Can't Even Explain Enough To Think Of A Title...

[DaeJhaDeyonnia]

I'm a student at a private Delaware college. I'm originally from Jersey. My...boyfriend, I guess you can call him that, is from Brooklyn. He's currently a student at DSU (which is around the corner from my campus).

 

It's only been a month and a half since we've met. Our relationship progressed pretty fast. We're not "offically" together but we refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. For example, if we are out amongst a group of friends he'll introduce me as his girlfriend and vice versa. We have all the qualities of a relationship..except the title. Which is somewhat fine with me. We go on dates, talk all the time, and basically spend every single day together. If we're not in class, we're together. He, at one point, told me why we didn't have title. He said (and I quote) "When I broke up with my last girlfriend, I swore on my mother's life and promised my father that the next relationship I get in will be my last. I'm going to give that girl the world and marry her. I just want to make sure you're here for the right reasons. I already know I"m gonna end up with you." Perfectly understandable. We are on the same page basically.

 

However, I think I'm falling for him...A lot harder than I could ever imagine. I know it's waaaaaay too early for me to feel as strong as I do about him. I know it's not love. It can't be. Can it? I"m only 18 and its only been a couple months. But we spend so much time together (almost 18 hours a day, the other 6 hours he's at work or we're in class) that I'm used to seeing him. He's literally all I think about. We're on winter break and we're in our hometowns right now. I've been crying all week simply because I miss him. What is making me feel this way? It's a really confusing situation to be in. I know I shouldn't feel the way I do and have tried to stop myself. I just can't.

[Zoyalover]

I'm a student at a private Delaware college. I'm originally from Jersey. My...boyfriend, I guess you can call him that, is from Brooklyn. He's currently a student at DSU (which is around the corner from my campus).

 

It's only been a month and a half since we've met. Our relationship progressed pretty fast. We're not "offically" together but we refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. For example, if we are out amongst a group of friends he'll introduce me as his girlfriend and vice versa. We have all the qualities of a relationship..except the title. Which is somewhat fine with me. We go on dates, talk all the time, and basically spend every single day together. If we're not in class, we're together. He, at one point, told me why we didn't have title. He said (and I quote) "When I broke up with my last girlfriend, I swore on my mother's life and promised my father that the next relationship I get in will be my last. I'm going to give that girl the world and marry her. I just want to make sure you're here for the right reasons. I already know I"m gonna end up with you." Perfectly understandable. We are on the same page basically.

 

However, I think I'm falling for him...A lot harder than I could ever imagine. I know it's waaaaaay too early for me to feel as strong as I do about him. I know it's not love. It can't be. Can it? I"m only 18 and its only been a couple months. But we spend so much time together (almost 18 hours a day, the other 6 hours he's at work or we're in class) that I'm used to seeing him. He's literally all I think about. We're on winter break and we're in our hometowns right now. I've been crying all week simply because I miss him. What is making me feel this way? It's a really confusing situation to be in. I know I shouldn't feel the way I do and have tried to stop myself. I just can't.

 

DaeJhaDeyonnia, I see a little bit of myself in you. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. TAKE YOUR TIME with this guy. I know it's hard once you are already in and you have those feelings developing/ building up, but space is good. It gives you time to reflect, think and breathe. It could be love but still you want to be clear-headed if possible when you are with him. Pay attention to his actions, to what he is saying and what he may not be saying. Try to have fun, and relax. Hope that helps.

 

-Z