magnutz88 Posted January 2, 2005 Share Posted January 2, 2005 I'm having to deal without a lot of problems at this moment in my life. My fiance is going through this phase i guess i could call it where he all he wants to do is have sex with me. I cant I'm under a strict house hold and the time i do spend with him i want to spend it with him having fun doing something together without having to be deceitful and go to his house to have sex. I love him more than anything in the world and i know he try's to control himself down there but i feel like I'm being groped half the time because he really wants to have sex. I love the activity and i would only want it with him but its becoming such a problem in our relationship that i have been thinking that maybe it would be best if he took out his sexual frustration on other woman while he just dates me. I know now that i cannot please him in bed but i want him to be pleased if not me than some other girl. He agreed but I'm just afraid that when does do it I'm going to be hurt so badly that i wont be ever able to talk to him again i just want him to be happy with me without having to ask me every 15 minutes if we can have sex and i have to turn him down every 15 minutes. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted January 2, 2005 Share Posted January 2, 2005 Hey.....now there's a big red warning flag. BIG RED FLAG. What I don't understand is how do people get to the marrying stage of the game? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 3, 2005 Share Posted January 3, 2005 There are about forty-gazillion things I want to say to this! Dump him. You are going to get hurt far worse if you "let him" than you will feel dumping him now. A good man is not going cheat on the woman he loves and he is not going to force her or coerce her into having sex. A good man is going to enjoy your company and want to have fun together. A good man is going to suggest sex (verbally or by making a pass) sometimes but WILL take NO for an answer and not keep pressuring. Of course, if you and he are really young, which is sounds like you are, then I can almost guarantee that he is not in love with you and his priority is sex. He will dump you completely when he finds a girl that will give him all the sex that he wants. So, avoid the really deep heartbreak later and dump the dude now. You'll heal faster. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted January 3, 2005 Share Posted January 3, 2005 And I'd like to add you need to find someone you are sexually compatible with.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 3, 2005 Share Posted January 3, 2005 Oh yeah, there is a HUGE field of red flags popping up all over...Exactly what hokey said and also what Mr Spock said! You have given him permission to cheat, he will and in doing so will break your heart, mess with your head, and probably give you afew nasty ouchies 'down there' too cuz he is out sleeping around with anyone in a skirt. What if he actually falls inlove with somebody else?? Oh I can't believe he would actually say YES to this suggestion. Get out now and save yourself alot of future heartache and pain. It will hurt now but better to hurt abit then ALOT later! OR...Tell him you've changed your mind...No sex with anybody but YOU and he can masterbate and go for the world record if he is that horny all the time! Do you love him? Are you both inlove with eachother? How is your relationship in general? Good luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted January 3, 2005 Share Posted January 3, 2005 Originally posted by magnutz88 I cant I'm under a strict house hold and the time i do spend with him i want to spend it with him having fun doing something together without having to be deceitful and go to his house to have sex. What do you mean by being "under a strict household"? Are you a minor, still living at home? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted January 3, 2005 Share Posted January 3, 2005 It's simple, you guys aren't sexually compatible. Run! Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted January 4, 2005 Share Posted January 4, 2005 Don't even give him permission to eff other women! Either get him to commit to you and learn some self control or kick him to the curb. Does he think he's the first horny bastard who's had to wait for sex with the woman he loves? or maybe, he is just trying to get laid. If he trully loves you he will wait for sex with you. If he can't wait, well, he'll just have to continue doing what every guy's been doing since forever. If you give him permission now when he acts like a love sick cow, imagine how difficult it will be for him to be faithful when he's not as ga-ga over you later. Link to post Share on other sites
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