jforthegirl Posted December 8, 2013 Share Posted December 8, 2013 (edited) I just got into my stbxh email. He has been having an EA with a much younger married woman, who also has a child. The emails were just full of how much they love each other. Has anyone ever seen their spouse's EA emails or texts? Is this really love of they've never even met face to face and maybe never will? Also, as a result of seeing the emails, I have her email address....should I contact her? Edited December 8, 2013 by jforthegirl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 8, 2013 Share Posted December 8, 2013 what does EA mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jforthegirl Posted December 8, 2013 Author Share Posted December 8, 2013 Emotional Affair. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted December 8, 2013 Share Posted December 8, 2013 Why not just divorce him since he loves her? Have him move now and get the divorce moving forward. Were there signs he was interested in someone else? Could he have been seeing her in person? Could the child be his? Where did he meet her? Link to post Share on other sites
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 8, 2013 Share Posted December 8, 2013 thanks for letting me know. er..no you shouldn't contact her yet. you save that card for when you really need it. yes, I have found emails from my ex who cheated on me. read them. very graphic, explaining how she has never been kissed by my like the guy she cheated on with. how hot he was, and all that crap. it kind of made me feel like my gut was being punched with a hammer over and over and over. know what I mean jellybean?? ya im sure you do. and no, they don't love each other. its call infatuation, not love. shes something new to him. for whatever reason, hes getting something from her that hes not getting from you. so.. what is it? of course, that's not always the case. he could just be a simple douche who wants to cheat. I don't know whats going on in your life. maybe you have relationship issues with him? idk. but ya.. where do you want to go from here? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jforthegirl Posted December 8, 2013 Author Share Posted December 8, 2013 Oh we are definitely getting a divorce. He told me a month ago that he doesn't loved me c anymore, hasn't for 5 years (we've been together for over 20). Then this past week I found out he was hating online sex with women before we split, but now it turns out that it was always with this one woman. I'm just very hurt. I know that it doesn't change anything, but it hurts down to my bones. Link to post Share on other sites
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 8, 2013 Share Posted December 8, 2013 honestly, theres not much to be done right now. it sucks youre in pain and im sorry for that. you just need to take this one day at a time. care for youself, allow yourself to feel the pain. ignoring it just makes it worse. Link to post Share on other sites
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