irc333 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Recently, I had been seeing these local yokel women updating their profiles or making constant additions and complaing about how most of the men they've actually started to date and have met on said dating site...when they thought things were going well.....the guy just vanishes or just gets distracted. One woman recently put, "I will not chase you, if you're not the one to follow-up, I would assume you're not interested and move on". The irony of it all is that I've contacted these women and rest assured I'm not the type to play games and great on reciprocation and follow-up...but of course they never respond to me. Sometimes....when they start making these "additions"to their profile...say a year later..I'll contact them again...to see if maybe they'd turn over a "new leaf" of sorts and might give me a shot. Nope...nothing, nada..they wind up stuck dating the ungrateful men that they've been attempting to date and yo-yo-ing back and forth with the dating site. Though, one could simply say, "They saw your photo , they didn't like what they saw and let you be". True...but what does this say about the men, who had been quite impolite with them that they ARE physically attracted to? Attractive men = lack gentleman-like dating qualities Average Joes = treat a woman like a decent human being? Of course, that's just a generalization, but I had heard some statistic on the radio that average looking men tend to make better, more loyal husbands due to them being making up in personality to overcome their looks. Are attractive people , who know they are good looking, tend to take it for granted and thus with a full dance card tend to take for granted the people they date? Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Are attractive people , who know they are good looking, tend to take it for granted and thus with a full dance card tend to take for granted the people they date? Absolutely not. Attractive people are no more or less likely to treat others badly. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Sometimes....when they start making these "additions"to their profile...say a year later..I'll contact them again...to see if maybe they'd turn over a "new leaf" of sorts and might give me a shot. Nope...nothing, nada..they wind up stuck dating the ungrateful men that they've been attempting to date and yo-yo-ing back and forth with the dating site. It sounds like you, too, are stuck going for the ungrateful people you've been attempting to date. Lead by example? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 IRC These women all sound like they want what they can't have. You are willing to date them, give them a second chance, and so on. Write in your profile how the local woman are yokels , and you are too good for them. Do this and they'll come after you to prove you're wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Attractive people aren't automatically going to have derp personalities! That's silly. The guy I found on OLD not only is an incredible person, but also makes me feel like the most important person in the world, and I find him quite attractive. The personality is what drew me in and it's just icing on the cake that he's got a cute face that I just wanna kiss to death. Best of both worlds with him, and I was lucky enough to snag him. I'm so grateful. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BlametheIrish Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 I agree with miss hottie-pants here. The online world is pretty much the same as real life in regards to having every conceivable kind of person there is to choose from. If you're consistently encountering awful people it says more about you than it does about the online dating community. One of my favorite quotes... "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." -Ken Keyes Jr Love the quote! Just like Phoe I met my bf On OLD, and wait for it...... I emailed him first **gasp** We're going 9 months strong and are compatible on so many levels. We had a 91% match on OKC but it was tge fishing pic he posted that made my heart skip a beat. I always search farther away than my city and ut paid off as he lives a half hour away from me. I know me and phoe aren't the only ones who are happy we utilized OLD 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 (edited) Attractive people aren't automatically going to have derp personalities! That's silly. The guy I found on OLD not only is an incredible person, but also makes me feel like the most important person in the world, and I find him quite attractive. The personality is what drew me in and it's just icing on the cake that he's got a cute face that I just wanna kiss to death. Best of both worlds with him, and I was lucky enough to snag him. I'm so grateful. Just a bit of warning Phoe cause I like you, but the really good ones will make it seem like they are very open and that you are the most important person in the world. Because women really do go for that and will freely do...stuff. Edited December 16, 2013 by Imported Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 I agree with miss hottie-pants here. The online world is pretty much the same as real life in regards to having every conceivable kind of person there is to choose from. If you're consistently encountering awful people it says more about you than it does about the online dating community. One of my favorite quotes... The problem IRC is having is he lives in a rural or exurban area. He's not dating in a big metro where their will be every type of person.* Unless he's willing to be pen pals with someone so distant that they may never meet. His problem is that the women in Mayberry think that the men in Mayberry are too country for them, even as they themselves speak with a strong twang. (Or something like that). "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." -Ken Keyes Jr Really :/ so Anne Frank and the people of Nanking met their mirrors? :\ IRC move. Move to a city. If you live in a rural part of the south move north. If you live out west move east. Pull up stakes and move if you can. It sounds to me like your fishing hole is all fished out. People moved and migrated to find mates in the past. It is one of the big reasons people emmigrate to other countries aside from war, and economics. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 It sounds like you, too, are stuck going for the ungrateful people you've been attempting to date. Lead by example? Agreed. As soon as I saw the title of this thread, I thought that these threads could be taken the same way: as whining. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Yes. That is exactly what that quote means. You have most certainly fully understood the meaning and sentiment behind it. Anne Frank was obviously a Nazi. Yes that it is false by demonstration. The OP isn't meeting his mirror. He's meeting local women who think their too good for the local men. He's like Woody Harrelson's character before he went to work at Cheers. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Just a bit of warning Phoe cause I like you, but the really good ones will make it seem like they are very open and that you are the most important person in the world. Because women really do go for that and will freely do...stuff. I know, and thank you for the concern Luckily, everything feels right with him. Truly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 OP, has it ever occurred to you that the messages you send on OLD are going to women who don't exist? All of the "decent folk" are doing the meetup thing now (and boy, am I ever meeting some shallow women at those things). This isn't the 1990s. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 OP, has it ever occurred to you that the messages you send on OLD are going to women who don't exist? All of the "decent folk" are doing the meetup thing now (and boy, am I ever meeting some shallow women at those things). This isn't the 1990s. LOL...well...Meetup would be the lesser of the two evils. Link to post Share on other sites
trevzilla Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 (edited) Meh, I work for Plentyoffish and I don't use online dating. Tried it for a year and just thought it was way too much effort to line up dates. Get rejected by a lot women to get one awkward date that goes nowhere. I'm also a logical kind of person and it's obvious that the ratio of men to women makes it an uphill battle for a man; it seemed obvious that most women were looking to knock it out of the park and get a man who was out of her league in looks and career. It just seems so artificial. I see obvious online dates in coffee shops and it's funny to watch people try and create some chemistry while they make awkward and stilted conversation. I can decide in a millisecond in a face to face meeting if I'm attracted to a woman and go from there. It eliminates hours of messaging and scanning profiles. It works for some people and there are a quite a few couples at work who've met on POF, but I'm old fashioned I guess. Edited December 17, 2013 by trevzilla Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 You should start a thread about all the crazy POF members who were booted off the site. Entertaining! Link to post Share on other sites
John316C Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 Are attractive people , who know they are good looking, tend to take it for granted and thus with a full dance card tend to take for granted the people they date? depends on the way they think. i know the only women who contacted me on POF have been women who similar in physical attractiveness. Link to post Share on other sites
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