yellowmaverick Posted December 9, 2013 Share Posted December 9, 2013 Do you feel as if the letter gave you some closure so that you could move on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author URNotAlone Posted December 10, 2013 Author Share Posted December 10, 2013 Do you feel as if the letter gave you some closure so that you could move on? At first the letter upset me then it brought some clarity shortly after. I thought about it and after reading others responses I do think he was fishing and wanted to see if I would respond. Maybe he needed an ego boost or wanted to make himself feel better. It was written like someone pointed out in a way that if his wife saw it he could point out where he said he wanted to save his marriage. It angered me some of the things he said. You have a six month affair with constant contact and telling the A partner how much you love them everyday and then state "I may have possibly hurt you". He wrote it like a selfish jerk and for that I am thankful because now I have zero interest in ever seeing him again. I do believe he will jump right into cheating again once he feels all the heat from his wife dies down. It definitely helped me even though the first day and a half was painful. So today was better than yesterday and I thought of him rarely. I was thinking about everyday life and feeling more like myself. A song came on the radio that reminded me of him and I switched the station. Link to post Share on other sites
tanya vanniecunt Posted December 10, 2013 Share Posted December 10, 2013 (edited) i think it was more considerate than it needed to be..bc i dont think he was fishing for a reply to his wifes email account ..im going to assume he deleted it in hopes of his wife not fimding out about it so it baffles me that this was a fishing attempt as this points to his wife having any other reply options blocked or monitored so i dont even think he was hoping for a reply via another method sorry but fishing attempt soothes the ego but doesnt make a whole lotta sense...and based on you finding cruel deeds 'almost funny' maybe youll find this post bus chuck email 'almost funny' when you read it again in a week or so..just sayin.glad to hear youre not going to get involved in hurting people a?!gain otsjust a shame you had to hurt yourself to learn that lesson..hopefully whoever ur future spouse befriends doesnt need to learn that lesson the way you did...hopefully theyll know it by instinct and not learn it at your expense Edited December 10, 2013 by tanya vanniecunt was going to punctuate but my phone screen is cracked and it would take forever...sorry for posting the longest sentence ever Link to post Share on other sites
Whisper Quiet Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 As I read the post from TV, I though wow, there is a lot of vitrol there. Totally unnecessary and inflammatory. Then, ah yes, the email from OP's xMM could have been written by the BS just to stir the pot. Just joined today, huh? The OP is trying to move on peacefully. How about you do the same? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author URNotAlone Posted December 27, 2013 Author Share Posted December 27, 2013 Just an update for those of you trying to heal. Since the no contact was broken after 7 weeks by the MM and my one day sat back my life is now back to normal. I deleted all emails and possible contacts (instagram, etc). I am completely healed and feel absolutely no longing for or missing the MM. As crushing as the initial blow was it's easier just to get through it the best you can and get it over with. Now I am free to love someone who is available and looking for love. Just thought I would update and show that there really is hope in getting out if that it what you truly want. We are better than that. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
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