did i make a mistake? help!

[smile]

Ok so even tho I had spent the better part of yesterday vomiting, I went out to a bar with my ex and his friends... and his brother. He called me once and we chatted, then again and asked if I wanted to go, I said nah I felt sick.. then he called again and said "come on we are having fun"

 

So I get ready and he calls again. Making sure I am comming. Then I get halfway there and he calls again. I get there and he buys me a beer. I hang out with everyone but he is all playful with me. I was reading a book he was taking it away from me, trying to turn pages.. trying to read it with me.

 

So anyway we go to the music shop across the street and he plays the guitar and sings to me. I do try to avoid hanging around him too much so I shop around and he follows ME! Anyway then its time to go home and he invites me to come over to hang out.

 

So I go and hang out a bit. Had some fun.. had more beer.. and then he gets on the computer. I am having fun hanging out or whatever but he is totally IMing someone. So I just said.. hey I am gonna go.. cause I mean really you dont invite someone over and then chat with someone else.

 

So I get home (two blocks away) and turn on the comp. He IMs and asks why I left like that. I said he invited me over and he was IMing with someone else so I came home. He said he was asking someone if they were going to the show tonight and now the only person he is IMing was me. He said he swears it was nothing just asking about the show. He said he was sorry and told me to come back.

 

So I did... I brought over a xmas gift for someone that was there. So it didnt look so fishy. He laughed and we hang out more.

 

Weird stuff... while he was talking to a friend who is out of town I heard him say something like "yeh I was there yesterday" If thats what he said that sucks because that is where his recent ex lives. Then he got a call and said no I put gas in .. I swear I put $15 in yesterday. Whatever and he hung up.

 

So he starts to feel sick.. so he gets some NYQuil and heads for bed.. asks me to read him a bedtime story. We used to read eachother our favorite kids books when we were together. So I read some.. and she smiled and cuddled close to me. He asked me to stay the night.

 

Thats kinda big because everyone was there last night. And they knew I was in there. He didn't even tell anyone we were talking as of two days before xmas. So I stayed.

 

I woke up in the middle of the night thinking I should go.. he heard me and asked me to come back to bed. He spooned me and we slept like that most of the night.

 

His alarm went off and he rolled over towards me and just held me. I mean cuddly and sweet just held me. No sex , nothing.. just cuddles. It was nice.

 

So I get up and leave and there is a jack in the box bag under his windsheild wipers. I have no idea who it was from or what it was. I am wondering.. could it be her? Could it be a friend we have who came into town.. she lives not too far... few blocks... could i be a joke or someone being a jerk? should i worry?

[Puma]

haha nah dont trip..ur exagerating now..just be grateful..hell freee foood!! haha

[Gottabestrong]

What could you possibly have done wrong?

 

Sounds great to me, and he definitely seems to very interested in you.

 

If you need to hear some critique, then I think you did not have to go back to his place after he IMed you and asked you to come back.

 

Other than that I think the evening sounds like you had a good time.

 

Good luck and enjoy!

[smile]

thanks, I dont know what was IN the jack in the box bag. He was getting ready for work inside and I walked out first. I saw it , but it was none of my business so I left it there. That was hard. The old me wouldve looked at it .. I mean no one was around.. or even taken it off thrown it in the gutter.. or my car.

 

I mean ppl steal things right? On a busy street. But I didnt. I was proud that I could walk away. Sure I eyeballed the thing until I had driven far enough so it was out of sight.. but I didnt touch it.

 

I am not even going to ask him what it was. If he mentions it I will be like "yeh I saw that .. just thought somone couldnt find a garbage can" . Ok thats enough of that.

 

I guess I am kind of afraid of being there too much or not being there enough. I dunno. I think I need some coffee... thanks guys... I feel better hearing someone elses opinion of the situation ... happy new year!

[smile]

I guess my main question is.. what are the chances that he is using me? I read on here all the time about boys who are using their exs as someone to "kill time" while they look for someone else.

 

I cant imagine why he would want someone else.. but I mean really... what do you guys think are the chances? And what makes this different? I mean it feels diffrent.but you know I am a bit biased. Lets see how New Years goes... thanks for the comments.. any answer would help!

[ajogokats]

If you choose to be with him,you have a right to the truth and nothing but. If you trust him,ok,but if not then bye,bye. He should have nothing to hide,ask him about the bag,see what his reaction is,you'll know by that, just my opinion, AJ.

[Universe]

You guys have been seeing each other a lot in the past few weeks. Right? Things seem to be going well. But you're still not back together. It sounds like your starting to feel like your being taken advantage of. If that's how you feel, then you need to take action so not to feel that way and show him that you have too much self-respect to be taken advantage of. I don't think you have to confront him about it. I wouldn't ask him about the bag. I would just gradually make yourself less available to him. Don't openly avoid contact. But put other priorities ahead of him more and more. He knows how you feel. But this will show him that you have too much self respect to put up with that sort of abuse (or any abuse for that matter).

 

Good luck, Smile.