Married and asked out for drinks

[bbrad]

Some women?

 

Geeze,

 

You know I am married, you know nothing can happen, but it sure is nice to know that you are interested.

 

I recently had an old friend of mine who just got divorced, ask me out for drinks. There is no way I can do that, right?

 

She is so hot, and my wife and are I going though a really rough time, it would be great to have someone to talk to, but there might just be too much of a what if past between she and I. We had such great chemistry, almost didn't get married because of her. Oh man, that ass!

[ChooseTruth]

Yup, dangerous. You might be tempted, but that's even more reason to stay away. It's not worth risking the destruction of your family. Those who don't see their own vulnerabilities are the most vulnerable.

 

Maybe even tell your wife that your friend asked you out for drinks, and now you intend to avoid her. That shows you know your boundaries and will likely throw some cold water on the situation.

[whichwayisup]

Some women?

 

Geeze,

 

You know I am married, you know nothing can happen, but it sure is nice to know that you are interested.

 

I recently had an old friend of mine who just got divorced, ask me out for drinks. There is no way I can do that, right?

 

She is so hot, and my wife and are I going though a really rough time, it would be great to have someone to talk to, but there might just be too much of a what if past between she and I. We had such great chemistry, almost didn't get married because of her. Oh man, that ass!

 

Dumb move if you decide to go. Really a bad decision, it'll only lead trouble. Don't do it.

 

And, if you need to talk to someone about your marital problems, talk to a GUY friend or a marriage counselor - With your wife!

[d0nnivain]

One of my friends calls his wedding band "the ring of power" & swears that women who otherwise wouldn't have given him the time of day hit on him since he's been married.

 

 

Good for you for resisting temptation.

 

 

Take it for the ego stroke it should have provided & move on.

 

 

To some extent it depends on the context. For most of my 20+ year career, I was the only woman professional in the office. Many times at the end of a long day, after the staff left, the guys would suggest grabbing a drink after work. Once in a while it was my idea. I only wanted company to go into a bar. I wasn't looking for anything more than a drinking companion for an hour. Every so often a guy would tell me his wife wouldn't like it. I always respected that but I also offered to meet the wife, include her or at least talk to her. Every wife always gave her "permission" for her husband to have drinks with me after that.

[nescafe1982]

Bad idea bears.

[painfullyobvious]

You are having marital problems, she just recently divorced, you are attracted to her and thought about not getting married because of her. You know the answer here and what you should do.

 

You communicate with this woman in any manner you are falling into the rabbit hole. Drinks become dinner, dinner becomes chatting outside of professionalism, before you realize it you are counting ceiling tiles at your place or hers. Walk away while you are in control if not you may as we'll drink lighter fluid and pee on a brushfire.

[bbrad]

Thanks for the replies guys, I just wanted to confirm what I already knew. Hear it from someone else. Deep down inside, I know what the right thing to do is. But, but, but...

I have been trying to communicate better with the wife, she is just really moody and not exactly a glass is half full type of person.

 

Thanks

[DaisyLeigh1967]

Fire! Don't play with it. Seriously.