Should I or should I not???

[Sue]

I recently started wondering wheher or not i should stay frinds with this guy I know. I have known this guy for about 3 years. The first year we were pretty much going out, i really fell hard for him. The reason we broke up was becuase he came out of the closet. I continued to stay friends with him after the fact. This experienec was new to me too and I wanted to help him out the best way I can. We had our difficulties, but we always got through them together. I seemed somewhat protected of him, maybe too much, but i just wanted him to do right and be happy. The end of last summer we ended up getting into a fight. Before that i found out that he has been lying to me about things, doing drugs, his drinking was out of control, being inconsiterate towards me and disrespecting me, plus at this point my grnadfather died and i needed him to be thier for me, a person to talk to considering he was suppose to be my best friend, and his drinking that day ended up being more important. So i called him on everything that I felt and he turned it all around on me saying i shouldn't have got to close with him adn that i should be more like a friend then his mother, ect.... I was so hurt. He walked out on me after that and I didn't hear from him until two months later. My life went on and I was actually happy. When he did call i got no apology and i was expecting one. We just talked alittle about what happen and he told me that he stoped the drugs(apperntly) and that he was cutting back on his drinking. We played phone tag awhile after that and we made plans to get together, but he always sold me out. From this point on I was wondering wheter or not to stay friends cause if seemed like things has not changed. About a month ago he called me and said he didn't want to be friends anymore again. The reason for this was cause at that point he was attemtping suicide and thougt it would be easier. At this point in time we are friends again. Its just that i feel trapped now. I believed in him so much and he let me down in so many ways. I don't feel as if i can trust him anymore. I really trying too, but remebering back to all that was said and the way he treated me how do i go about telling him???? I don't understand how a person can change on you like that. He was diagnoised with depression after his suicide attemp. Im wondering now wherter or not his depression has to do with the way he was(ie.how he treated me) or if thats just the type of person he comes off to be and i didn't pick up on it. Al I guess i really want from him is an apology, or somehting like that. I did alot for him and thou i never asked for anything in return it just would have been nice to have, exspecially at the time of the death. I do still care about him, and i want us to be the friends we were before, with out all the lying and disrespect, but in my heart i feel that will never be....

[SIMILAR INCIDENT]

I had a similar situation happen

 

where I was trying to be friends with an ex.

 

She just started playing head games with me.

 

I recommend you not talk to this person. Obviously

 

he doesn't have your best interest in mind. Yuo already know

 

you're happy not talking to him or being friends.

 

Stop living in the past. Come to live in the now moment

 

and enjoy your ever so short time on earth. No one has

 

time for head games. So much more living to do. You need

 

to stop ALL communication with this person, for your

 

own good. Start living for yourself and your others friends

 

and family.

 

Take Care

 

T.

I recently started wondering wheher or not i should stay frinds with this guy I know. I have known this guy for about 3 years. The first year we were pretty much going out, i really fell hard for him. The reason we broke up was becuase he came out of the closet. I continued to stay friends with him after the fact. This experienec was new to me too and I wanted to help him out the best way I can. We had our difficulties, but we always got through them together. I seemed somewhat protected of him, maybe too much, but i just wanted him to do right and be happy. The end of last summer we ended up getting into a fight. Before that i found out that he has been lying to me about things, doing drugs, his drinking was out of control, being inconsiterate towards me and disrespecting me, plus at this point my grnadfather died and i needed him to be thier for me, a person to talk to considering he was suppose to be my best friend, and his drinking that day ended up being more important. So i called him on everything that I felt and he turned it all around on me saying i shouldn't have got to close with him adn that i should be more like a friend then his mother, ect.... I was so hurt. He walked out on me after that and I didn't hear from him until two months later. My life went on and I was actually happy. When he did call i got no apology and i was expecting one. We just talked alittle about what happen and he told me that he stoped the drugs(apperntly) and that he was cutting back on his drinking. We played phone tag awhile after that and we made plans to get together, but he always sold me out. From this point on I was wondering wheter or not to stay friends cause if seemed like things has not changed. About a month ago he called me and said he didn't want to be friends anymore again. The reason for this was cause at that point he was attemtping suicide and thougt it would be easier. At this point in time we are friends again. Its just that i feel trapped now. I believed in him so much and he let me down in so many ways. I don't feel as if i can trust him anymore. I really trying too, but remebering back to all that was said and the way he treated me how do i go about telling him???? I don't understand how a person can change on you like that. He was diagnoised with depression after his suicide attemp. Im wondering now wherter or not his depression has to do with the way he was(ie.how he treated me) or if thats just the type of person he comes off to be and i didn't pick up on it. Al I guess i really want from him is an apology, or somehting like that. I did alot for him and thou i never asked for anything in return it just would have been nice to have, exspecially at the time of the death. I do still care about him, and i want us to be the friends we were before, with out all the lying and disrespect, but in my heart i feel that will never be....