Sarahk67 Posted December 12, 2013 Share Posted December 12, 2013 Im 22 and going out with my boyfriend (21) for 9 months. Im in a bit of a pickle...at the start of the relationship we got talking about our past sexual experiences and he asked me how many guys I've slept with (im a virgin btw) but I panicked and lied and said 3 guys he admitted that he only slept with one girl-I shouldve came clean then but decided not to for some reason I cant explain :/. We haven't slept together at all basically we wanted to wait before doing so snd then any time we tried doing it something got in the way like drunkeness or period etc. Anyway the topic of threesomes came up recently and he asked me if id be into that and of course me like an idiot lied about having a threesome before dont ask me why I think I just wanted to seem experienced coz im older :/ the thing is he didnt seem happy abput it and I feel he has lost respect for me...I just wanna come clean but im afraid of what he'll think of me esp coz im a virgin :/ please help me!!! X Link to post Share on other sites
sportzhl24 Posted December 12, 2013 Share Posted December 12, 2013 Im 22 and going out with my boyfriend (21) for 9 months. Im in a bit of a pickle...at the start of the relationship we got talking about our past sexual experiences and he asked me how many guys I've slept with (im a virgin btw) but I panicked and lied and said 3 guys he admitted that he only slept with one girl-I shouldve came clean then but decided not to for some reason I cant explain :/. We haven't slept together at all basically we wanted to wait before doing so snd then any time we tried doing it something got in the way like drunkeness or period etc. Anyway the topic of threesomes came up recently and he asked me if id be into that and of course me like an idiot lied about having a threesome before dont ask me why I think I just wanted to seem experienced coz im older :/ the thing is he didnt seem happy abput it and I feel he has lost respect for me...I just wanna come clean but im afraid of what he'll think of me esp coz im a virgin :/ please help me!!! X The best thing you can do is stick to honesty. If he really cares about you, he's not gonna freak out if you're inexperienced. But further lying is just going to screw things up between you two. My ex lied to me by saying she had been with 6 guys, and later it came out that she had been with "more than she can count on three hands" and it really screwed with me. I never quite got over that lie. So be honest the first time around. and if this guy is right for you, he'll stick by your side. Link to post Share on other sites
Elliotte Posted December 12, 2013 Share Posted December 12, 2013 Stop being afraid and tell the truth, you are digging yourself deeper and deeper into a hole that will be harder and harder to crawl out of! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
gabgab Posted December 12, 2013 Share Posted December 12, 2013 (edited) Wait, I read your other thread. Im confused, he seems like he lost respect for you but told you he WANTS a threesome? Girl!!!! you aint even been together long and hes telling you boning just YOU isn't enough? if hes telling you he WANTS a threesome its baaaad (honestly whenever a man pushes for one period its bad...but most men cannot be satisfied with 1 woman but judge women for being the same)....this is the time when people should focus on each other. Yet, he still has the audacity to not only want a threesome, but judge you for having one? Hypocrite. Hes an insecure chauvinist butthole. He is only mad because his ego is hurt you have more experience. Edited December 12, 2013 by gabgab 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarahk67 Posted December 12, 2013 Author Share Posted December 12, 2013 Ok I know I put up a thread before about making a mistake in telling my boyfriend that I had a threeaone but that was a lie I never had a threesome and I only told him that I did just so I could tell him that its not for us I suppose i panicked a bit because I thought he was hinting at having one but turns out he was just suggesting foreplay rather than actual sex so my lie backfired on me :/ I couldn't go back on what i said and because of this I feel he has lost respect for even though I never did such a thing and have never evwn had sex before! ! Im pathetic I know Link to post Share on other sites
Elliotte Posted December 12, 2013 Share Posted December 12, 2013 I once dated a woman who lied repeatedly about how many sexual partners she had in the past, and it wasn't even that I was pressing her for the information, she was lying because she was afraid I would judge her. The only time I judged her in the whole situation was when I found out she was a liar, I was disappointed that she felt the need to not tell me the truth and it threw everything else she told me into question. You need to come clean with him, and explain to him your insecurities on the subject, most likely scenario is he isn't as judgmental as you think. And if he is, well that's a good red flag to consider ending things. Link to post Share on other sites
small lady Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 As with any lie, the longer you leave it to tell the truth the worse of a reaction you're going to get from your boyfriend! I expect him to be pretty annoyed once you do come clean, and he may be confused as to why you felt the need to hide the truth from him but just be completely honest with him and he should come around! Link to post Share on other sites
mutualove Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 If you have a value or something like that it's a good thing and never be ashamed of it if they don't or can't respect you for it then let it be sooner than later and save yourself some headaches. I think you have got yourself into this mess because you're insecure and care about what others think of you but the truth is having a flexible personality isn't a good thing so you need to stand up for yourself and be who YOU want to be.If they don't like it,then so be it. Link to post Share on other sites
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