Johnsmith1003 Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 (edited) I'll take these grudge to my grave. I don't forgive easily. I'm nice and kind to those i meet by default, but man, just wrong me once...Someone does something to me and wrongs me, no matter how small, and I essentially disown them. Friend steals $500, i tell him to have a nice life. Sister constantly bullies me, I'll resent her forever. I'm withheld sex for a night and I'm the worst nightmare, etc. Why?? Edited December 1, 2013 by Johnsmith1003 Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 Are you by chance a Scorpio? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 I'm a Libra and I'm the exact same way. I will be the nicest person you have ever met. Do me wrong and you are done to me forever. I have no time for a.ssholes in my life. With my ex, one of the girls of the group went behind my back to MY boyfriend and talked s.hit about me to him. I found out and for the next 2+ years I didn't so much as even look at the girl. My ex cheated on me? He was wiped out of my life and off the face of my earth after 3 years together as if he never even existed. I will forever hate him for his lies, deceit, and cheating ways. I can honestly say that if he died, my reaction would be: "that sucks." Link to post Share on other sites
Vogeltron Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 I'm a Libra and I'm the exact same way. I will be the nicest person you have ever met. Do me wrong and you are done to me forever. I have no time for a.ssholes in my life. With my ex, one of the girls of the group went behind my back to MY boyfriend and talked s.hit about me to him. I found out and for the next 2+ years I didn't so much as even look at the girl. My ex cheated on me? He was wiped out of my life and off the face of my earth after 3 years together as if he never even existed. I will forever hate him for his lies, deceit, and cheating ways. I can honestly say that if he died, my reaction would be: "that sucks." Haha, maybe this is a Libra trait. But when something I feel goes astray cheating etc. I am done with it I absolutely do not look back. Maybe I have not been as involved to hold a grudge. Maybe it is just my personality. But I refuse to talk to you, acknowledge you or anything else. For sure a trait of a Libra. No looking back. Link to post Share on other sites
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 It sounds like splitting, when you see someone as either all good or all bad. If someone pisses you off, you can paint them black, like they don't exist to you. It's something I've done all my life but it's from having borderline personality disorder. It's black/white thinking. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 It sounds like splitting, when you see someone as either all good or all bad. If someone pisses you off, you can paint them black, like they don't exist to you. It's something I've done all my life but it's from having borderline personality disorder. It's black/white thinking. Yes my ex did this to me and still occasionally does but for much shorter periods of time. I managed to fight my way to the other side Link to post Share on other sites
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 Yes my ex did this to me and still occasionally does but for much shorter periods of time. I managed to fight my way to the other side It's difficult, but I sometimes challenge myself to find something about that person I respect, despite the splitting. I might still resent a person, but I think it's helping me not feel so strongly about it. Now I mainly feel uneasy (anxiety) around people I've had issue with. I'm avoidant, so I try my best to not let our paths cross. Link to post Share on other sites
AShogunNamedMarcus Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 You know, I've always considered myself a bridge burner. Like, a master bridge burner. That's what it comes down to. You burn them to ash and they are gone forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 You know, I've always considered myself a bridge burner. Like, a master bridge burner. That's what it comes down to. You burn them to ash and they are gone forever. I've been on the receiving end of this ...... it sucks . Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 It's difficult, but I sometimes challenge myself to find something about that person I respect, despite the splitting. I might still resent a person, but I think it's helping me not feel so strongly about it. Now I mainly feel uneasy (anxiety) around people I've had issue with. I'm avoidant, so I try my best to not let our paths cross. You know, I've always considered myself a bridge burner. Like, a master bridge burner. That's what it comes down to. You burn them to ash and they are gone forever. Yeah I fought my ex pretty hard for probably 3 years, especially when I started working out what his issues were. Once we talked about it honestly, especially about the splitting, it got better. He is more self-aware. He is avoidant to a degree as well with anything that gives him great anxiety, I remember I used to hear it in his voice when we spoke occasionally. It's much better now, can occasionally go for a beer or coffee. He tells me when he isn't feeling it and I leave him alone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 i am cancer so .......i retreat........when i am hurt...i dont like to let people know they have hurt me .....i have always forgiven .....and I dont forget what people do to me......well a a little bit......lol...ok most of it.....but ......i dont hold a grudge .....maybe it isnt a cancer trait more a me trait.... this song rocks btw thought i woudl share it....cant stay mad when you hear it bye....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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