How do I get him to get the message??

[Zoyalover]

My current issue is with this guy my friend's husband tried to hook me up with. He and I met in September. Talked on the phone, texted, and Skyped due to me living on the west coast and him on the east. Before we met in person I let him know that I was not interested in being in a relationship but just being friends. I also told him that I was not interested in talking/communicating with him on a daily basis. He said that he understood that I did not want to be in a relationship and said that it was fine with him, but when I mentioned that I did not feel like talking to him on certain days and then on a daily basis anymore (after the couple weeks or so we had been in contact with each other daily) he became upset and said via text that he would no longer contact me.

 

Excerpt from texversation: I actually said that "I was going to take some time for myself so I can get myself together" (since I was still suffering from my break up). He said "You mean you don't feel like talking right?" Me: "No I don't. I am going to take some time and space for myself" Him: "So I should not get in touch again right?" Actually, never-mind I think that's exactly what you mean so it's cool. All the best then and stay blessed" Me: "I'm open to occasional contact but not everyday" Him: "Don't worry I won't be contacting you" Me: "Ok".

 

Some irrelevant info... we were playing words with friends and I asked him if he was still going to play via text and that turned into a conversation in which we were going back and forth about contact and who said what... basically mumbo jumbo. We continue to play wwf but not really talk. I texted him to tell him happy birthday and then... he came to visit my friend's husband and while he was here we met in person. We went out and it was the worst outing ever!!! We were at dinner and he said nothing but "okay" and "yes" to me talking to him and trying to strike up some conversation. The next day he asks for redemption and if he and I can hang out again. I say yes, we hangout and he expresses he wants to date me. Again, I tell him I am not interested in dating or being in a relationship and he says ok, I understand.

 

After that he goes to visit his brother and expresses to me that he had been thinking about me since he had left my state, could not get me off of his mind, complementing me and blah, blah, blah... I tried answering his questions with one word, and now I am ignoring his calls and texts yet he keeps doing it. He even texted me and said that he had tried to call me to ask me if I "wanted to visit him on the east coast for a weekend so we can hangout and get to know each other better." I said "No_____, that's ok, I'm not interested." How can I get this monkey off my back? I am not interested and keep telling him that, yet he continues to text me! He hasn't called in a few days but still he keeps trying and I don't know if ignoring him flat out will help... Thoughts? Comments? Please help!

[SOB86]

He sounds insecure and possibly believes he can convince you to show greater interest in him by pursuing you. If he won't see reason then you can only ignore him no matter how many times he calls it texts. Eventually he'll stop.