Friend turn selfish/crazy!

[Notsure_9]

We have been really good friends for almost 8 years. We worked together at my previous job and have been friends ever since. Recently my friend has lost a lot of weight and has become conceited and trying to get attention wherever possible. It's gotten to the point to where she is making inappropriate comments and sharing way to much info about her personal life with basically strangers seeking attention. Our other mutual friends have asked me about it and have told me that they would rather not be around her because it's gotten so bad and it makes some of them extremely uncomfortable. If we do go out for drinks after work she gets wasted and makes a huge scene and we are too old for all that. We have all told her how happy we are that she lost the weight and feels better about herself but it's almOst impossible to give a compliment now. A few have tried to mention some of these things but she always say "well they are just jealous because I'm so hot now and everybody wants me" and another thing is she is married with children and is constantly talking about all the other men that just won't stop contacting her. So my question is how do my friends and I talk to her about this without her thinking we are all jealous of her because I'm afraid if it doesn't stop she's going to ruin a lot of friendships

[SpiralOut]

I used to have a friend who was exactly like this. There wasn't much anyone could do except let her figure it out for herself. She too thought that everyone was just jealous of her. It was embarrassing to be eating dinner at a restaurant and watch her stand up and loudly talk about how she is "hot now." There was an uncomfortable silence which I think clued her in a little bit.

 

 

Your friends have tried talking to her already with no luck. Time to distance yourself until (if) she calms down.

[Notsure_9]

Thank you for the advice. my friends and I have been trying to distance ourselves she will ask to got out and there's just a long uncomfortable silence then we try to change the subject or we go without her it's just so much easier without her there's no worrying about a drunken scene. I just think when she does need somebody and at some point she will there's not going to be anybody.

[mrs rubble]

I had a very conceited ex bf, who used to go on and on about how good looking and hot he was. (He was good looking..BUT...what a pain to listen to!!)

One day his car was in getting fixed and he walked home, he told me that all the car's driving by him couldn't help but stare at him as he was walking because of his good looks.....I said, "I doubt that's the reason Paul. You walk like you have a carrot stuck up your bum!"

That shut him up!!!

Maybe you could tell your friend when she goes on about all the men contacting her...that it's probably her over confidence making these guys believe she's easy! That should give her something to think about.