Am I crazy? Still in love with MM

[whichwayisup]

I sometimes think about telling his wife. I usually think about doing it when Im very angry. But then I think well what if she just accepts it and forgives him? He is such a master manipulator he would probably know exactly what to say to her. And then that would probably just cause me even more pain. She deserves better. I just hope one day she does find out what he is really like and does leave him. Im sure he will cheat again right?

 

I just want him to feel the kind of pain he has put me through and for people to know that he is not this big hero that everyone makes him out to be.

 

I get you're pissed at him and all, but for you to let go and hopefully walk away from him forever - You gotta turn some of that anger towards yourself. You knew going in that he was married. It's not like he hid that fact, you had an affair with him willingly so not all of this is his fault.

 

Their marriage isn't your business, if she chooses to forgive him if she finds out, that's her choice. Worry about yourself and get him out of your heart.

Now you know who he is, there's no excuse to see or speak to him, to continue anything with him. Keep reading that link I posted for you on the previous page. Until it sinks in.

[PeacockGirl]

I get you're pissed at him and all, but for you to let go and hopefully walk away from him forever - You gotta turn some of that anger towards yourself. You knew going in that he was married. It's not like he hid that fact, you had an affair with him willingly so not all of this is his fault.

 

Their marriage isn't your business, if she chooses to forgive him if she finds out, that's her choice. Worry about yourself and get him out of your heart.

Now you know who he is, there's no excuse to see or speak to him, to continue anything with him. Keep reading that link I posted for you on the previous page. Until it sinks in.

 

I know. I would never tell, I just think about it when I'm mad. I wish I had been stronger to never let it happen in the first place. Since the beginning I have always had this overwhelming feeling of guilt throughout, but I still did it...and I accept that. I am learning my lesson and will never put myself in a similar position again.

 

I have been reading it, it has been EXTREMELY helpful. All of the feedback has been very helpful for me. Thank you

[blue963]

This man is evil, manipulative, and likes to cause pain. Cut him out now, and if you arent going to see him for another year you can do this.

[nicepuzzle]

I sometimes think about telling his wife. I usually think about doing it when Im very angry. But then I think well what if she just accepts it and forgives him? He is such a master manipulator he would probably know exactly what to say to her. And then that would probably just cause me even more pain. She deserves better. I just hope one day she does find out what he is really like and does leave him. Im sure he will cheat again right?

 

I just want him to feel the kind of pain he has put me through and for people to know that he is not this big hero that everyone makes him out to be.

 

Tell his wife to end it. Seriously it will be block you at least for good and for your benefits. And you should make your mind that you dont need him and want to teach him a good lession. I did that to mine Xmm and has been an year of NC and i am doing better and better. I was an emotional wreck and he was just like yours. He wanted to play the affair rules while misleading and making me emotional and without even communicating to me. I asked him to apologize and he didnt and I closed everything by telling his wife, and now he will deal with the aftermath. Even if he convinces her still their relationship is ruined and he wont dare play this game with any other woman.... I was hurt and emotional and now it feels good that I did what was best for me. i knew her family and wife and now there is no chance of seeing him with his wife and he got a nice lession that he is not a hero after all as he thinnks of himself