wanting more Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 I am an XOW. I never worried about xMM BW posting pics or videos of me because there were none. There were many texts between he and I. Romantic ones, and very dirty ones. Had she posted those, id have posted the ones from him. I could've posted the naked pics and videos he sent of himself to me. I've never been a BS (well maybe I was, after my BSO discovered my A, he offered up a few women he said he'd slept with over our years together, but when my A started there were no feelings of love from me to my x so I didn't question him or push for details). No One will Get me to understand posting videos of a WS and OW so I don't think that's worth debating over. But i guess I'd like to know if a couple is reconciling, does that make the decision different than a couple not reconciling 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bootsie Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 ... No One will Get me to understand posting videos of a WS and OW so I don't think that's worth debating over. But i guess I'd like to know if a couple is reconciling, does that make the decision different than a couple not reconciling I wasn't trying to "get you to understand", I was just commenting that many OW and FOW don't understand, just as many BW don't understand why some women go for married men. To answer, your question about reconciling couples I think in some cases it may make a difference. We have reconciled now, but if we hadn't, perhaps I would have taken the exposure level even higher, or maybe it wouldn't have been necessary, because if he'd left me for her then it would have been pretty apparent to everyone what had happened, and there wouldn't have been a need to expose further. I suspect when couples reconcile that it becomes more important to the affair partners, that things be kept secret whereas if there's been a D-day and the couple doesn't reconcile, then the secret's already out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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