar with them. Chances are when the ball hits midnight you can say cheers instead of kissing women. Not as much fun but beats being alone.. I have no such wingman and will likeyl be watching old episodes of star trek with my dog. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 If you have single friends.. go out to the bar with them. Chances are when the ball hits midnight you can say cheers instead of kissing women. Not as much fun but beats being alone.. I have no such wingman and will likeyl be watching old episodes of star trek with my dog. Good luck! star trekkin.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhuzjkE65f8 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 star trekkin.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhuzjkE65f8 Whaaaat just happened Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 Whaaaat just happened lol love star trek ....spock rocks...ill come watch it with you do a marathon new years eve....smilin.....lol....its life jim but not as we know it.....;0)...deb Link to post Share on other sites
theothersully Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 Just go to bed. It's too cold, too crowded and annoying. Go out on a different night. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 lol love star trek ....spock rocks...ill come watch it with you do a marathon new years eve....smilin.....lol....its life jim but not as we know it.....;0)...deb yesss the original one too! You are invited! =] 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 I've never been dating someone when New Years came around. It's not a big deal at all. I'll spend the evening with friends or family, or if I feel like it I'll just stay home and curl up with a movie. Don't let "society norms" dictate to you what should be done when the ball drops! 6 Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 I've never been dating someone when New Years came around. It's not a big deal at all. I'll spend the evening with friends or family, or if I feel like it I'll just stay home and curl up with a movie. Don't let "society norms" dictate to you what should be done when the ball drops! I liked this mostly because you are cute. But alternatively I agree. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpiralOut Posted November 29, 2013 Author Share Posted November 29, 2013 When I say I'm alone, I don't mean just single, I mean I have very few friends. No family in town, no real friends just some aquaintances. It's my own fault for isolating myself and letting my social anxiety control me. I like the idea of going to a bar alone and just talking to random people. If anyone asks I could say that my friends disappeared on me lol Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 Upon further inspection I remember now they close all the bars on New Years Eve where I live to prevent drunk driving. When I say alone it's the same kind of alone =] Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 Whaaaat just happened Er... Just THE. BEST. SONG. EVER!!!!! You should see us dancing to it at conventions!! NYE plans are easy. Just try to hang out with some friends and insinuate yourself to their plans. I've done that a few times and it worked! Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 I'm not sweating New Year's. I plan to stay home and work on my renovation project. Next year, I'll be hosting potlucks and costume parties at my house while all the alcohol-drinking singles are out at their boring boozefests and bars, getting rejected. :-p Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 You could call up the woman who always invited you to her parties, and ask her if she would like to go to a singles event with you for New Years Eve, or some other activity. You could tell her that you appreciated her inviting you to her parties in the past, even if you didn't always attend, and you want to reciprocate by inviting her out this time. You could put a profile up on a dating website and have a date by New Years Eve. I know a woman who put up her profile just a couple of weeks before Valentine's Day and she had a nice date for Valentine's Day. For some reason, the relationship did not last, but she enjoyed Valentine's Day with someone interesting. You could plan something to do for yourself, that you would enjoy, such as making yourself some special treats, watching some of your favorite movies or a new movie, working on a new project, or doing something at home you really enjoy. You could host a party yourself and invite people you know, both coupled and singles. You could invite your neighbors to a party at your house, and call it a neighborhood open house. That's a good way to get to know your neighbors better. There's lots of things you could do which would be enjoyable. And just as a side note, if someone invites you somewhere and you enjoy their company, then go to the party even if there are a couple of people you don't really like there. One aspect of Social Phobia is that people avoid social situations if they feel there is a chance that someone won't like them or not everybody at the event likes them. You shouldn't worry so much about being liked by everyone. Most people are not liked by everyone, but they don't allow that to control their activities. Next time, take people up on their invitations. Allow yourself to be out of your comfort zone. Don't obsess about who might not like you, but enjoy spending time with those who do like you. Link to post Share on other sites
Leeway Harris Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 I find it crazy there is that much pressure on people to be partying that night... You're right, it is crazy. We make so much more of a big deal out of these traditions than they're really worth. If you have something fun to do, great, enjoy yourself to the fullest! But people need to remember that NYE is really just another night. If you're not having fun that night, there are still 364 other ones. Link to post Share on other sites
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