Guys -have you ever fallen in love with an average/not super-pretty girl?

[ponchsox]

I find that average looking women make up for it by being wild in the sack. I've slept with hot women who just lay there

[hotpotato]

It's Usually the other way around though. Guy uses the average to below average women for sexual favors then dates/marries the "hot" girl. Look at male celebrities with groupies

 

Theres nothing usual about celebrities...

[PJKino]

Men arent nearly as shallow as you think..Women seem to project their own vanity and shallowness onto men

[gabgab]

Ive been told im really good looking and smart, but yet I have guys leaving me for more average women.

 

Im like the female Good Luck Chuck. Guys will come at me for sex or whatever. They drop me and get married or engaged to a more average looking woman often pretty quickly.

 

Oh believe me they think of you when they settle for an average girl. Men do this out of insecurity

[Iguanna]

Oh believe me they think of you when they settle for an average girl. Men do this out of insecurity

 

Hello? Generalization???????

[hotpotato]

Oh believe me they think of you when they settle for an average girl. Men do this out of insecurity

 

They seem to be happy with their kids and wives. *shrug *

 

Once again, do you know the difference between love and lust?

[Iguanna]

It seems that for some men love and lust are the same, and it's ok. What is NOT ok is when they try to create a general rule with this and make average looking women (95% of the women are average...) feel bad about themselves. And the worst part is that these men are rarely handsome themselves, but hey, they have to get the hottest chicks to "love" them.

[gabgab]

It seems that for some men love and lust are the same, and it's ok. What is NOT ok is when they try to create a general rule with this and make average looking women (95% of the women are average...) feel bad about themselves. And the worst part is that these men are rarely handsome themselves, but hey, they have to get the hottest chicks to "love" them.

 

 

Thats because men are more obsessed with looks than women and always feel they deserve someone better looking than them. Did you know the part of the brain for sex and visual stimulation is bigger in men than in women? Yep, men are biologically wired to be obsessed with women's looks.

[gabgab]

They seem to be happy with their kids and wives. *shrug *

 

Once again, do you know the difference between love and lust?

 

Yes. Several men in this thread stated they fell for an average girl, but "fell the hardest" for a beautiful girl. Falling isnt lust.

[Woggle]

Yes. Several men in this thread stated they fell for an average girl, but "fell the hardest" for a beautiful girl. Falling isnt lust.

 

Maybe these men don't consider them average. What is average to somebody might not be to another person. Also personality matters a lot more to men than many women are willing to admit. I could have married a woman that could be a model but I chose not to because living with her would have made me miserable.

[2fargone]

I know that 'average' women get married/partnered every day and are loved by their partners and happy etc

 

...but I was wondering whether or not that crazy/all consuming madly in love feeling is reserved for the likes of beautiful women only?

 

Is it possible for a man to be madly head over heels in love with an average woman? Have you ever been truly in love with a woman that perhaps didn't meet the typical definition of pretty or beautiful?

 

 

 

Yes, I have. Besides, I consider myself average. But I know it's hardly ever the looks that women fall for with me. I'm fine with that, I'm confident enough

[John316C]

as an attractive guy - yes its possible. very possible. but we all have standards and goals.

 

its not shallow. what you want isn't shallow. its just what you want.

[hotpotato]

Yes. Several men in this thread stated they fell for an average girl, but "fell the hardest" for a beautiful girl. Falling isnt lust.

 

Most guys said they fell in love with some beautiful to them. Are we reading the same thread?

[MasonJarTeaDrinker]

Yes I have but honestly it faded away and I fell head over heels over a really hot one. Life sucks and it isn't fair IDK why we people go through this stuff I wish I could feel how I feel for a super sexy girl with a normal one but it's never the same.

 

Those damn sexy girls always tend to smell so damn good and have the softest skin I hate that. What are we men supposed to do? It's instinctive and I have the hardest time getting over them pretty girls.

[Taramere]

I know that 'average' women get married/partnered every day and are loved by their partners and happy etc

 

...but I was wondering whether or not that crazy/all consuming madly in love feeling is reserved for the likes of beautiful women only?

 

I think it's generally reserved for women who the man regards as beautiful - but opinions on that score can be quite varied. I've been shocked at times when I heard a man raving on about a woman who I considered very average, and other times surprised when a man was dismissive of a woman who seemed very blessed in the looks dept.

 

Of course there might be times they're just at it (ie deliberately overstating one and understating the other), but I do think that sometimes it's just a matter of taste.

