irc333 Posted December 13, 2013 Share Posted December 13, 2013 It's kind of funny, I HONESTLY think that women tend to pass over men online that they'd have NO problem getting to know in a public, chance encounter at an event. Quite a few times, I've contacted women in POF that were uncannily like me in almost every way. More conservative views, the love for Sci-FI and comic book characters, movie buff, same humor type, etc. One I recall recently, and she wasn't all that great looking physically , cute smile though, and there was just something about her in her in her eyes that I just "liked'. But she gave me the "Sorry, but I don't think we're a good match" ANd I responded, "How can that be? We have the same likes, interests, etc...why not give a quick meetup?" No reply, but it just boggles the mind...I bet a million dollars that if we had met in person...she'd have no problem giving me her #. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Goomba Posted December 13, 2013 Share Posted December 13, 2013 I think it's a simple case of there's more choice (for them) on there so they can afford to be more picky. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted December 13, 2013 Share Posted December 13, 2013 Women have alot more options then men in old its place where blah looking women go to try to get good looking man. If youre not at least 5'9 as a man with old you might as well be a leper 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mikecr50 Posted December 13, 2013 Share Posted December 13, 2013 I'm amazed at what women use to judge worthiness, if they'll even tell you. One woman couldn't believe I had an outdated pic on my profile, quote from her "who does that in 2013". It's still a pic of me! It was only five years old and not the only pic I had. I had one women talk to me all day, just general conversation then disappear, I waited a few days sent her "I guess you're not interested-lol! Best wishes " she amazingly replied and said "be carefull out there" whatever! You can't take it personally they're doing themselves a disservice. I think most just want attention or an ego boost. Just glad I found out so soon before wasting time on them :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted December 13, 2013 Share Posted December 13, 2013 Don't act like you are not guilty of the exact same thing online. You do it with profiles, they do it with messages. Yes it sucks, but we can't really Change it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 13, 2013 Author Share Posted December 13, 2013 I'm amazed at what women use to judge worthiness, if they'll even tell you. One woman couldn't believe I had an outdated pic on my profile, quote from her "who does that in 2013". It's still a pic of me! It was only five years old and not the only pic I had. I had one women talk to me all day, just general conversation then disappear, I waited a few days sent her "I guess you're not interested-lol! Best wishes " she amazingly replied and said "be carefull out there" whatever! You can't take it personally they're doing themselves a disservice. I think most just want attention or an ego boost. Just glad I found out so soon before wasting time on them :-) Right...and they are doing themselves a disservice, I met a quite a few women, in my area....it's a small rural town...I think they think they've screwed themselves over simply by moving here, because I still keep seeing their SAME mugs on POF every time I do a search.....I have to start seeking outside of my area....because the search results are just a bunch of stupid "reruns". (to draw an analogy to TV shows) lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 13, 2013 Author Share Posted December 13, 2013 ...what's worse is...if they are veteran online daters...or when they take a break and the same women return...they add something to their profile....as if they were already disappointed, "Yeah, I'm back on here again after I took a break from meeting nothing but losers and not any normal guys!" That's when I usually email them, and say, "Ever considered moving?" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted December 13, 2013 Share Posted December 13, 2013 Right...and they are doing themselves a disservice, I met a quite a few women, in my area....it's a small rural town...I think they think they've screwed themselves over simply by moving here, because I still keep seeing their SAME mugs on POF every time I do a search.....I have to start seeking outside of my area....because the search results are just a bunch of stupid "reruns". (to draw an analogy to TV shows) lol If you're noticing them return, doesn't that mean you're also a 'rerun'? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Share Posted December 14, 2013 If you're noticing them return, doesn't that mean you're also a 'rerun'? Oh yes, of course, (I knew someone was going to say that), but that's beside the point. *shrug* But I blame my being there on the site for them not giving me a shot at dating. ;-) Oh the irony. It's their unrealistic expectations that's keeping me single. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 Oh the irony. It's their unrealistic expectations that's keeping me single. But at the same time, there surely have been women on that site who've met someone and partnered up over the past couple years. It's not like there haven't been opportunities. Also, the women you browse when you search out of your area are probably "reruns" for men in their area. Same problem, different place. Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 I think most women view it similarly to online shopping. They are there to score brand name merchandise for a discount. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 When one has too much to look over, it's easy to overlook. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Share Posted December 14, 2013 Not sure what that has to do with the topic at hand...so..just saying...I'm sure they've hooked up with guys that they've claimed to be douche bags or cheated on them...so they're back online for more frustartiong. I even saw with a headliner that said, "Frustrated in <name of town>" , kind of a spoof off of "Sleepless in Seattle" lol But at the same time, there surely have been women on that site who've met someone and partnered up over the past couple years. It's not like there haven't been opportunities. Also, the women you browse when you search out of your area are probably "reruns" for men in their area. Same problem, different place. