PreciousOne Posted December 10, 2013 Share Posted December 10, 2013 Alright first off let me say that I love my grandmother dearly. My grandmother is almost 62 years old, she doesn't work and she has been living with me for the past couple of years. I am 24 and the youngest of three children and the only child who doesn't have and children My grandmother babysits my sisters kids for her everyday at my house while my sister works. I love my nieces but Im not the baby type of person. Anyway my dilemma is that I'm ready to stay by myself. I do so much for everybody and not enough for myself and Im getting really sick of it I help my sister out a lot because she doesn't have a good job and deoenst get a lot of help from my her childrens fathers. The issues I have with my grandma is for one she feels that just because she is older that she can say whatever comes to her mind about anything and is extremely rude to everyone she doesn't clean up the mess kids make when she babysits and neither does my sister and it really ticks me off. She is afraid to take a shower and doesn't bathe and stinks up any room that she visits and never wants to stay in her room and acts like everything that I buy and pay for which is everything isn't mind and treats me as if Im a child. She doesn't help out all she does is get high all ****ing day and get drunk. I want to help her get identification. She was a foster kid and always had a hard time getting id but I want her to get a income based apartment and just wash my hands of it. Any suggestions or advice would be very helpful. Does these thoughts make me a terrible person, what do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
treeolife Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Well I definately see how ur limits are tested here. Family members can be so frustrating b/c they think its alright to use u...however! Family is family and u have to remember to appreciate that they are still with u. People can disappear in a minute- never take anyone for granted. No ur not a bad person. A lot of people feel this way about their siblings. Ur grandma is getting old and prob doesn't realize that she is upsetting u so much. Maybe tell her u love her lots to make her smile for once (u put a grouchy mean granny in my head). Or write her a letter telling her how much u love her, even if ur mad at her- she will treat u more kindly. Think about talking to them about how u feel. They prob have no clue. Hope I helped a bit:) Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 She stays stoned. Doesn't bathe. Doesn't clean up after the kids she is supposed to babysit. Are the kids even safe with her? If something happens to the kids you are responsible because its your home. Loving someone does not equate to being a doormat. Get her into her own place. Shes young to go to a nursing home but maybe rehab or a hospital that can help her quit drinking and provide counseling. Check with the United Way or something for help. Have her move in with your sister then she can sit with her kids there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Maybe take one issue at a time. Try telling her that you don't want drugs in your house any more, as you fear legal action and you worry about the kids she's watching. Tell her that if she can't stop getting wasted, you're going to have to ask her to move out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyLeigh1967 Posted December 11, 2013 Share Posted December 11, 2013 Why doesn't she work for a living? Link to post Share on other sites
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