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I'm only 20. The fact that I'm going through this right now is just to much. When I was 14 I fell for this guy. We became best friends and started "dating" when I was 18 I got pregnant then at 19 we got married. Keep in mind he is the only guy I've ever been with. He was my bestfriend. But a month after we got married I found out he cheated on me. I forgave him. We got a car together and started renting a house. 4 months after we got the house he started cheating again with the same girl. I got my stuff and son and went to my cousins house. I thought mabey he would miss me and ask for me to come home. Well that's not the case. he is done forreal. Says he just wants to be friends. I'm wise enough to know that I'm young and there is more fish in the sea. I'm wise enough to know having a baby a marriage and bills was to much for him. What I don't understand is how could he forget who I am. Were suppose to be bestfriend before anything. That's how we started. How could he betray me and turn his back on me so easily. I am so hurt. The things he did and said to me was so evil. So unlike him. I don't know how to get over this feeling of betrayal

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Sometimes people do things they think is rational, and it is just the opposite. Youth could be blamed for immaturity, but since I am in my 40's and this happens with people my age, that isn't always the case. The most important thing for me is to know who I am, and by knowing that, I can gauge who others are. That would be a good place to start in your thought process as you sound really insightful. He wasn't the person who complimented your life, so whatever he did was just a blip in your rearview mirror because he doesn't deserve your consternation or care.

Being hurt is natural, dwelling on it isn't healthy for you and that is all that matters. Take care of you and your child (?)because that is what matters now.

Best,

Grumps

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I am so sorry you are going through this, but you get through it one day at a time and slowly it does get better. You just have to concentrate on taking care of yourself and your child. Keep busy and don't dwell on thoughts of him. Dwell on building a wonderful life for your baby and you will be okay.

 

Keep posting here and you will get lots of support and advice.

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