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elbe Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 damsel in distress is so neglected nobody loves her Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 Not sure what that has to do with the topic at hand...so..just saying...I'm sure they've hooked up with guys that they've claimed to be douche bags or cheated on them...so they're back online for more frustartiong. I even saw with a headliner that said, "Frustrated in <name of town>" , kind of a spoof off of "Sleepless in Seattle" lol I think the women who have the mindset you desire find mates and leave OLD. You need to figure out how to attract one of those types, and do it quickly, because they aren't around for long. Once their gone, what's left (in either town) are the ones with the mindset you don't like. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 I think the women who have the mindset you desire find mates and leave OLD. You need to figure out how to attract one of those types, and do it quickly, because they aren't around for long. Once their gone, what's left (in either town) are the ones with the mindset you don't like. True. There are some quality people that do online dating, but they typically do not stay on there for long. Sometimes they reappear if the guy they were dating turns out to be a dud, so they move on to the next guy, but they generally don't stay on the site for very long at a time. Link to post Share on other sites
mikecr50 Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 I didn't expect anyone to be impressed, have you really changed that much in three years, yeah I didn't think so! Maybe a hostage shot with today's paper would be appropriate-lmao! j Link to post Share on other sites
DropCity Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 My theory/opinion on OLD and at least get an IRL meet is the following... (The order could be mixed.) - Two people are strongly attracted to each other's looks and physique. - Two people examine the other's profile; see similar interests and no red flags. - Two people exchange *successful* correspondence between each other. From the point of an IRL meet forward... dating, romance, relationship, marriage/life partnership, breaking up, reconciliation or coping... this topic gets moved. I'm visual so personally, I feel strong mutual looks/physique will keep two people's interest level high and open minded... in the beginning. From that point forward, anything could sway that strong connection to the good or bad. (My visual perspective could apply if the above order is mixed, if you think about it.) Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
DropCity Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 But she gave me the "Sorry, but I don't think we're a good match" What transpired before you received that statement, OP? An email to her by you, and if so, what did you initially say? Link to post Share on other sites
FrankieFrank Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 True. There are some quality people that do online dating, but they typically do not stay on there for long. Sometimes they reappear if the guy they were dating turns out to be a dud, so they move on to the next guy, but they generally don't stay on the site for very long at a time. Of course that only applies to women, doesn't it? A guy can stay on OLD for indefinite period of time and it doesn't mean he's low quality, but it probably means he might not quite know how to sell himself at the very least. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Share Posted December 14, 2013 (edited) It's irrelevant. It's just a canned answer nothing more. Most women simply don't reply. Also, I'm noticing an increase in disclaimers by women in their profiles saying, "Sorry to apologize in advance, but I don't reply to your message, chances are I wasn't interested and good luck in your search". An already prefabricated disclaimer IN your profile is already off-putting. "Oh hey, by the way, if I don't respond...sorry, I wasn't interested" Thats shows probably the amount of emails they get consistently from men they aren't interested in, and that's A LOT. For those I have gone out on dates with...and I've actually had better responses this year than previous years...told me that their inbox is stuffed mostly with "Hi" or "What's up, let's meet" or just tons of emails. It's not really about selling yourself, because the ones that DID respond AND agreed to go out with me saw something about my profile they liked, and probably saw something they liked about my profile or just simply I knew how to put together my thoughts in an intelligible manner that they saw fit to meet with me. Some have even complimented me with "Thank heavens! Someone that actually is intelligent on this site?!" I won them over with my ability to articulate due to my intellect. Those that don't respond simply don't know a good thing when they see it. What transpired before you received that statement, OP? An email to her by you, and if so, what did you initially say? Edited December 14, 2013 by irc333 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 Some have even complimented me with "Thank heavens! Someone that actually is intelligent on this site?!" I won them over with my ability to articulate due to my intellect. Those that don't respond simply don't know a good thing when they see it. Are those women still on OLD? Link to post Share on other sites
NGC1300 Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 True. There are some quality people that do online dating, but they typically do not stay on there for long. Sometimes they reappear if the guy they were dating turns out to be a dud, so they move on to the next guy, but they generally don't stay on the site for very long at a time. It's really depressing when it's the same women that have been on there for YEARS. Are they just on there for attention? Reject every man they meet? Or are they just crazy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 14, 2013 Author Share Posted December 14, 2013 Are those women still on OLD? Yes they are, why? Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted December 14, 2013 Share Posted December 14, 2013 It's really depressing when it's the same women that have been on there for YEARS. Are they just on there for attention? Reject every man they meet? Or are they just crazy? A little of all of those. Link to post Share on other sites
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