megnorman Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 (edited) so my husband and i have been married for one year. we met in the navy almost three years ago. i just ended my service with the navy two months ago in order to be with him and have a family. we have been arguing a lot lately. i blame a lot of it on myself. mostly because i would nag him and not ask for his help with silly things like he dishes or the laundry. i would just wait till i got mad and argue about it. i believe i made him feel bad a lot and i feel horrible about it. now yes, he has done his share of the arguing but i have to live with the way that i act. well two weeks ago he said he wanted a divorce so i went to stay with my parents six hours away thinking that we could use some space. two days after i left he told to come home and pack my stuff up and move out that he wants a divorce and i cant change his mind. he says he wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it with no one to answer to. there has been no infidelity in our relationship just petty arguing. now that we've had some time apart i see the things i could do different in our marriage. and i want to respect him more and make him feel better as a man. i just cant imagine living without him. i cant imagine not ever going to bed without him again. this all makes me sick. i cant eat, cant sleep, I'm so depressed. he has already sent me separation papers, i just want to make him feel good and hate myself for ever making him feel bad to the point that he wanted a divorce. i know he loves me and he tells me he does, but he says that we just cant make it work. i want to save our marriage. please help Edited December 19, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Yarrow Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 he says he wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it with no one to answer to. Well, that just kind of says it all, doesn't it? When you were at the altar and the Reverend asked if anyone knew of any reason why you two should not be wed, he should have put his hand up and said exactly that. Because that attitude is totally incompatible with marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
GuyInLimbo Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 Just curious, how old are the two of you? Sounds like a lot of immaturity here and neither party ready for a lifetime commitment. And STOP putting any blame on yourself. Your husband's comments sort of tell us everything we need to know. He doesn't want to be married, nor is ready for anything of that level of responsibility and commitment. Consider yourself lucky to be rid of this guy now so you have time to move on and find a happy life with someone better who deserves you. You are not to blame. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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