ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 Yeah,I did it. I forwarded an e-mail to her from my neice who is having a baby shower. She said she knew werent together right now but considered her part of the family. I thought she would like to know that. Well she replied,it was a very nice reply,although she stated that as far as we were concerened it was "out of her hands,one minute we were together,the next we were broke-up,who knows" What does that mean? Anyway I called her to thank her for being so nice. She was on another call and would call me back. In the meantime I went out for a bite to eat.When I got back there was no message ,I called her back and got no answer, that really frustrates the hell out of me. Why ignore me? I have been good about giving her space. I dunno, I'm pissed now but I'm going to keep quiet about it. I'm not sorry I called her,but what the hell? I know if someone doesnt return or anwer the calls it means I dont want to talk to you,but I havent done anything to warrant being shunned, any insight on this matter? Please, AJ. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 Originally posted by ajogokats I'm not sorry I called her,but what the hell? I know if someone doesnt return or anwer the calls it means I dont want to talk to you,but I havent done anything to warrant being shunned, any insight on this matter? Please, AJ. Yes you have done something. You have come off as desperate, pathetic and weak. And women despise and have no respect for men like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Author Share Posted December 31, 2004 Geez Alpha could you be a little more straight-forward? Yes you're right,I needed that slap in the face. Thanks, why is it that we dont see our own pathetic image but we can see others? I'll take it to heart, AJ. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 Originally posted by ajogokats Geez Alpha could you be a little more straight-forward? Yes you're right,I needed that slap in the face. Thanks, why is it that we dont see our own pathetic image but we can see others? I'll take it to heart, AJ. sorry man but that is my honest opinion. going just by what u wrote, of course. Link to post Share on other sites
SadAndLonely Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 Well, while my style differs from alpha's, he does sort of have a point. Let me put it more gently. You did fine forwarding her the invite, and then calling her, but then when she said she'd call you back, the ball was in her court, and you should have just let it be. Maybe something came up and she had to leave the house. Don't worry so much because she didn't call you right away. Maybe the "other call" was just an excuse. Either way, calling again does sort of push her away. I learned this lesson the hard way with my ex/current boyfriend. Now when he starts to pull away I act totally cool instead of chasing him. And calling her again is sort of chasing her. So just relax. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Author Share Posted December 31, 2004 Yes,I have got to get a grip,look at what's taking place here and show some backbone, geez,why dont I always see that,Thanks,and give me one more slap for good measure, AJ. Ps. I havent talked to her since then and not going to. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 AJ just dont' beat up on yourself if you do slip up, call her or email her. If it makes you feel better and you need to talk to her then do it. Seems like you have not had a chance to talk or have closure. She is sort of playing abit it seems as well. She wants you there, around just a wee bit, but only when she wants ya to be. I don't know your full situation but hang in there...Time heals all wounds. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Author Share Posted December 31, 2004 Well,I havent called her and not going to. Word has it she has met someone,so that explains that. Any words of consolation? Besides NC and move on. Thanks AJ. Link to post Share on other sites
Puma Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 yea dont call!! as far as words of consulation..hmmm, go out havefun at least try...fake urself out that ur happy! it works haha, just smile and keep ya head up cause u better than taht bro stay positive, the fact that shes seein someone doesnt matter, dont see that as ur chances being over..just see it as ur reson to move on more now, but keep coo about it if ya feel you want her back andif she calls sometime in the future then payback is a biatcch!! haha Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Author Share Posted December 31, 2004 Yeah,that's what I needed to hear, thanks,Happy New Year. Link to post Share on other sites
Puma Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 no prob man!! my pleasure..jsut spreadin luv all around yeaa haha..take care and have a good new years also..and make some resolutions..and stick to them!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Author Share Posted December 31, 2004 Originally posted by Puma no prob man!! my pleasure..jsut spreadin luv all around yeaa haha..take care and have a good new years also..and make some resolutions..and stick to them!! ....I have to have people like yourselves to make myself aware of the bullsht self-pity I'm wallowing in. I have survived a death of a brother,divorce,I'll survive this one too. People like you help,I really need it sometimes. Thanks guys.... I"LL BE BACK!! AJ. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Author Share Posted December 31, 2004 Probably will be awhile but by then,I'll know how to handle it. AJ. Ps. I agree with the Bible,jealousy being a deadly sin, got avoid it at all costs. Link to post Share on other sites
Puma Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 there ya go!!keep ur spirits high andwhen u feelin down..just change ur thoughts to more positive ones and slowly u will get better. thinkin too much can driva a person crazy!! also not good for ur health when it starts to hurt so we all have tohelp each other out to keep on goin. afterall, "we all get by with a lil help from our friends" thats good ur being positive..but just remember even if she doesnt come back its ok cause u love her and want her to be happy. also we want what we cant have and when someone breaks up with us..we want them more for that same reason..just somehtin to think about. another year..another start, to love, prosperity, and health people!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted December 31, 2004 Author Share Posted December 31, 2004 ...and God bless ya' bro. God bless us Everyone. -Tiny Tim Gotta run,...AJ. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 Hey my fellow Kentuckian I know how that feels when you call them just to be friendly even, and then you get treated like some kind of pest. I guess its hard to take knowing that someone is so important to you and then they treat you like you are nothing. It sux...I know. I agree with what the others have said. Don't look at her seeing some other guy as being a terrible thing. If anything, it is more reason to move on with your life. Don't sit and dwell on someone that is not also thinking about you. Who wants that crap? True love is mutual. Just remember that. There will be a day when you will meet someone who will love you as much as you love them. Unrequited love is a b*tch. You deserve to be loved and respected not discarded and tossed to the side dammit! I can't think of anything more to say that the others haven't already said. I'm very sorry this is happening to you and know that you are not alone..most of us here on LS are also battling heartbreak. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted January 1, 2005 Author Share Posted January 1, 2005 very kind of you. I spoke to my older brother tonite on the phone. He asked if I had talked to her,I said not since Sunday. He said do you love her? I said,yes. He said I know ya do,you got to go after her then. I took his advise,called her , it went well,she just wants to be happy,I said I wasnt going to try and push her into anything. I tried to give you space,liked you asked,she said I know,.. you did. Anyway,I'm like Finn,in another thread,I'm not holding on too tightly,I probably will wait until she calls,I do love her but as you say,true love is mutual. I've waited almost two months,I can wait a little longer. I think it will be ok,but I'm prepared if it's over. The main thing is to be faithful,to them and to yourself. Try to clean up all the crap in your life,you know,all the sht deep down that you knew all the time shouldnt be there. And help people,like you all did for me when I needed it the most. And please use NC when someone tells you too,it works,one way or another,cause ya got to step out of the ring before you you pound them to death, this AJ. Good night and happy New Year. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ajogokats Posted January 1, 2005 Author Share Posted January 1, 2005 I think I missed my calling as a script writer! Link to post Share on other sites
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