Does having a good body help if you're Bad Looking?

[Esoteric Elf]

So basically I am a 19 year old guy, and have pretty much accepted that I am mostly likely going to be single as the years go by.

 

I'm not going to post any photos of myself but I look pretty bad. I've gone through years of sarcastic comments, and even getting laughed at by girls two or three times for my looks.

 

I am not looking for false self reassurance or pity comments - I seriously just want to know by experienced people if I trained really hard on my body and physique (Got big arms, a big chest Etc) would this increase my chances in any way whatsoever? Cheers.

 

Yes, yes, and more yes!!!!! Get a good body!! Go for it!!!!

 

Will it increase your chances? No, not in my experience, but go for it anyway!!

[carhill]

OP, I experimented with that for about ten years and my takeaway in my generation and demographic was that a fit body made little difference when one had an appearance and/or aura which women were, in general, not attracted to sexually. For myself, even being fit, my face still had a 'baby' quality, lacking the hard angles and roughness the women of my demographic were attracted to. Confidence and success mattered little. All that resulted were a lot of 'no's'. I finally had to leave the demographic and seek out women with similar ancestral roots to gain traction on this issue.

 

Your path will be your own. My best advice is to try different things in life and see what sticks. At the end it won't really matter but the journey hopefully will make for some interesting memories. Good luck.

[Iguanna]

If a girl wants you only if you have a good body, you then know what girls to avoid.

[FitChick]

I finally had to leave the demographic and seek out women with similar ancestral roots to gain traction on this issue.

That is something men and maybe women should consider. I am only attracted to men from Northern Europe and specifically the UK. They are foreign but not too foreign.

[reddragon588]

Confidence is the most important thing. I told my friend this the other day because he's tripping about some acne. But if you don't care about what others think, and only care about what you think, you will project that and it is very attractive for women. How many times have you seen some dude with a hot chick and been like "how the hell did he get with her?". Because he's confident about himself.

[hppr]

For me going from very skinny guy with goofy fat face to in shape guy with slimmer face it helped a TON. It goes hand in hand with your confidence; you will have more success, women will be friendlier towards you right off the bat, ergo confidence builds. You won't feel intimidated anymore. I would imagine the same is true for women, even if you have a 'goofy face' a hot body will turn guy's heads so then it's up to you what you do with that attention...

[mario_C]

Interesting how many people with very unattractive faces turn to bodybuilding and extreme cardio and stuff like that. Sorry, I sometimes spot a "body beautiful" in public and am struck by how weird their face is...But I'm a straight man and a little natural padding is beautiful to me. Male "sexy body" standards are much more rigid.

[man_in_the_box]

I also disagree with advice "go for ugly women and work your way up". IME worse looking ones are the ones I strike out with the worst. They can pretty much sense I don't think they're attractive and they become bitchy and rude on the spot.

 

Whatever it is you're doing - stop it.

[FrankieFrank]

Whatever it is you're doing - stop it.

 

What do you mean?

[jimloveslips]

So basically I am a 19 year old guy

 

Guy? No.

Girl? Probably.

[Priv]

Start working out. It will increase your confidence, which is attractive to women, and will help in all areas of life, not just dating. May I suggest starting strenght as a program (just google it). Fun part about it is that focuses on strenght, strenght increases you'll see quickly when are just starting out and keeps you moptivated to stick to it. Big arms and chest takes more than a little time to get. Plus you don't want to look like a douchebag with huge arms and chest and not much else... (competing powerlifter, so might be a bit biased here).

 

Also, you are just 19, just getting out of puberty. Young people are generally a bit more insecure, so it is a good bet you are not as bad looking as you think you are. And you grow out youthful imperfections. I am thirty now, and looking at photo's of me aged 15-21 or so I am looking waaaaaaaaaaaay better now than at that age.

 

Women like men, not boys. And that's something every guy in your age group struggles with. At least, it was in my experience. It will get better!

 

Good luck working out

[Kate9292]

No.

 

If your too short, no body can compensate for it.

 

Same if you have a baby face.

[MrCastle]

Having a good body can only help you. You're not exactly going to lose prospects by getting in better shape. Whatever it is, do what you feel is more comfortable for you.

 

I am struggling with working out because I enjoy being skinny. No doubt, packing on more muscle has opened up a greater window in terms of the women I attract, but who am I doing it for? Am I working out because I actually enjoy it or because I feel it'll net me more women?