TropicalWind Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 My bf of nine months broke up with me about a month ago. I'm 15 and he's 17, but we're only a year apart in school. We had a great relationship and then one day he just said he couldn't stand it anymore. I'm going crazy! I was so happy with him and we loved eachother evry much. The first time he tried to break up with me said he wanted to be good friends and maybe have a relationship later because he wanted to be alone for ahwile and he thought we were growing apart. But we didn't split up. The next week he broke up with me suddenly and kept asking if we could be friends and I told him we could but it'd be hard. He then proceeded to walk me to my classes and stuff like we were still together. We wrote notes so I tld him how sad I was he left and kept saying 'I don't know,we can't get back together now, maybe later.' and stuff like that. Then he thought I said I didn't wnat to be friends in one of my letters (he misread something) and decided he didn't want to be friends anymore but decided not to tell me...so I called a few times and tried to talk to him at school and stuff and he got mad and told people I was stalking him and he wnated to be left alone. So I ignored him for a week and half. Then one of our mutual friends told me he said he wanted to talk to me. So I called him and he did want to talk-said he was going to call me actually...and we talked for an hour about stuff. He spent ten minutes convincing me he didn't have any romantic feelings for this friend he'd been spending more time with and that he wasn't just doing it to piss me off. Then he said he was sorry for being an ass the first couple of days after we broke up and that he didn't hate me cuz I was a nice person. Then when we got off the phone he said he'd come say hi to me the next day,so I asked if we were ok and he's like 'I never said we could be friends' and some other stuff. The next day our friend asked him if he really didn't wnat to be friends with me and he said 'I don't want to be friends with her yet' whatever that means... I'm just confused why he would bother talking to me if he wanted me out of his life. This hurts really bad. I miss him and stuff.I want him back sorta. I can't really ignore him forever, it'll kill me! I'm frustrated and really confused, Can anybody help? Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 tropicalwind i know how you feel and how hard this is as bad as it sounds you will have to stay away from him and not contact him again i had an ex once who said she wanted to be friends, you can't be friends with an ex , if you try it will just hurt you forever i'm sorry Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 Originally posted by tropicalwind I'm just confused why he would bother talking to me if he wanted me out of his life. Because he misses you, and cares for you - but he does not miss the relationship, or want to be back with you in that way. Link to post Share on other sites
tropicalwind Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 Originally posted by BrainRightHeartWrong tropicalwind i know how you feel and how hard this is as bad as it sounds you will have to stay away from him and not contact him again i had an ex once who said she wanted to be friends, you can't be friends with an ex , if you try it will just hurt you forever i'm sorry That's not true I'm still friends with most of my exs. He's not a bad guy I wnat to be his friend. Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 well i have never been able to do that the only way i could think that could happen was if many years had past and both people were with new people that this could happen remember you are very young and i am twice your age so you maybe will think more like me when you get older Link to post Share on other sites
tropicalwind Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 Well yea but ur making it so comlicated. There's no reason I can't be his friend I''m just trying to udnerstand his actions right now. We were friends before and I really don't wnat to cut him out of my life completely. I'm forced to be around him all the time because of band and school and stuff and we have the same friends. It's impossible just to ingore him forever. Me and one of my ex's are close. We tell eachother everything. Link to post Share on other sites
_Saffy_ Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 That's not true I'm still friends with most of my exs. erm 15? Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 erm 15? yeah i know, i hadn't an ex until i was 25 hopefully were talking about different relationships here than ones i have had! Link to post Share on other sites
_Saffy_ Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 yeah i know, i hadn't an ex until i was 25 hopefully were talking about different relationships here than ones i have had! i rest my case. Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 I read this post of your's earlier and I guess you must not have liked the advice you got so you decided to double post. Anyway on to the advice.............. You are only 15, no matter how "many" exes you've had and have managed to be friends with (being 15 I can't imagine you've had enough to actually have "experience" with this) [[i'm taking this info from your other post when you responded to another poster's advice]] this one may not want to be your friend. If you continue to try and push it, and try and be friends with him even though he doesn't want to, chances are you'll end up making him despise you and want absolutely nothing to do with you. You say you want him back so basically you're trying to use the "friendship" card in order to stay close to someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you anymore? NOT a smart move...... Link to post Share on other sites
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