Eau Claire Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 I met my boyfriend on Match and my best friend met hers on Match. Hundreds of thousands of women have met men on OLD. Obviously we didn't 'overlook' them. Re motorcycle discussion...a complete turn off for me. In contrast, sexy is a fit guy on a bicycle. Instant attraction My fellow had photos of himself outdoors, hiking, cycling. My priority was a fit guy with a healthy lifestyle. His profile was witty, creative and he wrote a message that was customized to me and made me feel good. I couldn't wait to meet him. It's not rocket science. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 It's not rocket science, guys. Be what Eau Claire wants and you win at online dating. Get those motorcycles on Cycle Trader stat! Who knew it was so easy. You just are never going to get it. There is no formula for the Guys who are not getting responses. No secrets. They don't understand that they need to reevaluate their approach. My fellow sent one message to a woman...me. Not a hundred messages. Some men know how to present themselves well and make a woman feel special. Others will continue to seek the magic formula among their peers as in 'a hundred ways to win her over'. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkInTheLimo Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Everyone has the right to have their preferences when it comes to dating. I happen not to want a partner who rides a motorcycle. That's my right, just like it is the right of guys to want a woman with big breasts (though I don't think big breasts are a dangerous as driving a motor cycle - hihi). I don't understand why people want to argue about someone's preferences, as if that will make them change those. The only thing one could say is that someone's preferences are unrealistic, as in guys of 50 only wanting Women of 30, or women wanting some guy who looks like George or Brad (none of them being my type BTW). I don't think it is unrealistic to want a guy who does not drive a motorcycle as I still know more people who don't than people who do. Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Everyone has the right to have their preferences when it comes to dating. I happen not to want a partner who rides a motorcycle. That's my right, just like it is the right of guys to want a woman with big breasts (though I don't think big breasts are a dangerous as driving a motor cycle - hihi). I don't understand why people want to argue about someone's preferences, as if that will make them change those. The only thing one could say is that someone's preferences are unrealistic, as in guys of 50 only wanting Women of 30, or women wanting some guy who looks like George or Brad (none of them being my type BTW). I don't think it is unrealistic to want a guy who does not drive a motorcycle as I still know more people who don't than people who do. So true. As an RN who spent a third I'm my career in ER...seen it all. Also, I just prefer a man who gets pleasure out of Nature, hiking, etc. rather than machines. Love going for a walk to look at birds and wildflowers....so romantic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 27, 2013 Author Share Posted December 27, 2013 What's so ironic is some of these people aren't much to look at themselves to want someone better looking than they are. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkInTheLimo Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 I just think using such things as logic gates to friendship and love is a crappy way to live life and treat people... and in fact, I'd say it's more accurate (though I generally avoid it) to stereotype riders by what kind of bike they ride than if they ride or not. You might be surprised by the types of people that ride bikes. Synerjist, why do you keep going on about this? As I said, what makes you think I will change my preferences? I won't! BTW, you also don't seem to get that I have no opinion about someone who rides a motocycle; I don't allocate any personality trait to people who do (I know different types of people do it). My concern is the activity itself, which I consider as dangerous. Having a partner who engages in a dangerous activity might have a negative impact on my life. Same for a partner who eats in an unhealthy way. I have a good life right now, I don't want it to become worse by chosing a partner who participates in a dangerous activity. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkInTheLimo Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 So true. As an RN who spent a third I'm my career in ER...seen it all. Also, I just prefer a man who gets pleasure out of Nature, hiking, etc. rather than machines. Love going for a walk to look at birds and wildflowers....so romantic. Exactly! Thanks, Eau Claire. There are many activities which give me a high, and they don't involve speeding on two wheels or jumping from a bridge or out of a plane. Link to post Share on other sites
Biscous Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 Waste of time for me TBH. I'm deactivating my OLD profiles because it is a time waster and I need to relay more on real life interactions like I have before. Especially since the new year and I'm trying to push my comfort zone. Like I said waste of time. Lot of women look for men who look good 'on paper' if that makes sense, so they will disqualify you for not having X income, height, race, etc. Not saying men don't do it either but some of these woman are ridiculous. This coming from a 6'1'' black male in his early 30s, mid career, and keeps in great shape. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 28, 2013 Author Share Posted December 28, 2013 Not saying men don't do it either but some of these woman are ridiculous. This coming from a 6'1'' black male in his early 30s, mid career, and keeps in great shape. Right, some of these women disturbingly have a profile format, structurally listing what they seek and what they not seek They sound like they have an axe to grind or the profile is so "cold and calculating" its enough to send shivers down your spine as you read it. Even if you ARE her match...going out with her would be miserable regardless, because you're thinking she's just WAITING for you to **ck up and discover a disqualifier about you that she had stated in her profile. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkInTheLimo Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 Except skydiving isn't statically dangerous... what part of that don't you get?! You're unfairly judging thrill seekers because you won't look up the data. More people slip and die in their bathtubs every year. I'm not having a conversation about opinions, I'm having a conversation about facts. Motorcycles are dangerous. I never argued that. Just that things like trackday riders are at much less statistical risk of getting injured and killed than pedestrians and commuters with long workday transits. Date who you want, but your logic is still flawed. If you really care about your partner's safety, do the research. Synerjist, what's your problem? I don't judge thrill seekers, I just don't want them as a partner!!! Just accept it. Facts don't interest me, this is about the way I FEEL about thrill seekers and the way being with one would make me feel in a relationship = miserable. Would you want to be with someone who makes you feel miserable? I don't think so. Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 Exactly! Thanks, Eau Claire. There are many activities which give me a high, and they don't involve speeding on two wheels or jumping from a bridge or out of a plane. My fantasy would be cycling along a quaint country road. The chain comes off my bicycle. Some fit fellow comes cycling along and stops and fixes it for me. Needless to say I've packed a picnic lunch. Cheese, crusty bread, wine, etc. He is famished and politely declines at first but then shares it with me. He then insists that he ride along side me until I get home in case the chain comes off again. However, I know he just wants to be with me. At my place he is the perfect gentlemen and offers to come by the next day to adjust the chain. Sigh...sigh. Even in my 50's still fantasize like a girl of 12. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkInTheLimo Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 My fantasy would be cycling along a quaint country road. The chain comes off my bicycle. Some fit fellow comes cycling along and stops and fixes it for me. Needless to say I've packed a picnic lunch. Cheese, crusty bread, wine, etc. He is famished and politely declines at first but then shares it with me. He then insists that he ride along side me until I get home in case the chain comes off again. However, I know he just wants to be with me. At my place he is the perfect gentlemen and offers to come by the next day to adjust the chain. Sigh...sigh. Even in my 50's still fantasize like a girl of 12. This is better than 50 Shades of Grey . I like it! You'd probably like it where I live because a lot of people cycle in my country . Link to post Share on other sites
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