blocked my ex on fb and changed my number, now I feel so empty :(

[polynomial]

Someone please tell me it gets better, I realise this the only way for me to move on, but it's so hard, now I don't even have the slightest hope of him ever contacting me again..

[kat1012]

now that you've blocked him on fb and changed your number you won't be be having updates of his life, which will help you move on faster. You can focus on yourself, and won't be triggered emotionally because of seeing something on his facebook, and have you feelings messed up again because of him contacting you

 

You don't need to feel empty. you've got your friends and family members, people who truly love you no matter what. Spend time with your friends and family, go out and have fun. Start working on yourself. Maybe get a new hobby and meet some new people. You will soon then move on, and realize that you don't need him to be happy

 

Stay strong

[Fangorn]

Well done!

 

This is such a powerful and positive move in reclaiming your life and becoming happy again! Now you can stop checking your phone to see if he calls or torturing yourself by staring at his social media. It can only get better from here and each day these feelings will pass a little.

 

Remember, Ex's are ex's for a reason, whoever dumped who. Losing someone who doesn't value, respect or appreciate you isn't actually a loss, it is a gain.

[JDPT]

Good job, proud of you. You are correct the whole point is for your ex not to contact you and disturb your recovery process. It's time to focus on you, start sorting things out to make room for progress. You will be ok and in time and with hard work on your end you will come out of this a new and improved you.

[cavalier99]

This is perfectly normal to feel empty after doing this. But it is essential to healing. In fact this is when the true healing begins. Cav

[polynomial]

Thanks everyone. Yesterday I did something stupid, tried to call him (I was drunk and desperate, I know, pathetic) and he wouldn't answer and he didn't call me in the morning either to see what I wanted, I completely lost it, that's when I realised I HAVE to change my number, because I a) didn't want him to text me "stop calling me" or something even worse and b) didn't really want him to call me to even ask what I wanted either cuz that would've set me back.

 

Honeslty I do not know what I wanted when I called him, it was stupid and I realised this must end now.

[cavalier99]

Thanks everyone. Yesterday I did something stupid, tried to call him (I was drunk and desperate, I know, pathetic) and he wouldn't answer and he didn't call me in the morning either to see what I wanted, I completely lost it, that's when I realised I HAVE to change my number, because I a) didn't want him to text me "stop calling me" or something even worse and b) didn't really want him to call me to even ask what I wanted either cuz that would've set me back.

 

Honeslty I do not know what I wanted when I called him, it was stupid and I realised this must end now.

 

Always better to humilate your self soon after the BU than later on! Many of us have done this. Good job getting it out of your system now. Cav

[polynomial]

Always better to humilate your self soon after the BU than later on! Many of us have done this. Good job getting it out of your system now. Cav

 

I'm just glad I didn't send him some mean texts that lingered on my mind after he wouldn't pick up the phone. Now THAT would have been embarrassing

[cavalier99]

I'm just glad I didn't send him some mean texts that lingered on my mind after he wouldn't pick up the phone. Now THAT would have been embarrassing

 

 

 

Hahaha agreed.

 

I sent a few nasty messages the 1st week post BU.

 

After the 1st week or so I wrote dozens.of texts to my ex. Just never sent them. Thank God! It really is futile. Good lesson to learn now. Maintain your dignity and self respect at all cost. It is all you have for the moment after having the sh*t beat out of you by the BU Cav

[polynomial]

Hahaha agreed.

 

I sent a few nasty messages the 1st week post BU.

 

After the 1st week or so I wrote dozens.of texts to my ex. Just never sent them. Thank God! It really is futile. Good lesson to learn now. Maintain your dignity and self respect at all cost. It is all you have for the moment after having the sh*t beat out of you by the BU Cav

 

Thank you for replying to me

 

Yesterday was just hard because I was outside and everything reminded me of him and then it just hit me, that this is it, we're over. And then I got bit desperate so to say. And then it made me angry, like why WONT he pick up his phone?? But I do actually am grateful that he didn't, because that would've been a mess.

[Haydn]

It does get better,. but slowly does it ok? You will be ok. The feelings will come and go, sometimes terrible then like you dont care anymore. Takes time. post here when you feel overwhelmed. Its helped me so much.

[SonOfAGun]

I blocked my ex on FB and deleted her no. a week ago, it was very hard to do but it's definitely for the best. I still think of her quite a bit but I feel a lot better since I took action. Just keep your chin up and keep busy and things will get better

[Shadowburn]

This perceived "emptiness" is the same as emptiness of a turned new page or a slate wiped completely clean. You get to write a new story now, story of your life, without that person who was left in a past for a good reason. Remember, there is always a good reason why people from the our past didn't make it to our future.

[freebird31]

Thanks everyone. Yesterday I did something stupid, tried to call him (I was drunk and desperate, I know, pathetic) and he wouldn't answer and he didn't call me in the morning either to see what I wanted, I completely lost it, that's when I realised I HAVE to change my number, because I a) didn't want him to text me "stop calling me" or something even worse and b) didn't really want him to call me to even ask what I wanted either cuz that would've set me back.

 

Honeslty I do not know what I wanted when I called him, it was stupid and I realised this must end now.

 

We have all made mistakes, been there. Its ok!! So you had to do something a little humiliating to get you to block him. We all do it. Just dont let it happen again. Self-control, self-control. When youre about to call him, ot try to talk to him, think about how you will feel after the conversation is over. How crappy you will probably feel again. Is it worth it to feel that way again? And when you decide to stalk him on social media, same. Think of what if you see something that destroys you and prolongs your healing. Always try to think one step ahead

[fixing]

Someone please tell me it gets better, I realise this the only way for me to move on, but it's so hard, now I don't even have the slightest hope of him ever contacting me again..

 

Hahahaha, i remember this feeling all too well lol. It does get better. And do you know what makes it all the more sobering??? Is if you unblocked or checked back over the last 6 months you will be gutted to see that he/she has NOT reached out.

So this is a concrete step for you to move on. And believe me it will be fine in the end.

[KelC411]

Someone please tell me it gets better, I realise this the only way for me to move on, but it's so hard, now I don't even have the slightest hope of him ever contacting me again..

 

It DOES get better! Not all of the time, but you will start having easier spaces of time. And Im guessing those get longer and longer! I know it hurts really badly to block him. I felt the same way. But I am so glad I am not seeing his life. I think it is helping a lot.

[rosedl]

It get's better.

 

I am in the middle of an awful break up and I still know it gets better.

 

How? I have lived through it before. I never thought I would be able to survive that one. I did.

 

Let me say, I am so proud of you. It is super hard to cut off those avenues that can lead to potential contacts. It is very tempting to keep some type of avenue or excuse for contact open. My ex was doing the dangling me on a string, not knowing if he wanted in or out and tried to keep me around in the background. I didn't want the break up, but I actually had to cut the cord. I had to go over and get all my stuff, leave a note saying I was done being strung along, and refuse his contacts for help with my house. Brutal. Do both the break up and be the broken up with one.

 

Of course, I was hoping he would be at my doorstep begging me to come back and telling me he made a mistake. The silence is deafening, but I knew that was going to happen when I got my stuff. So, I am with you.

 

It is healthy but it cuts off that little bit of hope and with that loss....the reality hits and you feel the grief.

 

It is a brave move. Bravo!