Am i doing it right?

[Sadaka]

Ok so. Me and my ex broke up about a year ago, after being togheter for about 3.5 years, we kept seeing eachother until 8 months ago and then i initiated NC which i kept until recently, but she has not seemed very eager to talk to me. We broke up, or rather, she broke up with me because she had lost her feelings for me and i was being a complete tool. I still love this girl and want her back, but i have grown A LOT since we broke up, i have lost lots of weight and im in the best shape i've ever been in and i do what I want to do, its great, but i still miss having her in my life.

 

So anyway. Yesterday i decided i would send her an apology letter where i basically apologized for my behaviour at the end of our relationship and told her i hope she is happy. I ended the letter with asking her if she wanted to hang out some time.

 

Today she replied saying it felt like she had moved on with her life and thought we shouldnt have any more contact. She said was happy and had found a new boyfriend.

 

Both these sentences really hurt to read.

 

Of course i want her to be happy, but i still want her to be with me, i still want her back. What are my chances to get her back now that she has a new boyfriend? They cant have been seeing eachother for too long, im guessing a few months.

 

I replied to her email saying i was glad to hear she was happy and understood that she wanted no contact and i wished her and her new boyfriend good luck.

 

Is there any possibility at all to get this chick back?

[lylat333]

Is there any possibility at all to get this chick back?

 

I don't know, but the important thing is you've done all there is to do. You let her know how you feel and since she has a boyfriend it's not your place to initiate contact anymore. She may be truly happy now, maybe not... who knows... either way it doesn't change where you go, you shouldn't ever initiate contact again so long as she has a boyfriend.

[melell]

Honestly-I don't get the impression you are digging yourself as much as you should.

 

She is no better than you, and there are plenty of people equal to her, or better than her, people that will love you, people that you will miss if they were gone, people you could bond with.

 

Don't limit yourself to someone who isn't available, or who isn't feeling the same..

 

3+ billion females in this world.. don't let one person ruin your time

[Sadaka]

Honestly-I don't get the impression you are digging yourself as much as you should.

 

She is no better than you, and there are plenty of people equal to her, or better than her, people that will love you, people that you will miss if they were gone, people you could bond with.

 

Don't limit yourself to someone who isn't available, or who isn't feeling the same..

 

3+ billion females in this world.. don't let one person ruin your time

 

I do dig myself a lot, however im not very good at meeting new people or this relationship thing. I dont think she is better than me, she has faults.

 

I know in the back of my mind that there are lots of cute girls which i could probably bond with, but it feels so far away to bond with someone in that way again and the girls i like seem so hard to find.

 

However i do need to improve my self esteem still, even if its a lot better than it was when we broke up. I'm already training pretty heavy but... this is just going to trigger me to work even harder to reach my goals, fast.

[flight E]

U ave done the right thing. It's time to leave her alone. U may be surprised she may come back

[Sadaka]

I've actually been considering moving about 200km away to another bigger city where i have some old close friends. I think it would be pretty awesome. But the only thing stopping me is the thought of that ruining any chances to ever get back with my ex, i would be "far" away and we'd never run into eachother. And since we dont have any contact in any other way... zero chances.