UpsetMom Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 I hope I can get some replies and maybe some reassurance. My son left his wife in July of 9 years. Their marriage has been strained for several years. Neither are perfect and I understand that it just didn't work. She refuses to understand this. He has told her he doesn't love her and was tired of living a lie, but she says he is lying to her. I have told her and she told me not to say that to her, because I knew that wasn't true. Her parents will not help her to move forward at all. Her twin sister has helped her follow my son. She texts him every single day. He filed papers in September and her proposal to him after the allotted time was for him to come home. He is living with his dad and me because when he told her he wanted a divorce she pulled a gun out. She group texted her family that my son wanted a divorce. She really isn't right and is seeing a counselor, but apparently it isn't helping her. She rights letters every night to God and is praying for her will, not God's. You cannot get through to her. He decided not to help with the bills last month to put some pressure on her, and she told him at the beginning of this month that she didn't pay the house note last month and since he was the primary signer it was his responsibility, but she refuses to leave the house. I don't want him paying for a house that she is living in and refuses to leave. She is playing a cat and mouse game. She closed their savings account and took all the money out when he left. She has hidden all the bank records and monthly bills. She says she loves him, but she is willing to let him lose his house before she will give in to this. He has lawyers, but it isn't moving very fast and I am just frustrated. I feel like if she would get out of that house she could move forward, but there is nobody in her family we can talk to. She followed my son one night right after my husband's brother had died of cancer. My husband went to where she was following him and she and her twinkie called the cops. We should have gotten a restraining order that night, but we are trying to be the nice guys here. What can we do? Link to post Share on other sites
GuyInLimbo Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 "We?" Nothing. This is your son's battle, NOT yours. Your son needs an attorney and he can take it from there. Link to post Share on other sites
littlejaz Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 Stop trying to be nice. Have the lawyer get the restraining order. Are you in the US? Link to post Share on other sites
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