I don't know if I believe him

[willowtree]

Not sure where to begin.

 

 

Ive been in a ldr with him for a year after dating a year. Our relationship crumbled back in May. He admitted to me that he was struggling with alcohol, weed, and antidepressant withdrawal. This included some lying and cheating on his part.

 

 

We temporarily broke things off as I was infuriated. In July, we rekindled things on two conditions. Complete honesty and him getting therapy. No drinking or drugs. We were fine until late August. He decided that he was way too depressed and wanted to put things on hold. He didnt want to communicate with me anymore but wanted to focus on his recovery. I agreed but things became increasingly weirder.

 

 

He would come back saying he wants a relationship. When I oblige and make plans to visit, he would back out and yell depression. That he can't talk to me. This happened over a dozen times now. I confronted him hard last month about this. He admitted to drinking and not going to therapy. I offered to fly out and go with him. He refused.

 

 

Now im still waiting to see what he wants to do here. We skyped yesterday and he said in a few weeks he will be better and we can talk. Otherwise leave him alone. I asked if I should just date other guys. He said no.

I dont get this at all. Ive never had depression in this sense. He went off his meds in July. How is he still withdrawing? Why doesn't he want my help?

I dont believe him anymore. He never asks how im doing. He never wants to see me. He just wants me to wait. He still has a very active social life. Without me. I am so confused. Maybe im being emotionally manipulated.

 

 

Everything is about him.

[soccerrprp]

YOU are being manipulated. There isn't a good future with this guy. Move on.

[AlexiaBrinn]

Wow you need to find some one who cares enough about you to realise there are two people in your relationship.

Dump the loser!