munkeygirl Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 My ex (of about a month) keeps coming into my work to say hello. He does this almost every shift. I work in a coffeebar; he lives nearby so it isnt a pain in the a#s for him to stop by. My question is, what would motivate him to do this? Every time he comes in, its for a quick chitchat and a hug. These encounters usually last five minutes. Does this mean he wants to be friends? Does this mean he wants me back? should I not read too much into this? please help. Its hard to be objective when it's happening to you. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 31, 2004 Share Posted December 31, 2004 if u dumped him then he wants to get back together if he dumped u then he may want to be friend or is reconsidering dumping u. Link to post Share on other sites
smile Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 yeh I guess it depends on who dumped who. I mean after a month and still wanting hugs.. that sounds like he misses you. If he broke up perhaps he is missing you more than he thought he would. How long were you together? I mean if it was a long time sometimes it is hard for a guy to let go of that closeness. If that is the case he may just want you around for comfort and is ready to plow into just friends. My opinion about that is.. if a guy wants to be friends immediately I dont think he is over the relationship. Because if you dont want to be with someone.. dont be with them... Be nice and responsive but if he was the dumper then you let him make the big moves. Dont ignore them or pass them off but be coy and responsive. Do you want to be just friends? Why did you break up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author munkeygirl Posted January 1, 2005 Author Share Posted January 1, 2005 Our breakup : I initiated it, but then relented and he wouldn't take me back.. So I guess that makes me the dumpee? Not sure. we were together for 6 months... I would like to be friends with him but am still really attracted to him and want to rip off his clothes when I see him. The next question is, how do you tell if they just want to be friends or something more? He has been contacting me more and more over the past week or two. I know he can get booty from whomever cause he is freakin hot... So obviously he is not lonely. He said something about me coming over to see his renovated kitchen.. He is all blushy when he comes to talk, but also goes on and on about his life. Maybe he just misses having me to talk to? I dont call or msg him ever. Is there something I could look for that would tell me what his motives are? Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 He misses you. Go see his renovated kitchen! NOW! Any talk of reconciliation should be brought up by him. Hang out with the guy, you still want him! Only way to find out is to give it a chance and hang out and then see how he acts. You will be able to tell his motives by being around him more in person. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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