Need your opinion on how to hint marriage ideas to a guy and how long to wait for it.

[butterfly29]

Ok, this topic has been discussed here many times. I remember because it is a sore ongoing issue with me right now. A woman wants marriage and her man won't even scratch his head about it or talk about it. Basically looks like he has no clue. Or worse, tries to change the subject if she brings it up.

 

So what should a woman do in this case? What is a good way to give him a hint. And most importantly how long should she wait? I know, marriage is overrated you say, or there is no timeframe, but there is really. Believe me I am trying so hard to convince myself that I don't want to get married and it does work for a while, and yet, I end up at this forum asking questions over and over again.

 

So guys and gals, please help me (and many other lost women out there) out with your opinion about this matter.

[Barby]

I say that you should try suggesting to him that you're very much in love with him and would be very happy to get married/start a family with him in the VERY new future and see how he responds. If he seems open to the idea, casually mention that you'd love to be married by (a date) and then leave it alone...see if he proposes..if he doesn't then I say "he probably won't" I mean those are some clear "hints" and making it clear you want to marry him....

 

I wouldn't "wait for a long time" if that is something you're not willing to do. To me marriage seems to be something people lean on for "security" but the relationship makes it's own security marriage will do nothing to help that.

[So...what?]

If doesnt matter if you are ready vs. he is ready... it matters when you BOTH are ready.

 

You wouldnt want him trying to make you do something you didnt want to...especially a life long committment. If you love him as much as you profess, wait and see what happens. If you cant wait, then its time for you to leave.. and if THAT idea leaves you in a cold sweat, you know that your life is better with him than without him - regardless of a ring. Think of it this way; while he is not legally obligated or bound to you, he has elected to spend this part of his life with you and it appears he intends to continue that trend.. this means he likes you, probably even loves you to put up with the normal back-and-forth up-and-down of a long term relationship. Isnt that all you are really asking for? his love? Well, accept it for what it is and be happy that you have it.

[alexis]

if they dont want to they cant be convinced i tried all the things others have

listed and ran off a guy i cared about with the whole marriage thing.

if it is meant it will happen in time

be happy where you are at and the rest will fall into place.