xxoo Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 I'm glad you're feeling stronger. For what it's worth, he probably can't see the truth, either. He's a sinking ship, and he'll drag you down with him if you let him. Cut him loose. And that includes covering for him! Just....stop caring about his wants and desires. Live your life, hold your head high, and tell him where to shove it. Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 Daisy, It's SO easy to make choices that make us feel good in the moment/s doesn't it. Seems though, that when we choose to turn our back on God, the pain of those choices are or can be debilitating. It sounds like you know God, have a relationship with Him and believe what The Word says. If so, then you know you have sinned by engaging in an A. What does that make you? A whore, a cheater, a liar, a thief, a...... Well, I've got news for you, it may make you any one of those things BUT at the end of the day, you are the same as every other person that is everywhere on the Planet AND just like me, A Sinner. Is this good news? Heck Yeah it is!! If what you say you believe is True, then LIVE the way you say you believe AND Ask for forgiveness** Do we deserve it? No way UhUh but we can Freely receive it. I would definitely call that Good News. So, what do you do after you are forgiven and you have turned away from what has previously separated you from you God? Read what it says to do. Make amends BUT only with the people you have brought knowingly into the A stitch. Like your two friends. They may rejoice with you and help you heal. If they don't then shame on Them for not walking the walk they are talking with their own claims to be Christians. Do Box up the memories and feeling you have/had for a Married Man. But PLEEEASE don't "box up" your heart. That won't do you or anyone else any good and it definitely won't help you move forward with all the love your Savior has to give you and the Good works he wants you to do with everything you have gone through. I Say, Rejoice! You have a New Day and a second chance to turn things into good. And a third, and a fourth and a fifth..... of chances BECAUSE of every day you live. Stay strong Daisy, you have the strength of Heaven upon you when you ask for it!! CIH* Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 Unfortunately, some people are able to compartmentalize their religious faith. They put on their "religious coat" when it suits them, and take it off when it suits them. Their obedience to God is dependent on what coincides with their own wishes. I know a woman very much like this, who was able to go directly from a Bible study to a motel room to meet her married OM. For your own sake, I suggest you switch churches, contact the BS and apologize, and tell the MM to never contact you again. You should also report him to the head pastor. People in a leadership role in the church are held to a higher standard of behavior, and he needs to step down from his leadership role. Link to post Share on other sites
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