 

The question is, would you want to be the object of bunny-boiling levels of love? Obsessive, all-consuming love is often just a couple of disappointments or moments of frustration away from all consuming hate and vengeance. Be careful what you wish for (if somebody developing a nearly insane infatuation for you is what you wish for).

[taiko]

I suspect that "average" looking women, on the whole, make far superior wives. Actually I don't suspect, I am certain.

 

Why would you think that?

 

I would guess the social advantages of being seen as above average in physical appearances in any particular society might tend to soften the potential wife skills and attitudes because as the above average physically attractive one she gets by on her face and body and doesn't have to develop other things needed to attract a mate.

 

However I don't get this thread, or I just don't understand the definitions of average and in love. Is the OP suggesting that only those seen as above average by a particular male can be loved by him? I guess some men can get bitter that they do not have the power, money or fame to attract a woman that he see's as above average. Most settle and fall truly and deeply in love. Or perhaps I am jaded because by my scale the best looking person I see on a regular basis is "average" with above average being a Maxim, not a Victoria Secret or runway, model. And I mean the average Maxim model, not the celebrity who would be too skinny/fat, "average" and never get in the magazine without her name power and celebrity status drawing buyers

[regine_phalange]

I saw this movie the other day, with a very handsome italian actor who used to be a model... Here is a photo of him and his wife... They have been married for 13 years!

Edited December 17, 2013 by regine_phalange
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[hotpotato]

I would guess the social advantages of being seen as above average in physical appearances in any particular society might tend to soften the potential wife skills and attitudes because as the above average physically attractive one she gets by on her face and body and doesn't have to develop other things needed to attract a mate.

 

However I don't get this thread, or I just don't understand the definitions of average and in love. Is the OP suggesting that only those seen as above average by a particular male can be loved by him? I guess some men can get bitter that they do not have the power, money or fame to attract a woman that he see's as above average. Most settle and fall truly and deeply in love. Or perhaps I am jaded because by my scale the best looking person I see on a regular basis is "average" with above average being a Maxim, not a Victoria Secret or runway, model. And I mean the average Maxim model, not the celebrity who would be too skinny/fat, "average" and never get in the magazine without her name power and celebrity status drawing buyers

 

Is that something you have witnessed, or are you assuming good looking women act like that?

[taiko]

Is that something you have witnessed, or are you assuming good looking women act like that?

 

I was speculating on the other poster's comment about the reason as he had not responded.

[janedoe67]

There are as many definitions of "beauty" as there are people. I am very happy with myself, but I know that many people will look at me and not immediately think "Wowza! Drop dead gorgeous!" On the other hand, I have gotten that response before.

 

An intelligent person of depth will understand that beauty can very depending on who is defining it.

[jimloveslips]

I'm way late to this party, but I was in love with my future wife before we'd exchanged pictures.

In all honesty I have to say that if she had been a really ugly girl we may have had some problems, but we had phoned, emailed and online chatted for a long time (by the way this was way way back before instant messenger, texting or anything remotely convenient for international conversation that didn't cost the earth - actually my final quarterly phone bill when I left the UK was a shade under 700 British pounds which probably equals five grand US today) and had a very deep emotional connection… fortunately we didn't repulse each other when we finally got to meet in person!

 

My very first "serious" girlfriend (took her home to meet the folks) at Uni, was no looker, but she sure was fun to be around.

[Taramere]

Yes. Several men in this thread stated they fell for an average girl, but "fell the hardest" for a beautiful girl. Falling isnt lust.

 

Are you male or female?

 

I think what you're talking about is infatuation. Something more than pure lust, because it has a strong emotional component - but it's also very irrational in its nature. Hence the term infatuation. It can make a big fool of the infatuated person, which is why it's so often followed by the anger and bitterness that we often see on these forums. That's surely the difference between genuine love and infatuation. With infatuation, take away the fired up emotions and the lust and you're often no left with very much at all. Not much respect, not much admiration, not much trust.

 

People of both genders are often looking for the whole package. The person that they admire, respect, trust and are infatuated by, who is equally infatuated by them...but either the infatuation is short lived (which is normal) or it lasts and lasts with the result that the infatuated person remains in a state of strong irrationality. Which is a very unhealthy state of affairs.

 

I don't think many women out there long for stupid and irrational men. Not even those women who long for men to become infatuated by their beauty. They want the ego boost, perhaps, but they probably don't really want the infatuated fool who is giving them that ego boost.