David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 (edited) Hello!First of all I'm from Europe and my english isn't the best, hope you get my story. I met this wonderful girl in 2012, we started dating right away and there was chemistry between us. We had a wonderfull time togeder, hang out a lot, traveled, she met my parents and I did the same.We talked about moving together, getting married at some point and even about having children an what names should we gave them.. In the last month we had a few arguments but nothing that serious, se told me a couple of times that we don't fit and are not made for each other and that I am annoying her. We made up every time, she told me that she loves me and in the last week we planned a trip to the mountains. Out of the blue o a saturday morning, two weeks ago, she texted me that we don't fit and not made for each other, I was crushed,I tried to convince her that I love her and don't what to brake up, later that night we went out with some friends, she ignored me the whole night, I tried to talk to her but she was very distant. Sunday she textede me again that she dosn't what to talk to me anymore and I left her alone. Monday morning he texted me that she misses me and we started to get along again and even planed a trip to another country. Thursday I asked her out she sayd yes, but after an hour she texted me that she dosn't want to go out with me because my caracter anoyes her... A day later I texted her again, I asked her out just to talk but she said no. I got to NC until a weekago when i texted her again to see how she is, she told me that she is over me , and dosn't whant to see me because she will be hurt. The last time I texted her was wednesday, last week she was very distant and told me that we will never be a couple again and I got to NC since then... She never initiate contact with me and saturday blocked me on facebook. She is flirting whit a new guy now and she changed her relationship status from single to It's complicated. I love so much and what her back, I fought for her during our relationship in the last month , brought her flowers, told her that I love her .... I'm so lost and I don't know what to do next... I guess it's game over for me... Edited December 18, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs Link to post Share on other sites
polynomial Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 I am so sorry this has happened to you. But it seems like you#ve got to let her go at this point.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 I know there's nothing I can do at this point to bring her back, I don't understand how she could fall out of love when I love her so much and proved that many times.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 I'd like some advice please... what to do frome here. Is there any chance she misses me? Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 I think you are very young? But she does not want you. Move on dont call her ok. If she misses you then you would be the first to know. I'd like some advice please... what to do frome here. Is there any chance she misses me? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 Well I'm not that young, i'm 26 years old... I know I'm not supposed to call her, but I just don't understand how this happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Thats young, compared to 31. I feel for you but sadly there is nothing to understand. She dropped you. You have to move on. Hard? of course? But you will, you feel like **** now but it will pass. What part of europe are you from? I am in europe as well. Well I'm not that young, i'm 26 years old... I know I'm not supposed to call her, but I just don't understand how this happened. Link to post Share on other sites
polynomial Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Well I'm not that young, i'm 26 years old... I know I'm not supposed to call her, but I just don't understand how this happened. She said you annoy her. I wouldn't contact her anymore. How rude is that, to say this to someone you've been together for so long. Ugh 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 Haydn I'm from eastern europe. I know she is very rude, two weeks ago se told me she loved me, the next day she dumped me by text msg... Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Well ive been dumped like that. Eastern europe and dont say Hungary as that is where my ex is from! I was told i was the the best thing 1 day before she let me go. I think you need some time alone to work out what you want and trust me it is not her! Its not easy but you can overcome this, keep posting here these guys are great and you will see things can be better. QUOTE=David87;5404983]Haydn I'm from eastern europe. I know she is very rude, two weeks ago se told me she loved me, the next day she dumped me by text msg... Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 Well ive been dumped like that. Eastern europe and dont say Hungary as that is where my ex is from! I was told i was the the best thing 1 day before she let me go. I think you need some time alone to work out what you want and trust me it is not her! Its not easy but you can overcome this, keep posting here these guys are great and you will see things can be better. QUOTE=David87;5404983]Haydn I'm from eastern europe. I know she is very rude, two weeks ago se told me she loved me, the next day she dumped me by text msg... How could she say something like that and then dumpe you, that is realy rude...why don't people tell you in your face that they don't love you anymore ... My ex not only blocked me, but my mother and all my friends.. I guess that she's trying to hide that she's flirting with the new guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Its what happens, rude or not she did not need to give me closure. Please try to move on. Remember, she left you with nothing! How could she say something like that and then dumpe you, that is realy rude...why don't people tell you in your face that they don't love you anymore ... My ex not only blocked me, but my mother and all my friends.. I guess that she's trying to hide that she's flirting with the new guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 Its what happens, rude or not she did not need to give me closure. Please try to move on. Remember, she left you with nothing! How could she say something like that and then dumpe you, that is realy rude...why don't people tell you in your face that they don't love you anymore ... My ex not only blocked me, but my mother and all my friends.. I guess that she's trying to hide that she's flirting with the new guy. Well I've been dumped before in 2012, my ex left me for my best friend after a 3 year relationship... I was devastated, then I met this girl and really thought she is the one. I've learn from that experience not to humiliate my self and beg her to take me back and went to NC. Deep down I still think that one day she will text me or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 I hope he is no longer your best friend. This girl does not want you! Move ahead with your life and stop running to her! Well I've been dumped before in 2012, my ex left me for my best friend after a 3 year relationship... I was devastated, then I met this girl and really thought she is the one. I've learn from that experience not to humiliate my self and beg her to take me back and went to NC. Deep down I still think that one day she will text me or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 He is not my friend anymore, they are stil together, but he joind the army, and yesterday my ex from 2012 gave me a really interesting smile.... made me fell good.