his wife is threatening me

[goodyblue]

Don't give her any more reason to be angry with you, but don't give her any power either. Don't talk to him, he is a jerk for not doing anything about her behavior and there is no need for further contact. If she keeps bothering you after you have told her to stop, call the police. Good luck, I hope she goes away.

[vanellope]

ya, she don't owe me anything but I also don't think I owe her anything.

 

in affair not always other woman is evil, her husband told me he want just leave the marrage and take care of the kids with me more than one time, I always told him to think about her feelings and how it would affect his life.

 

I am not the other woman who don't care anything.

 

I simply loved her husband, why she hate me and need to crush my life.

Edited December 16, 2013 by vanellope

[experiencethedevine]

ya, she don't owe me anything but I also don't think I owe her anything.

 

in affair not always other woman is evil, her husband told me he want just leave the marrage and take care of the kids with me more than one time, I always told him to think about her feelings and how it would affect his life.

 

I am not the other woman who don't care anything.

 

I simply loved her husband, why she hate me and need to crush my life.

 

 

 

Do you really need this to be answered???

[vanellope]

Do you really need this to be answered???

 

before the man met me, their marrage already like this, I did not ruin their relationship.

[whatatangledweb]

ya, she don't owe me anything but I also don't think I owe her anything.

 

in affair not always other woman is evil, her husband told me he want just leave the marrage and take care of the kids with me more than one time, I always told him to think about her feelings and how it would affect his life.

 

I am not the other woman who don't care anything.

 

I simply loved her husband, why she hate me and need to crush my life.

 

She hates you because you had sex with her husband. She wants to crush your life because her life has been crushed. Her husband most likely lied. Many MM tell the OW the same thing he told you when it is not true.

 

Your D-Day is very recent. In the beginning the BS is so hurt , shocked, and most times so very angry that they do and say things they would never normally do. Are you still in contact with the MM ? If I were you I would block MM and his BS from contacting you. I would warn my family and ask them to block them from being able to contact them also.

[vanellope]

she knew it half year ago already, but she found the video last week.

 

No contact with this man already.

Edited December 16, 2013 by vanellope

[d0nnivain]

Walk away. I know you love him but nobody is worth this.

 

There are laws against distributing "porn" of another person without their consent. Reming the BS of those laws, assure her that you are breaking up with her husband & do just that. See if you can get her to give you all copies of the video. Go & don't look back.

 

The guy in Q isn't worth this. Even if you love him, he's not sticking up for you, he's taking her side & really what are you hanging on to?

[vanellope]

I was always stand by his side so now I am very hurt by this.

 

in fact his don't care make me more sad than video itself, if he stand by my side I am not so worried if my video be public.

 

he can just say he love me to public but he don't, I know nothing worth now. I just want to forget everything.

[RAN65]

I was always stand by his side so now I am very hurt by this.

 

in fact his don't care make me more sad than video itself, if he stand by my side I am not so worried if my video be public.

 

he can just say he love me to public but he don't, I know nothing worth now. I just want to forget everything.

 

He has " THROWN YOU UNDER THE BUS " as simple as it is.

 

Hereafter don't go for married Men, a lesson for you, what ever the man says.

[vanellope]

thank you for all these days.

 

this drama is end. he wrote me a short message that he deleted the video from his wife's site.

[whichwayisup]

before the man met me, their marrage already like this, I did not ruin their relationship.

 

If their marriage was that bad and he's truly unhappy, why hasn't he taken advantage of the dday and filed for divorce?

 

You and him HAVE ruined his marriage. He is a broken man inside.

[whichwayisup]

thank you for all these days.

 

this drama is end. he wrote me a short message that he deleted the video from his wife's site.

 

Sorry to say this, but you don't think she has another copy of it? You don't know and neither does he. Drama isn't over at all...I don't want to scare you but do NOT think she isn't going to react, even more so now since he deleted the video from her site. All that will do now is piss her off even more and add fuel to her fire.

[Cinnimon]

thank you for all these days.

 

this drama is end. he wrote me a short message that he deleted the video from his wife's site.

Vanellope, don't trust this man anymore, PLEASE. If I were you I would cut contact PERIOD. Whatever is going to happen is going to happen. Like I said before, prepare for the worst and hope for the best. It may be horrible, it may not but I wouldn't live one more second waiting for the bomb to drop on my head. Be proactive hun, not reactive .........Hugs

[wanting more]

I wouldn't trust him at all

 

Kind of hard to believe he's trying to R, yet went in and deleted the video knowing that she knows it's there.

 

Why. Why. Why. Would you let a man video tape you having sex??? I found out my xBSO videoed me. I was pi**ed. I made him destroy it. Even being with him for over 20 years never made me comfortable enough to have a sex video. Why???

 

xMM suggested once a video. Never. He knew I was so against it he never brought it up again. He actually sent me naked pics of himself. From his face to his feet. My xBSO saw them. He did send them to xMM BW, after she refused to believe her husband would ever do such a thing. She still blamed me and said I got him drunk and took them then sent them to myself. I never had a worry that there were any out there of me.

[Cinnimon]

I wouldn't trust him at all

 

Kind of hard to believe he's trying to R, yet went in and deleted the video knowing that she knows it's there.

 

Why. Why. Why. Would you let a man video tape you having sex??? I found out my xBSO videoed me. I was pi**ed. I made him destroy it. Even being with him for over 20 years never made me comfortable enough to have a sex video. Why???

