mandyxo Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 I'm 24 years old. I lost myself. I feel useless.. I just got fired from my job today, my previous job i was fired from as well. Their reason being is i just don't show initiative and lack energy. I don't show interest, or put my all into my responsibilities. I go to work, do the bare minimum and leave. I lack ambition. I have had this problem with probably every job i've ever had. My focus is always on my social life. I have a lot of things going on right now that i am struggling with. My ex, whom i'm still in the process of getting over. Who is a complete cold hearted- arrogant *******, who is in jail. But that's an entirely different story. On the outside i seem to have it together. I act confident. I often get told I am a beautiful girl.. but my self worth is so low.. and i just dont know how to work on myself to help become a better version of myself. I plan on picking myself up, getting out there looking for another job. Try to do my best while im still in school. Maybe start dating again but I have to have more self worth before i do so, because i always end up with the same type of guy.. criminals.. guys that arent going anywheres in life.. who treat me like **** basically.. It's been a pattern for me since high school. Date *******s. Get fired from my job for not being responsible. Party too much [thankfully this part of my life is over]... I'm the only one that can make the changes to do better but i dont know how.. i always seem to fall into the same pattern sorry.. venting... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 Everybody feels awful when they are terminated. I'm sorry this happened to you. No employer wants somebody who only does the bear minimum who's priority is his social life. Until you change that, this pattern will continue repeating. Perhaps you could benefit from a job coach. Search the concept on the internet. That person may give you insights on how to take more initiative at work & to show that you are a team player. Link to post Share on other sites
Mario79 Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 Sorry to hear that. Being fired does suck, and not being given more specific evidence other than you do not show initiative and lack of energy seem to ambiguous. Do you know what your strenghts are? Do you know what your passion is? Do you know what you get most joy of right now? I would start by getting to know yourself better and once you do see if you can focus job search in that area, I know sometimes you just gotta go with whats available though. Be glad that you are 24, you are still sooo young and with a lots of things ahead, this is the time fall on your butt and get back up, you have gained experience. Keep going. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted December 6, 2013 Share Posted December 6, 2013 What do they mean you don't show initiative? Because that has also been said to me, but it was in an environment where my role was not well defined, I was a do-it-all girl. But when I was proposing an idea, I was ignored. Also, there was not a real business plan and the management was disgusting (divide and conquer, micromanagement, backstabbing). Things don't work this way. If management doesnt know why they hire you, and they don't make your responsibilities clear, you are not obliged to know either. Don't put up with this nonsense. By the way, I quit the job because I had enough. 2 other people quit the same month as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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