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Hayleym has spent ten pages justifying her affair. Lying and betraying to her BH and the OMW.

 

 

No matter how much she tries she will just be a lying cheating WW. Her selfish actions forcing her BH to live a life that is a lie.

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Raena

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No. I didn't cheat. He left. His friend just happened to start reaching out to me exactly two weeks later, and I'm glad because I really needed a friend.

 

Oh ok, sorry for the miscommunication there. Yeah, I know the feeling. I could really use a "friend" right now too, but for now I'll just stay single and wait until I'm fully ready to take on another relationship.

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miguelcervantes

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So "Hayley" - what I am about to say is not so much with malice but based on experience: I think what is going to happen to you and probably for the best, is that you are going to get hit very hard by the good old Karma bus. Let me explain what I mean:

 

On the one hand, if this is true (and I must say I have my doubts as do many others) then the Karma bus will hit you with being discovered in the most awful way and you losing all respect from your husband, friends, family, loved ones and most importantly your kids. You cannot come to a site where others have been hurt to tell us about you getting away with your cheating and hedonism and add to it that you are happy with the situation and are not really looking for any advice - just want to "let us know" how much you are enjoying this!

 

On the other hand, if this is a wind-up as I suspect, the Karma bus is going to hit you in a different way for taking the time to spend online to try and get a rise for your own personal satisfaction. Now I am not going to go into details as to how this particular Karma bus will hit or manifest itself but my very real advice would be to watch out as it can be equally unpleasant.

 

Happy cheating or trolling - whichever!

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harrybrown

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Tell your H about your affair.

 

If he was having one, you would want to know.

 

And when you give him an std, he will figure it out.

 

So while you are ripping his heart out and throwing it in the fire, tell him about your selfish desires. Tell him and kill his soul.

 

After you threw his heart in the fire, you shyt on it. Tell him, ruin both families because you are a liar and a cheater. Tell your children that you do not care about them, because you are selfish.

 

Divorce your H. Tell him and let him find someone that will actually love him. You do not love him. You do not give stds to someone you love, cheat on them with a piece of crap friend and lie to them.

 

You are spending so much effort on lying and cheating with the POSOM. So you magnify your H's faults to justify your affair. Tell him and let him go have sex with your best friend over and over and over.

 

You want an open relationship, don't you?

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Chi townD

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Folks, I strongly believe this this a bunny hopping around here just trying to get a raise out of people for his/her entertainment.

 

Starting to believe that this isn't real.

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Fluttershy

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but no real man would accept a woman who sleeps with other men.

I am glad you gave a real life experience of your life. And I totally get you divorcing. If you know you can't reconcile don't torture yourself and your ws trying.

But, first, once a cheater always a cheater is a big load of bull. It is like saying someone who has been a theif will always be a theif. It is basically telling the OP and anyone who cheats that their is no point in dealing with issues and bettering yourself because you're always going to cheat.

The second is a terrible, and somewhat sexist, judgement to pass on the thousands of men who reconcile. Forgivin someone's screw up and giving them a second chance does not mean trading in your man card. And if it does then you shouldn't want the card in the first place.

 

So it is okay that cheatin was a deal breaker for you. It is not olay for you to belittle men who it isn't a deal breaker for.

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atreides

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i seriously don't understand why you guys even bother with this poster.

 

this is a lost cause.

 

 

Agreed! I mean from the 1st post..

 

...I do feel guilty sometimes but have come to the conclusion it's more a fear of getting discovered than actual guilt, because I'm not damaging their marriage, in my eyes...

 

 

...Because I do love the attention I get from him, and seek it out. ...

 

How many people have been involved in an affair with a friend or family members spouse and how many have caught their spouse in that situation .. How did the discovery happen?

 

All the OP wants to know is how not to get caught. The last line says it all. Waste of time and a joke of 2 Ms and travesty of life.

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whiterabbit46

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Hey, Maggs. You've stirred up a lot of curiosity among those of us that peruse these threads. Listen, after it all hits the fan, your husband's faith and trust in you permanently destroyed, your marriage in the dumpster,the OM heading for the hills, and you've lost basically everything that supposedly ever meant anything to you, please come back and let us in on the fallout. We'd love to hear you lamenting your misery and complaining about the train wreck your life has become.

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whiterabbit46

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I'm sorry, Hayley. I had been reading the thread of another lady of questionable intelligence, and I mistakenly called you by her name. Actually, the same advice could reasonably be given to her. Interesting.

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Womanscorned

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You say you are interested in hearing from people who have been/are in similar situations and how the affair was discovered. I am an extremely intuitive woman. For months, I would get images in my head of my partner with my former best friend. These were sexual images. I thought I was being paranoid, because although I didn't trust him, I certainly trusted her. After all, she was my best friend (and she had a boyfriend.)

 

I felt something subtle in my intuition a couple months back. I felt strongly that he had had sex with someone. I even confided this to her. Many times. Then a couple months after that, I started feeling that his affair was continuing. During all of this, this fake friend was lying to me, deceiving me, and manipulating my relationship to further her own sick agenda. She was strongly urging me to "hook up with someone else." My parter and I had been having problems. I kept telling her that I loved him and wanted to work things out with him.

 

Well, one night she and I were hanging out and AGAIN she told me I need to "find someone else." I replied, "why do you keep telling me that? I have explained to you I want to work things out with said partner. I KNOW he has been sleeping with someone, and I know you know what's going on."

 

She told me "I don't know anything."

 

I could hear in her voice that she was lying. I went through a list of names. She kept replying, no, no, no. When I got to her name.....when I asked her if it was her, she was silent. I asked her again, "is it you?" She said my name softly and in the tone of her voice was guilt and admission. I then made her tell me everything. I didn't speak for a long time. She asked me what I was thinking. I told her I wasn't really thinking about anything, rather I was just feeling a lot of pain in my heart.

 

The fact that she was so close to me and that I had brushed aside these intuitions about her and my partner, thinking I was being paranoid because I TRUSTED her is the reason this has been the absolute most horrifying, emotionally devastating thing I have EVER gone through. I am ****ed up beyond belief, and I have two children who watch me cry daily. I want to kill her. With a knife. I am a peaceful woman. I practice yoga and meditate. I want her dead.

 

She just thought we would all go on being friends and was sort of shocked I did not want to be her friend anymore. She has a history of being gang raped. I am wondering if you have a history of sexual abuse. She told me she did it because "it felt good and they were not really thinking of me." We'll that is one of the things that hurts the most. Not thinking of me? To me, she is a monster. I am beyond devastated and wonder if I will ever be emotionally healthy again. These are some of the things you might want to think about.

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experiencethedevine

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If this came out I would in no way be interested in a reconciliation. I would divorce.

 

 

 

So the only thing stopping you from getting a divorce is because it is all working so beautifully behind your husbands back for you?

 

Nice .....................................................

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