 

xMM suggested once a video. Never. He knew I was so against it he never brought it up again. He actually sent me naked pics of himself. From his face to his feet. My xBSO saw them. He did send them to xMM BW, after she refused to believe her husband would ever do such a thing. She still blamed me and said I got him drunk and took them then sent them to myself. I never had a worry that there were any out there of me.

Wanting More, I'm sorry, I know this is not funny but I just got a mental image of you undressing mm and having him steady his drunken self just so you could snap naked pics of him so you could send them to your self LOL.............REALLY

[wanting more]

Wanting More, I'm sorry, I know this is not funny but I just got a mental image of you undressing mm and having him steady his drunken self just so you could snap naked pics of him so you could send them to your self LOL.............REALLY

 

Well then you should fall on the floor laughing at me finding a hotel he was staying at, in a major city, convincing the front desk to let me in his room, then tying myself to his bed and waiting for him to show up. Then force him, while still tied to the bed, to have sex with me. :-)

 

I gave up Long ago trying to understand how she believed his lies.

[Cinnimon]

Well then you should fall on the floor laughing at me finding a hotel he was staying at, in a major city, convincing the front desk to let me in his room, then tying myself to his bed and waiting for him to show up. Then force him, while still tied to the bed, to have sex with me. :-)

 

I gave up Long ago trying to understand how she believed his lies.

 

OMG........Dang woman, YOU ARE GOOD!!! LOL

[vanellope]

I wouldn't trust him at all

 

Kind of hard to believe he's trying to R, yet went in and deleted the video knowing that she knows it's there.

 

Why. Why. Why. Would you let a man video tape you having sex??? I found out my xBSO videoed me. I was pi**ed. I made him destroy it. Even being with him for over 20 years never made me comfortable enough to have a sex video. Why???

 

xMM suggested once a video. Never. He knew I was so against it he never brought it up again. He actually sent me naked pics of himself. From his face to his feet. My xBSO saw them. He did send them to xMM BW, after she refused to believe her husband would ever do such a thing. She still blamed me and said I got him drunk and took them then sent them to myself. I never had a worry that there were any out there of me.

 

sorry, may i ask what is R and what is BSO?

[Eggplant]

Vanellope -- Relax. She hasn't published the videos yet. She probably won't because she needs to use them as a way to keep you from talking to her husband. The wife, it seems, doesn't want to destroy you. She just wants you to stop causing her marital problems. It's a win-win, because this man is not good for you. She's forcing you from your addiction. You will thank this BS some day.

 

When you start to feel miserable, consider the enormous pain this W is going through. It will make you feel better to know you are doing right.

 

I wish you well.

[vanellope]

thanks eggplant.

 

I am relax now.

anyway trust is away, no worth to stay in this relationship anymore.

I don't care things from this person anymore.

 

I just want to get thought all this as soon as i can and find happiness again.

 

I tell myself I will have better future without this man, and I will meet a good husband who love me unconditionally and only love me in future. I deserve this.

 

when I get marry, I will come here and tell everyone, thank you that support me this time when I feel deep sadness and hopeless, talk it out really help me a lot.

[wanting more]

sorry, may i ask what is R and what is BSO?

 

R. Reconciling.

 

BSO. betrayed significant other

[peaksandvalleys]

So are you saying that as a BS you would want it plastered all over the neighbourhood that your H cheated on you??? I think not.

 

 

I wouldn't care and I don't mind helping with the plastering. Don't want folks to know it then don't do it.

[wanting more]

I wouldn't care and I don't mind helping with the plastering. Don't want folks to know it then don't do it.

 

I've never understood this. Yes, the OW should not be sleeping with your husband. And no OW should ever let a MM video them having sex or her naked. But still, it's YOUR (general) husband who's having sex with the OW. Would the decision to post the video depend on if you're reconciling or not? If not, I could see it not bothering you that everyone's seeing it. But if you are reconciling, would you really want people seeing your husband having ( and enjoying it ) sex with another woman.

[Bootsie]

I've never understood this. Yes, the OW should not be sleeping with your husband. And no OW should ever let a MM video them having sex or her naked. But still, it's YOUR (general) husband who's having sex with the OW. Would the decision to post the video depend on if you're reconciling or not? If not, I could see it not bothering you that everyone's seeing it. But if you are reconciling, would you really want people seeing your husband having ( and enjoying it ) sex with another woman.

 

 

You say you've "never understood this" and perhaps it is because you are an OW.

 

I would guess you're an OW because generally it's OW who don't seem to understand that a BW has already been totally humiliated by her WH's actions in having an affair. Speaking from personal experience I felt so low and so utterly degraded that a bit of publicity about the affair could do me no further damage because I was already so damaged.

 

 

On the other hand, publicity could in fact do further damage to the affair partners, and especially to affair partners who had been so enjoying themselves with each other (as you have pointed out).

 

 

At one stage my WH and the OW exchanged emails in which they expressed the desire for the whole world to know about how much they meant to each other.

 

 

I did my best to give them that wish, but I admit I was focussing more on exposing the OW to her family and work colleagues, as by that time my WH had apologised to me and was doing the hard yards to reconcile.

[Cinnimon]

I think at some point you just have to own it. If BS want to publish it, your not going to stop her. Let her publish it, tell it all, what he said she said, what he did, she did. Give all the sorted details explicitly. Everyone will have to live with their actions. Take back your power!!