DM5579 Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 My ex and I divorced several years ago and since then we have always worked well together for the sake of the children. It has been a struggle everyday for me because I miss everything about her and our family. It always appeared that she moved on seeing as she strayed which I have forgiven her for many years ago and then she settled quickly into a relationship with someone else and moved into his house. They got engaged and I came to terms with the fact that she truly has moved on. Yes, I have always tried to give her space while reinforcing my feelings for her. Now, In the midst of all of this the tenants in the marital residence which we rented out after the divorce decided to move out and she told me she wanted to desperately go back to a better place. She then broke it off with her fiancée, moved out of his house back into our old residence, and wants us to spend some more time together...Claims she has not been happy and is tired of pretending to be. Yes, she still loves the man she was engaged to but claims she cant move on without doing this for herself and wants to figure things out. I went over and we talked for about 15 mins about how peaceful she looked now that she is home again. I honestly have not seen that smile in years and it captured my heart again. She said she was, thanked me repeatedly for not making the house an issue and we hugged. Now, I wanted to kiss her right then and there but took a deep breath and tearfully said goodbye. I have struggled for years putting on a fake smile and want nothing but her to be happy yet as a father I also want to be happy as well and not go backwards or read into anything. When I play it off as no big deal to everyone who knows how I feel about her they say that it is and the actions she took you don't just take for any reason. I truly love her from the bottom of my heart and yes have always wanted a new beginning, but I know that is beyond my control. While I will remain strong and plaster a fake smile on like I always have should I let go and read into some of this chaos or simply ignore and fake smile it like I always have? Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonBanana Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 Hi there! It sounds like she may just need the space to reevaluate her life and your old home is a safe or easy place to go. But I try hard not to read into things under the motto that if someone wanted something to change they would come plain with it. Did she initiate the divorce all those years ago? Link to post Share on other sites
dumped2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Share Posted November 29, 2013 She moved on a while back. Don't be her fallback guy. You still love her but she has shown that it is not the same for her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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