Popsicle Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 He paid for the room...I know because he have me the cash and asked me to go to the front desk and check us in..even typing that makes me angry :/ and embarrassed. And he would never see it that way So? When men go to a hooker/prostitute/escort but want to have sex in comfortable private setting with a bed, they pay for the hotel room, plus her fee. This is standard. Link to post Share on other sites
blue963 Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 This is something i am going to memorize, "forget the feeling and remember that you deserve more!" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nothisgirl Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 So? When men go to a hooker/prostitute/escort but want to have sex in comfortable private setting with a bed, they pay for the hotel room, plus her fee. This is standard. I'm really trying not to read into this but are you calling me a prostitute? I know I am really sensitive right now so I want to make sure I'm clear on what you're trying to say before properly responding... Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 So? When men go to a hooker/prostitute/escort but want to have sex in comfortable private setting with a bed, they pay for the hotel room, plus her fee. This is standard. How does that statement help OP? It is possible the comment is a jab from one of the many BS who get a small sense of retaliation by giving an OW an underhanded piece of "advice." Talk about kicking someone who is already down for the count. Really? Nothisgirl, you are on the right path. You are better off living a life of freely loving and respecting yourself. No more sacrificing yourself for a selfish, greedy man. Pity his wife because she is married to a jerk while you are free to find yourself a man willing to treat you as a queen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nothisgirl Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 How does that statement help OP? It is possible the comment is a jab from one of the many BS who get a small sense of retaliation by giving an OW an underhanded piece of "advice." Talk about kicking someone who is already down for the count. Really? Nothisgirl, you are on the right path. You are better off living a life of freely loving and respecting yourself. No more sacrificing yourself for a selfish, greedy man. Pity his wife because she is married to a jerk while you are free to find yourself a man willing to treat you as a queen. So it wasn't just me being sensitive reading it that way? :/ I understand this is an open forum but still....a little overkill? Ugh Ty so much happy stillmore ...he's still trying...showed up at my door Friday night begging to talk ...sending me texts trying to explain himself including sending me login and ow info to all email etc (I've asked him to stop doing this and told him I have no desire to open them) anyways, its hard..so hard but I KNOW this isn't the love I want and I feel strong ...Ty again for your supportive words Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 No problem. That is why we are here, for support and advice. MM has to leave his M on his own accord. Doing things to pacify you right now, just does not cut it. I'm glad you are seeing that. If down the road, he is available then you may consider seeing him again. Right now, his actions are showing he is prioritizing his desire to keep the peace in his M over you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 No problem. That is why we are here, for support and advice. MM has to leave his M on his own accord. Doing things to pacify you right now, just does not cut it. I'm glad you are seeing that. If down the road, he is available then you may consider seeing him again. Right now, his actions are showing he is prioritizing his desire to keep the peace in his M over you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Oops, posted twice. (I did that for dramatic effect.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 How does that statement help OP? It is possible the comment is a jab from one of the many BS who get a small sense of retaliation by giving an OW an underhanded piece of "advice." Talk about kicking someone who is already down for the count. Really? Nothisgirl, you are on the right path. You are better off living a life of freely loving and respecting yourself. No more sacrificing yourself for a selfish, greedy man. Pity his wife because she is married to a jerk while you are free to find yourself a man willing to treat you as a queen. Popsicle is an OW. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Thank you, Tangled web, for clarifying. I don't understand the need to say things knowing it hurts someone even more than they are hurting now. It doesn't help someone who is trying to move forward. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Thank you, Tangled web, for clarifying. I don't understand the need to say things knowing it hurts someone even more than they are hurting now. It doesn't help someone who is trying to move forward. I agree completely. Nothisgirl had a right to be hurt by his actions. I would have been and I would have been insulted by it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nothisgirl Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 I agree completely. Nothisgirl had a right to be hurt by his actions. I would have been and I would have been insulted by it. Ty both...really really appreciated 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nothisgirl Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 Popsicle is an OW. I thought so too which was why her post shocked me so much... Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Popsicle is an OW. Thank you. I was insulted for her. I said what I would be thinking if it were me as the ow. Sorry Nothisgirl if what I said hurt you. You said he wouldn't see it that way several times. Maybe you should tell him (the way i said it too) so he stops. He may not see what his actions look like. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 I'm really trying not to read into this but are you calling me a prostitute? I know I am really sensitive right now so I want to make sure I'm clear on what you're trying to say before properly responding... No no no. I'm calling him a jerk. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Now I feel really bad. I'm sorry Noththisgirl, I know you're already hurting and I made it worse. I'm so sorry. I empathize and was insensitive in getting caught up in wanting to protect you. Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Now I feel bad too for assuming the worst with Popsicle! I sincerely apologize. Group Hug! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nothisgirl Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 Now I feel really bad. I'm sorry Noththisgirl, I know you're already hurting and I made it worse. I'm so sorry. I empathize and was insensitive in getting caught up in wanting to protect you. That's ok ((hug)) I hoped it was a misunderstanding and I appreciate you trying to protect me 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nothisgirl Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 now i feel bad too for assuming the worst with popsicle! I sincerely apologize. Group hug! group hug!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Thanks, Notthisgirl and happy stillmore. Group hug! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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