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 (edited) Ok so I want to share with you the last conversation I had with her 5 days ago. Me: Hi Ex: Hi Me: I just can't let go so easily,I'm used to talk to you. ex:........as you consider:) Me:You left me so suddent and whit no explanation. ex:you know it was tension between us for some time, I simply was not happy, I couldn't stand you, I tried to make it work. Me: why did you say we are going to move together? ex:I was trying to make it work Me: You gave me the impression that you love me and what to be with me.. ex: it just wasn't meant to be, that's life, move on.. Me: Have you moved on? ex:Yes, I am a normal human being. Me: i wish one day to make you happy again.. ex: Is this a joke? we will never be together... Me:we can be friends not strangers. ex:if I see you I might get hurt and prefer not to. Me:If you never contact me again I will understand.. ex: Ok. And that's it since then she started flirting with this other guy and bloked me..... I miss her so much that's why Im posting here... hope to get some advice... Edited December 16, 2013 by David87 Link to post Share on other sites
sw2020 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 She seems to know what she wants. For whatever reason. You have one option, move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 I just want to understand why....why did she said she loved me when she was so unhappy with me....I allways been there for her and allways been nice to her and treat her with love and respect, I guess it's my fault because my happines depends on her.... Link to post Share on other sites
ravssss Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 man up .. .chill down ... i was going through this 3 months back ... she wud be all normal talking to me and i would be over analysing every move from her thinking she is having fun .... and after 1 month of trying to be in touch i jst gave up realizing what i am doing i wud not forgive myself .... i deleted her no. ... put in extra hours in office ... realized i have a life of my own and jst decided to move on ... and stopped thinking abt her by surrounding myself with more and more work ... and i get a text after 10 days .... " So u are happy now right ... without me ... " ... dint care to reply that ... after that next day " Oh i guess u r used to hating me now " ... i mean ... i jst blasted her ... dint abuse ... thats how their mind works .. . they need attention ... if u act like a doormat ... that last inch of respect they have wud also disappear no matter how much ur doing it out of love ... now she has started initiating contact and we met some 6 times but i jst dont want to over think anything .... am happy without her as well ... stop feeding her ego .. jst ignore and reply if u feel like if ur okay handling the weak times of the day ... NC is not my way of dealing ppl .. i wud have given it only if i have no respect for that person ... Link to post Share on other sites
sw2020 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 I can imagine this sucks, but it's a lot of pressure for a woman to have if your happiness is dependant on her. Jesus. In the nicest way possible, you need to focus on sorting yourself out and being happy with yourself. Otherwise next relationship will go the same. Link to post Share on other sites
fixing Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 So sorry for your pain brother. Its very very hard when you are rejected mate. But, right now, it sounds like she has started to like someone else.... I know that hurts, but you gotta be the bigger man now and walk away. She sounds quite cold and clinical tbh, and a little immature with her texting you after and blowing hot and cold. Right now my man, you gotta let this one go. Be strong, and act like you dont give a **** by deleting all her numbers and block her everywhere online. She has made her choice. Please do not contact her again, and do not reply to anymore of her stupid texts either. She will play with your heart and lead you down a very painful path if you allow her to. Its over. Keep us posted on this site and let us know your progress. Stay strong and no contact sir. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 Thank for the replays, she did not initiate contact the last time I did.... and I regret it now... I felt so frustrated and so angry. That night I went out with another girl, first I was feeling good about it but then I felt really guilty I don't know why, may be because I knew that if she found out she would never speak to me again, anyway saturday night I went out again whit this new girl and that is when she bloked me, I thing she found out .... I feel so stupid now and I regret doing that.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 I have two choices now.... 1. I keep seeing the new girl(she really isn't that new I dumped her when I met my ex who dumped me eventually ... I guess karma does really work) 2. I stay single and sort out my problems and hope that one day my ex will text me or something( This is really hard because I love her so much and she means everything to me......omg I'm so sad....) Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 17, 2013 Author Share Posted December 17, 2013 It's day six of NC(two weeks and two days since the BU) and it's starting to be real hard.... She is still flirting with the new guy, but they haven't met yet....I can't understant the status" in a complicated relationship". She post things like "Listen to your brain because your heart is stupid"..... wtf, songs like Bruno Mars - When I Was Your Man, Cris Cab - Liar Liar....A picture of her trying to kiss a kat , but the kat refuses and says "For God's sake, get a boyfriend ..... I am so confused .... Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Author David87 Posted December 18, 2013 Author Share Posted December 18, 2013 One week since i started NC. I can't stop thinking of her.. I go out , I'm trying to have fun I laugh and all my friends say that I'm doing really well .... but they don't know that inside I'm dying each day. She changed her status to single again.... So sad. Link to post Share on other sites
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