StillHurtin Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 I keep still having dreams about H having A's. It use to be about him and the OW he had the A w/ but since we have gotten back 2gether (seperated when he had the A) I keep having dreams about him having A's w/ OW. I do not know these W in his dreams, I don't even see their faces. Ppl in my dreams tell me he is having an A or he tells me. Last night I had another one and in the dream I slapped him and said "You f@cking b@sturd!" I even yelled it in my sleep and woke H up. I am tired of these dreams. Do you have dreams about your spouse having an A when you are trying to save your M from their A? Do these dreams still mean that I don't trust him? I thought my trust was slowly coming back but having these dreams, I just don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 As your trust grows, the dreams will recede. I got cheated on and for at least a year after that I was having dreams - nightmares really: dreams of him leaving me for someone else, dreams of him having sex with someone else, dreams where he was off somewhere and I knew that he was with someone else, dreams of finding myself lost somewhere and calling him and he was with someone else, dreams where he coldly dumped me and our kid for someone else... man, it was painful. You wake up angry all over again. Its like picking a scab. Eventually though, it passes. I got my trust for him back over time, and the dreams ended. I'll have one every once in a while but its very rare now. Link to post Share on other sites
KissMyTiara Posted January 1, 2005 Share Posted January 1, 2005 I'm not a W, as you know, but I do know a little bit about dreams. I believe that dreams are our mind's way of processing information we haven't quite digested during our waking hours. So, don't fret too much - this is most likely just your subconscious telling you not to forget what you've been through too easily...or at least, not to just let it go without really understanding what happened and how to repair your marriage. Forgiveness is always a virtue (and certainly your H is thankful for this), but in this situation, it's best to keep your eyes and ears open in your waking life, and to have open and honest communication with him about how you are feeling so that you can really process everything that's happened. I hope your sleep returns to one of peace. Link to post Share on other sites
DoggyDog Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 I'm not the W, I'm the OW...and I have those same dreams of your H being with you...and leaving me out in the cold.. He's told me that he had dreams of me too (sexy ones at that).. So "many Bubbles are broken in our dreams." Sorry to have to write this. DD Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillHurtin Posted January 15, 2005 Author Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by DoggyDog I'm not the W, I'm the OW...and I have those same dreams of your H being with you...and leaving me out in the cold.. He's told me that he had dreams of me too (sexy ones at that).. So "many Bubbles are broken in our dreams." Sorry to have to write this. DD DoggyDog, I sure hope that the OW had dreams about H leaving her out in the cold. I hope she had dreams of him being w/ me and waking up wishing he could be laying in bed next to her. I hope she cried herself to sleep every night. I want her to feel the same pain I did when she decided to spread open her legs for him (long story on this situation, but I put a lot of blame on the OW for her actions. I have posted about it a few times on this forum and the OW/OM forum). She knew H was still coming to me for love, sex, ect. At first I was in denial of the A while we were seperating and still sleeping w/ him. He spent several nights w/ me and our children at the begining and left her alone. Thanks KMT and LucreziaBorgia for replying, your advice is appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
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