Abuse?

[Someoneelse]

Im a small female who slapped my large husbands leg out of frustration. This is the first time anyone has raised a hand in this marriage. Can he call the cops or put this against me in the courts? Will anyone care being that it is female to male....?

[BlametheIrish]

Your size is irrelevant in this matter

He could have called the cops on you.when.it happened

He could still file a report after the fact

 

Yes it matters if someone is abusive, the sex of that person doesn't matter one bit.

Even if you didn't hurt him physically, I'm sure it hurt him emotionally.

 

You need to apologise and do everything you can to.make sure sure it doesn't happen again.

[M30USA]

Your size is irrelevant in this matter

He could have called the cops on you.when.it happened

He could still file a report after the fact

 

Yes it matters if someone is abusive, the sex of that person doesn't matter one bit.

Even if you didn't hurt him physically, I'm sure it hurt him emotionally.

 

You need to apologise and do everything you can to.make sure sure it doesn't happen again.

 

 

Wow, thank you for promoting accountability.

[trippi1432]

Not to diminish what has been stated here, but there is a back story for the OP.

 

Someoneelse - your reaction means that you continue to have your boundaries compromised. Your husband crossed the line in an emotional affair with an ex and continues to try and force himself on you sexually when you aren't even sure if they were physical. The fact that he tells you that you are forcing him to have sex with other women is BS. You are separated, therefore you owe him nothing, including a smack to the leg. I'm sure that didn't just come out of nowhere in frustration, based on your other thread.

 

M30 brings up a good point, accountability. You shouldn't hit him...out of frustration or anything else. Violence just breeds violence....it's a proven fact. And be careful, as a woman, where you tread on this fact because women can be just as abusive as men. My mother is 98 lbs soaking wet, but I've known her backhand.....and no, I'm not talking about tennis. There does come a time in life where all abuse needs to stop and the only person who can stop it is YOU.

 

It's when you get off the abuse bus and let the ones who cause drama, or abuse you ...you LET THEM GO. The other side to abuse is learning not to be its victim and use it as an excuse to abuse others.

 

Being "forced" to go against your boundaries to a man who has been unfaithful..yes, that is frustrating...but if you have to use force to protect those boundaries, it's time to enforce distinct No Contact guidelines. Understandably, you want to reconcile....but perhaps its time to respect you and see him for what he is. Enforcing your boundaries (in your situation) should never mean you have to be physical....it's simply closing up shop, looking them in the eyes and telling them, "I deserve better". And it takes YOU believing that . When someone has already walked away from you, it's okay to walk away, it's not your guilt to carry.